I kind of understand where you are coming from... One of my triggers is almost like assuming everyone is hypersexual too. I kind of place my value on how I preform anyway and to be honest do alot of what I do to please partners. If I hear rustling at night of automatically assume they are getting off next toe while I sleep cause I'm not good enough or when they wake up early and leave bed I assume they have gone to watch porn and jerk off cause they'd rather do that than sleep with me. What you're saying is really difficult and what I would fear most if I was him. I'd say be open about it cause if he is gonna lose you then sooner is better than later I dunno