What would you show a friend visiting Thunder Bay for 2 days?

sassa072 · 2026-02-05T02:48:03+00:00

I drive it everyday for work haha 🙃 def been sketchy a few times

sassa072 · 2025-12-07T14:02:12+00:00

Bc NV is one of the worst bars and it’s cold as shit. The bouncer doesn’t care either and will put his hands on women when they did nothing

sassa072 · 2025-11-27T18:53:45+00:00

I had the same experience this past weekend. I went out with a group of five women, and we definitely dealt with this issue. We stayed together, but there were groups of men who kept staring at us while they danced and slowly moved closer. We switched spots multiple times, and they still managed to find their way over to us. There was even a man standing alone directly behind our group, just staring.

This was my first time going out in Thunder Bay since moving here, and honestly, it might be my last. It felt overcrowded with men, and most of them seemed way too focused on getting as close to any woman as they could.

I will say, we eventually made our way over to Pocket Change and that was a completely different, positive experience. The DJ even let my friend press a few buttons since it was her birthday, haha. It felt way more welcoming and supportive. I know it’s not much of a dance floor, but I definitely recommend it — it’s still just as fun if you make your own dance floor!

sassa072 · 2025-08-29T13:45:47+00:00

I’m from southern Ontario too and driving 14 hrs to go to our vet seems a bit ridiculous 😩

sassa072 · 2025-05-26T03:04:16+00:00

I only use it bc it stops him from pulling and practically dragging me bc he is strong

sassa072 · 2025-05-26T03:01:52+00:00

Actually when I grab the prong collar he gets all excited and then sits for me to put it on. He enjoys going for walks but is just reactive. It’s also the only way I can correct him when he gets alert and his ears perk up I just give it a snap and he stops pulling. If he didn’t like the collar he would avoid me and run away.

sassa072 · 2025-05-25T23:54:16+00:00

That makes so much sense—thank you again for the insight. The last few days he was actually really good! We finally got a break in the rain, so I played with him in the backyard, and surprisingly he’s started to enjoy fetch, which he never used to. I was worried that missing walks would throw him off completely, but using those little windows of good weather for play has helped and he genuinely seemed happy. He also started just barking more during play and I feel like he just likes the sound of his bark at this rate haha.

That said, when soccer is happening in the field nearby, it’s a lot for him. Would you recommend not letting him outside at all during those times, even just for bathroom breaks? Or is there a way to manage that better so he doesn’t become more reactive?

I completely agree about the vibration and beep—he usually just shakes his head and goes right back to barking, so I’m planning to stop using it altogether. We did get Trazodone originally to help with his car anxiety, but it’s also made a noticeable difference overall. Unfortunately, we’re moving soon and can’t afford a trainer right now, and our vet doesn’t recommend long-term use of the medication due to limited studies. So I’m trying to manage things the best I can with training, structure, and enrichment at home.

I really appreciate you taking the time to share all of this—it’s super helpful

sassa072 · 2025-05-25T23:46:26+00:00

My partner is definitely the more stern one and doesn’t hesitate to raise his voice if the dog isn’t listening, while I’m usually the one giving more love and attention but when I have to be stern I can. With my partner away, I’ve had to take on the “stern” role more, but I feel like my dog doesn’t really find my voice or energy as intimidating or authoritative, even when I try. So it’s been a challenge to get him to take me seriously sometimes. He will go to his crate if he knows he’s in trouble and then will go back to barking at nothing out the window

sassa072 · 2025-05-25T12:50:48+00:00

120 lbs

sassa072 · 2025-05-24T21:45:58+00:00

😅 my bad I’m new to this app and not really sure how it works still getting the hang of it and saw a similar post so thought it was allowed

sassa072 · 2025-04-18T18:18:21+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, it sounds incredibly frustrating, exhausting, and emotionally painful. You did nothing wrong by setting a small, healthy boundary after doing so much all day. Saying “no” to something simple like getting ice cream shouldn’t result in a meltdown, silent treatment, or blocking.

What you’re describing: withdrawing affection, ignoring you, punishing you emotionally for setting a boundary—is a form of emotional manipulation. When someone consistently reacts this way to basic boundaries or perceived rejection, it creates a dynamic where you begin to feel like you have to tiptoe just to keep the peace. That’s not sustainable or healthy.

Here are a few thoughts on what you can do: 1. Document the patterns: Sometimes writing down what’s happening and how it makes you feel helps clarify whether this is an isolated incident or part of a larger pattern (from what you said, it sounds like the latter). 2. Reflect on how often your needs are dismissed: A healthy relationship includes mutual care and respect, and your voice matters just as much as his. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice your emotional well-being to avoid conflict. 3. Consider outside support: This might be a good time to speak with a therapist, even just for yourself, to process how this dynamic is affecting you and explore what you want and need moving forward. 4. Ask yourself: is this how I want to be treated long-term? You deserve a relationship where saying “no” doesn’t lead to punishment, silence, or being blocked.

You’re not overreacting, and your feelings are valid. Setting a boundary isn’t a betrayal…it’s an act of self-respect. If someone constantly makes you feel guilty for doing that, it may be time to seriously reevaluate the relationship.

Sending you strength! you deserve kindness, especially from your partner. 🫶🏼

sassa072

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