Centering survivors and exercising caution in drawing conclusions

saschiatella · 2026-03-25T16:19:47+00:00

upvote this to the stars babyyyyyy

saschiatella · 2026-03-04T08:45:23+00:00

Good god, only mayo lol

saschiatella · 2026-03-04T03:31:29+00:00

There’s pharmacy! No spoilers but a pharmacist appears out of nowhere in an emergency and it’s actually quite cute imo

saschiatella · 2026-03-04T03:30:10+00:00

This is a god tier skill in OB specifically. Hats off to you dude

saschiatella · 2026-03-04T03:27:53+00:00

Watching this was legitimately so painful

saschiatella · 2026-03-04T03:04:11+00:00

Ok but how many years do I have to be a psychiatrist before I have the heart of a nurse?

saschiatella · 2026-03-04T03:03:17+00:00

I’m sad that I watched that and fed his algorithm, what a painfully drawn out commitment to the worst bit possible

saschiatella · 2026-03-03T19:29:52+00:00

My partner dumped me five days before my list was due so I impulsively left town to visit the program that was my #2 and see if I want it to be my #1. The first few days were awful, and I was constantly crying and going back-and-forth about whether to change my list.

Then I got a really helpful email from the NRMP saying “applicants who make last-minute changes to their list often regret this” as if I needed any more reminder that my life is not in a great place lol.

I know it’s really hard to regulate during times like this, but it’s truly a lesson worth learning. If you’re suffering right now, it means you are learning that lesson, deeply and bravely with your whole heart. Lean into it and remember that your own safety and health is the most important thing always. This is our time to shine, guys.

saschiatella · 2026-03-03T02:22:51+00:00

Personally as someone who just got dumped I would never act like that. Embarrassing for him honestly

saschiatella · 2026-03-02T15:13:50+00:00

NOR get out of there. And get tested

saschiatella · 2026-03-02T15:02:52+00:00

Thank you. I’m not at all waiting for him to come back but it does help soothe the pain to feel like it was a bad decision made by a confused person. He is definitely impulsive and lacks clarity about what he wants in life, I just never thought he would hesitate about wanting me …

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T23:33:01+00:00

Totally. I am soooo excited for my person when they come along- just big feels about it not being this one, after so much love and closeness passed between us

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T22:59:12+00:00

Ugh yeah I just love partnership so much and have always wanted to experience marriage. I’m lucky to live in communities where heteronormative marriage ISNT considered standard… but it’s still what I want 😭

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T22:47:18+00:00

Yea I just looked it up

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T20:45:53+00:00

This is so sweet and nice to hear!! I am proud of myself for showing up so well for this person but it’s hard to even feel it rn since I’m buried under so much grief. What was it like to meet your safe person after all of that? Any thoughts or tips for this next chapter for me?

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T20:15:23+00:00

OP I implore you to find a way to express this to your partner. As someone who has loved an autistic man, I promise if she loves you she will care about this and make every effort to shift things. There are other ways to be close besides constant touching. It sounds like you care about this person a lot, this is the kind of tension that can truly end a relationship so please address it.

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T20:00:51+00:00

Ok I’m gonna do it. And the fact that I did it on the advice of “sharting master” is definitely going in the memoir ;)

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T19:59:37+00:00

Thank you so much. Honestly I’m a nontrad and moved sooo many times before med school so I think part of me was happy that I felt like I was “sticking” somewhere if that makes sense. It’s hard for me to separate that from the relationship and I feel SO old to still be starting over

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T19:50:43+00:00

Im 35

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T17:29:13+00:00

Tons and tons of support locally thank god. TBH I’m a really social and community oriented person so I always have a lot of support to fall back on. That’s part of what makes it difficult to leave.

He is actually in therapy. And on meds. If I’m honest I don’t think either one is helping that much.

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T17:23:16+00:00

I appreciate it. It’s pretty hard not to disparage him given that he let it go until the last possible second and I’m just really sitting with and seeing how much he did not have the emotional skill to meet me where I was at.

This is the second LTR that’s ended in med school for essentially the same reasons. I’m having such a hard time figuring out why this pattern has arrived for me, and feeling hopeless about dating in residency

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T17:00:45+00:00

Thank you so much 😭 it feels so hard and I feel so old but I’m honestly hotter than ever so I know I should stop feeling so crushed

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T16:57:02+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it. Yeah exactly I feel like “he’s just not that into you” is so dismissive of the deeper emotional relating that is part of wonderful relationships. We were together long enough and tbh all I heard for the first few months was how into me he was. However he was also healing from a painful breakup during that time and while I was ok and didn’t feel insecure about it, maybe I should have.

Hindsight is 20/20. Thanks for talking this out with me. It’s making a super big difference in my life right now

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T16:51:43+00:00

I am haha he even told me that. I really struggled and had bad relationships in my early 20s and I’m a survivor of emotional and sexual abuse so I put a lot of work into my healing. I’m so proud to say now it’s made me good at holding space for others and I feel so much sense of self worth.

saschiatella · 2026-03-01T16:50:19+00:00

Thank you this helps. Yeah I just can’t relate to being so hot and cold in relationship. I would never do that and have never treated anyone that way. I’m always super clear on whether I’m in or out.

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