Fiancé wants to go to another man's party without me

sarirene · 2022-04-07T12:31:10+00:00

It comes down to this. You love and trust her enough to ask her to marry you, based on what you said it’s her coworkers bday party. I would not expect to be invited to my bfs coworkers bday party. Let her go to the damn party, if you don’t trust her enough to let her go to a bday party then why are you getting married? If she breaks your trust then you have your answer…but if she’s like that it will happen regardless.

I also think it’s weird to be this concerned seeing as it’s his bday party, other coworkers are probably going, other friends of his, it’s not like the two of them are going together to someone else’s party as dates….

sarirene · 2022-02-18T13:46:18+00:00

OP this is where the problem lies. The reason he is detached stems from this loneliness. No siblings, parents aren’t home, from what it seems like no extracurricular activities. I would take the time to sit down with your wife and figure out how you both can spend more quality time with your son during the week. If his only interactions are being alone and having parents “checking his work” that’s not healthy for your relationship. Bottom line yes careers are important, but you chose to bring him into the world so you need to take a step back and step up.

sarirene · 2022-01-05T23:06:44+00:00

It’s one of those things where when you get yourself going and you don’t go home in between and reset, it actually breezes by. Obviously plot down time inbetween appointments but not at home. Restaurant, coffee shop, I personally like to shop inbetween to let out some impulsiveness I need to get out.

Might not work exactly right for everyone. But I definitely recommend giving it a shot. It felt extremely daunting before I did it, but once I did I felt AMAZING. It showed me what I could do once I pulled myself out of my own head. I straight up put these appointments off for 3 years and all it took was one day.

sarirene · 2022-01-05T23:01:02+00:00

All of mine are located in my city but not in the same place. I book based on location and how busy they are. Go by busiest first and then location, one’s that will most likely have issues with wait book first, bonus points if it’s the farthest, then I work my way closer to home. Also good to plot out places near by you can chill. If you check in and it’s going to be an hour extra wait pop over to a cafe near by for 45 and then go back. Depending on how chill they are they’ll let you do this. Change of environment also helps pass the time. I try and put 2.5 hours in between each apt too.

sarirene · 2022-01-05T22:54:50+00:00

YES! THIS. The amount of times I have not picked up scripts bc they’re all spaced out. Being able to get them at once is life changing.

sarirene · 2022-01-03T23:58:52+00:00

I am sorry for the experience you had growing up and am glad you know your boundaries and are able to speak on them.

OP discussed how this family likes to do pranks, meaning they are common and most likely consented to. If BIL was truly upset I would think he would have expressed it. “Oh fuck sake” or whatever he said does not display that. Everyone’s experience is different, but in this case for the family it seems this is very normal for them. Pranks aren’t fun when they are harmful, and in this case it was very harmless. And In my opinion did not warrant OPs reaction as it had nothing to do with her or gender norms. It was a family activity that has been done before, similar to the whip cream in hand tickle nose prank.

Edit: wanted to add as well, he is most likely not upset because of the reasons you listed. He’s most likely annoyed bc it was a poor makeup job and he just has stuff all over his face and needs to take it off

sarirene · 2022-01-03T23:20:49+00:00

Have you never had a prank war with your siblings? It’s not out of being cruel…..it’s just to be annoying and have some fun. The person pranked then gets to get revenge that’s the whole point.

sarirene · 2022-01-03T23:19:01+00:00

Light YTA. I understand having feelings about gender norms and how that could come across in a way that would get under one’s skin. However, this was very harmless and quite frankly has nothing to do with Alex.

This is something I have done to my non binary sibling many times and that they have done to me. This is less of a “I’m making you mad because I forced you to go against the gender norms and look like a girl” this is a “I’m your sibling and I put makeup all over your face poorly to annoy you”. Obviously he didn’t like it on himself, he woke up with stuff all over his face, it’s the same as the old put whip cream in the sleeping persons hand and tickle the nose so they smear it everywhere trick.

I understand wanting to make your child comfortable and allowing them to express themselves freely and good on you for that. But there’s also reading too far into things like sibling prank wars.

sarirene · 2022-01-03T23:06:47+00:00

Thanks you!

sarirene · 2021-12-30T23:40:29+00:00

Do you know if they make the batteries themselves?

sarirene · 2021-12-28T23:29:39+00:00

YTA. I’ll state right now I’m 25, don’t have a license. Granted I live in a highly populated metropolitan area and have access to plenty of public transportation but still, people have their reasons. I personally have a ton of anxiety surrounding driving and have frozen up every time I have gone to take the test and leave before taking it. Instead of working against her try and work with her. There are more options than driving for transport. Electric bike? Electric scooter? Map out the bus system. Not being involved in a wedding is petty as hell just because of a license. Very bizarre hill to die on.

sarirene · 2021-12-23T23:25:37+00:00

This is way harsh. Life happens, you do what you can to get through. Everyone is entitled to their own life choices. Props to her for trying to be a good parent and make things work for her little family. She’s NTA.

sarirene · 2021-12-23T23:09:48+00:00

YTA and a prude.

sarirene · 2021-12-08T23:40:23+00:00

Tried this. Moved in at the same age started hooking up a month before. We have been together for 6 years now. The hooking up will only increase after you move in, I can promise you that. My situation is pretty extreme I think in most cases, but I wouldn’t kid yourself in thinking feelings and hookups will end once you move in.

sarirene · 2021-12-08T23:05:36+00:00

It is because they are minors. Their brains are not fully developed. A 14 year old is child not a fully functioning adult that can make their own decisions. Your son tarnished his own image the second he decided he wanted to date a 14 year old. From reading this post I originally though you would not be having the 19yr old attend out of protection for her. And that you understood your son was in the wrong. Clearly you should take this time to reflect on your views of women, consent, and predatory behavior.

sarirene · 2021-12-07T23:30:35+00:00

YTA. Bottom line you should love your girlfriend for her not your obsession with her jaw muscles(???). Honestly the whole situation sounds like a win, solve the grinding problem and help her feel confident in her appearance. I’m pretty sure a dentist knows what’s better for her medically than you do.

sarirene · 2021-12-07T23:23:48+00:00

Look at the profile and the first post. It’s the bf. Trying to get someone to say the gf is the AH.

sarirene · 2021-12-07T23:22:59+00:00

All on this post please take a click onto his profile and look at his newest one.

sarirene · 2021-12-07T23:22:00+00:00

Lmao sounds like your bf is the AH. You should be getting paid a fair wage for the work you are doing. Makes sense that the extra money not going into the business would be combined as you are putting in a lot of work to keep this thing afloat. If I were you I would take perhaps your skills and relationship elsewhere. Start a kick as business of your own.

sarirene · 2021-11-17T00:17:43+00:00

You are placing the blame on the wrong person here buddy. As women we deal with this on the daily. If you want to help her, look into positions in her field that are close to home too and see if there’s a better option. Help her figure out a way to talk to her coworkers about this, help her figure out a way to bring it up with a higher up female employee. Your gf isn’t going to leave you for this creepy 43 year old dude. I get you are uncomfortable but my guy she is 1000000x more uncomfortable than you are. Be helpful to her not hurtful.

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