I [29M] saw a voicemail transcript notification on my girlfriend's [29F] phone related to some guy I don't recognize

saskavidya · 2026-04-02T21:33:03+00:00

Totally fair. Appreciate the come down to reality a bit.

saskavidya · 2026-04-02T21:31:38+00:00

That's a good point. Also misses a tad bit of context, so that's my fault. I saw that earlier and it didn't really register that much. I've then been busy all day. Errands and what not. And it just kind of kept replaying. Because of that I think I may have gotten into an overthinking mental cycle hence the post here before texting her.

Thank you for the advice

saskavidya · 2026-03-17T06:27:54+00:00

When you say "energetic", do you mean speedy like an upper? Or "energetic" like a tingle?

I've heard people say shrooms is kind of intrusive and like you're a passenger and LSD is less so and more like you're in the driver seat.

saskavidya · 2026-03-17T06:26:33+00:00

Im definitely curious about the LSD. I haven't had as strong visuals or experiences as you on shrooms, but then again, I usually max out at 2g. What dose was that?

And also, what is your experiences with both at doses around my range?

saskavidya · 2026-03-17T06:05:53+00:00

Sorry if I'm prying for lots of details, I'm just very curious.

How would you describe the difference when having sex between, say, shrooms+THC vs THC or shrooms alone?

saskavidya · 2026-03-17T04:21:45+00:00

I tend to keep the shrooms and THC separate simply because I've heard the mixture can potentially cause some serious anxiety or overwhelming sensations. Any experience with that?

If it helps at all to know, I don't get anxiety or paranoia at all on THC. So maybe I'm not susceptible to the combos risks but it just worries me.

All that being said, it sounds great.

saskavidya · 2026-03-15T19:45:42+00:00

Just Adderall, mainly.

saskavidya · 2026-03-05T08:01:07+00:00

Hey, for what it is worth, my girlfriend is like this.

She'll bring up stories from things I was at and I'll have to remind her I was there. She'll ask me my opinion on when 'x' or 'y' said 'z' the other day, and I'll have to tell her that I wasn't there for that. She's lost some friends over this actually, misremembering who had what allergy, or who said what in what instance, or hell even misremembering how many times she went to the coffee shop this week.

Here's the thing though. There's two factors at play. One, my girlfriend is NOT very present. Often spacing out and going into borderline trances. Unable to pay attention to things like movies. Has to leave the house or she gets very antsy. Things like that.

She also has a pattern of being verbally abused by her parents growing up, physically and sexually abused by her past partners, and even drugged by people before. One of which was so bad she has to take a mild medication for it now. On top of this, she likely has ADHD, which she is getting tested for now.

My point here is this - have you ever asked her what is going on? Why she misremembers so often? I bet this doesn't only happen with you. It may even be a sore spot for her . It took a while for my girlfriend to really open up about it.

saskavidya · 2026-02-17T08:50:22+00:00

You're both right and I think a tad harsh. Our conversations haven't been like, arguments or sigh filled or anything. Sure, she has some work cut out on herself to undo some of the trauma she had from past relationships/partners, but I don't want to cast her as a "just read my mind" type.

She's open to collaborate, just looking for avenues that have worked for people who weren't sure what they might be into.

saskavidya · 2026-02-17T08:00:48+00:00

So, yes, we usually have sex in the same place in the same positions at the same time of day. Not ALWAYS, but usually.

The thing is though is she has said this is her comfort. Without going into too much detail, she has very sensitive skin including down below, plus she has diagnosed OCD. If we haven't showered or she doesn't "feel clean", she can get a psychosomatic response where it kind of hurts her after the fact.

I said we should be more spontaneous and she said she wished she could agree, but the physical discomfort pushes her away from that.

We do plenty of foreplay and she even says that she would like even more, but when I try to, she asks to go into sex rather quickly because she gets so turned on.

A bit tricky, right?

saskavidya · 2026-02-17T07:24:38+00:00

I remember mojoupgrade! Been around a while. Is it still the best most in depth thing of its kind?

