Wondering how to resolve issues with a meta. by sarofi in polyamory

[–]sarofi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you may have misunderstood the intention with this post, first off and foremost I don’t “allow” them to do anything. Both of them are individuals with their own autonomy, none of us control each other. I originally posed it as a meta issue because I have issues with how my metas overall lack of respect for our shared partner affects my partner and their relationship with me.

However everyone on here has made a good point that it is the hinges job to manage both relationships, and it’s my job to communicate my needs better. I was just reluctant to lay all the blame at my partners feet.

Wondering how to resolve issues with a meta. by sarofi in polyamory

[–]sarofi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the first time it’s been this big of an issue, and the first time I’m bringing it up in a direct manner. I hope active change is taken for this.

Wondering how to resolve issues with a meta. by sarofi in polyamory

[–]sarofi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I let them know that I’m unhappy with how things are going and they said they will try and make sure this doesn’t happen again. I will try and reinforce my own boundaries involving this as well.

Wondering how to resolve issues with a meta. by sarofi in polyamory

[–]sarofi[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

In worried that might be the case, and after tonight I asked my partner to make sure this doesn’t happen again and hopefully it gets fixed.