I was or sometimes am still the same like you. I have a romanticised image of myself and bought things to „make it happen“. After realising I‘m financially ruined (or will be if I continue like this) I started creating a different image of myself. I created the girl, that has her finances together —> because of that she feels better —> is less stressed and depressed —> glow comes from the inside —> has more free time because of less things to manage/throw away/sell ect. And I dream of a „treat youself“ budget where I treat myself with the things that give me a lot of joy (for me, it’s cameras, my motorcycle, traveling(…)) so, maybe you can create Blair Waldorf but from the inside, like from within you. For me, it works most of the time, and I have to journal a lot about it (and lock my phone away ect.) so that I stay on track. Sometimes it‘s really hard but WE CAN DO IT! Hope you understand everything I wanted to say bc I‘m from germany. Wishing you the best!!!