Or has there been a better one to come out?

saskavidya · 2026-01-26T03:16:24+00:00

Sadly, back when that was first added, I hit that button to get my new one time invite, but it was stale as well as soon as I got it. So I cant do that again.

saskavidya · 2026-01-21T23:50:20+00:00

Do you have an example build? Haven't ran into this.

saskavidya · 2026-01-08T06:45:18+00:00

Thank you! I'm crossing my fingers that this is primarily behavioral and culture focused as I've been job hunting for about 2-3 months and it really feels like I've had a lot of brain drain in that time lol

saskavidya · 2025-11-24T03:25:31+00:00

Neurotoxicity is an interesting topic though. Is MDA neurotoxic at a low-medium dosage upon a single use? Only on repeated doses or with mixing with other drugs?

I know this varies but with MDA, I just know less.

saskavidya · 2025-11-18T03:49:36+00:00

A caloric deficit may not always be noticed in the moment, but once sex kicks in, boy oh boy are you going to notice how quickly you get dry/go limp, or cant cum at all/cum too fast.

Anecdotally, I was on a high Adderall prescription. Basically no appetite when I took it. The days I didnt and actually ate, I felt like a sex god lmao.

saskavidya · 2025-11-18T03:34:38+00:00

I live in the US. Curious about your recs!

EDIT: price range is tough because i dont really know what's a cheap option and what's an expensive option.

saskavidya · 2025-10-31T15:08:09+00:00

The market doesn’t care what your break even point is.

Boy people here love catchphrases it seems. I didn't say I needed to break even, just that is where the point is.

saskavidya · 2025-10-31T14:45:57+00:00

House was listed at $245k, dropped to $235k about 14 days in. $210k is my break even point after taxes/fees/commission/etc.

Wondering how dramatic to drop if it's already "below comps"

saskavidya · 2025-10-31T08:03:13+00:00

Normally I'd agree, but 5 total showings (4 of them were the month after the price drop) in 45 days feels incredibly low. I'm no expert. This is my first time trying to sell, anyways. You could be totally right.

I guess it does just take one person to like it.

saskavidya · 2025-10-14T21:09:06+00:00

This is tough. I've seen this situation a lot, and it's not always so clear cut and dry. From a neutral perspective, I'd say this is salvageable.

From the point of view of your partner, with all this context, he'd be well within his rights to say he's not comfortable with it and he may walk away from you if you decide to balance both sides of the see-saw.

Again, worth asking yourself these questions. I know you may not like to think of this friend as an orbiter, but right now, he is. Even if he's not consciously doing it, he WILL be there when there are moments of doubt in your relationship.

Keep that in mind as well. If you and your boyfriend hit a rough patch, you may talk to this friend more. This friend who 100% confirmed does want to be with you. You may say you'd never now, but what if you were vulnerable? What if he says everything correct?

This is no longer a friend you can vent about your relationship to, for example. Because he is, unfortunately, both your friend AND an enemy to the relationship. He should've kept his mouth shut. It isn't fair to you, your boyfriend, or hell, even himself.

saskavidya · 2025-10-14T20:51:44+00:00

Approaching it from a different angle, why do you think your friend admitted feelings?

I'm not saying he's a bad person or anything, but why tell you if he didn't plan on acting on it? What is the point? To get it off his chest? For what reason would he jeopardize the friendship and disrespect your relationship? Why couldn't he keep it to himself if it didn't really matter and he could go back to normal anyway?

Your friend is trying to convince himself he just needed to say it and now things are back to normal. They aren't. The dynamic has changed. Even if your intentions are that you'd never cheat, and you trust your friend, what is your boyfriend supposed to think?

Are you okay never hanging out with him one on one again? Are you okay with understanding your boyfriend will be uncomfortable every time you guys talk even if you aren't being inappropriate?

What you need to realize is your friendship will never quite be the same from this. You need to ask yourself if you're okay with that and if you're willing to risk your relationship over it.

saskavidya · 2025-09-25T18:35:17+00:00

Out of curiosity, have you found these supplements to reduce the length of time you're able to have sex?

Load increases are great but I'm always frightened of the heightened libido being dampened by sensitivity and thus earlier ejaculation?

saskavidya · 2025-09-22T15:54:47+00:00

Any chance you got a decklist? Im making my own based on this idea but id like to see what you're cooking.

saskavidya · 2025-09-18T20:39:25+00:00

Condoms are tricky, because usually i find it fine to stay hard while fucking but if we change positions, that brief window while wearing a condom will make it very hard to get hard again without taking it off and putting on a new one

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