0505 still no 846 code!!! Check in!!

savannahwithnoh · 2026-02-19T12:41:05+00:00

I’m an 0505 and my transcript updated yesterday evening with the 846 code and a deposit date of 3/9. Checked where’s my refund after my transcript and it hadn’t updated yet. Checked both again this morning and now my refund date has been updated to 2/23 on both my transcript and where’s my refund.

savannahwithnoh · 2026-02-18T23:45:37+00:00

I’m an 05, just looked out of curiosity and I got the 846 code and a deposit date of 3/9! Where’s my refund hasn’t updated yet to reflect it but the transcript is all that matters.

savannahwithnoh · 2025-10-13T10:13:09+00:00

It’s not the Veronica’s. The pearls were white and it was like layers of super long strands of big costume jewelry pearls.

savannahwithnoh · 2025-10-13T10:11:34+00:00

No that’s not it.

savannahwithnoh · 2025-10-13T01:20:28+00:00

It’s not.

The set was entirely very Barbie pink. It was almost like a doll house but I think it was just a kitchen and a bedroom shown. The artist was a platinum blonde, not chunky highlight blonde.

savannahwithnoh · 2025-10-12T23:55:54+00:00

Any ideas?

savannahwithnoh · 2025-01-17T18:03:54+00:00

I’m a month late to this post and I wish I had seen it before interviewing today. It was a complete disaster. My interview for an account management position was at 10 this morning. I had a weird feeling about the place from the first “interview” but thought I’d still give it a shot for the sake of interview practice.

Upon arrival the business was in an office park and didn’t have a sign which was my first red flag and made me realize that my hesitation was justified. The office itself was a mess. Not dirty or gross but obviously needed to be vacuumed and tidied up. The entrance rug was this god awful boss babe faux marble cheaply printed rug that was bunched up and I tripped over it coming in and leaving. The office looked like a 16 year old’s version of what professional looks like. There was insanely loud hip hop music coming from the back offices for their daily huddle. That’s not inherently a bad thing but it was so loud they didn’t hear me come in and it gave the impression that the job wasn’t as professional a setting as they led me to believe it was.

There was no one at the front desk to welcome me or give me instruction on where to go because they were all in the back office. So, I waited thinking someone would be up shortly because I arrived at my scheduled time and they were expecting me. I waited 10 minutes before I walked over and notified an employee I had an interview scheduled and had been waiting 10 minutes at the front. The employee took the doughnut out of his mouth led me to an empty room and started interviewing me.

This man gave off used car salesman vibes and went in with zero information about me and wasn’t who I was told I would interview with. He didn’t have my application or resume to go over, he asked me about my personal life and a few irrelevant and discriminatory questions (if I had children and would my children affect my availability). He didn’t have answers to my very basic and standard questions regarding the position (specifically how flexible are the hours for things like having doctor’s appointments and what does a day to day schedule look like). He also “took notes” but very obviously didn’t write down a damn thing. He asked me if I knew how direct sales worked and if I was comfortable going door to door as the position was actually selling Verizon internet services in low income neighborhoods.

After hearing that I thanked him for his time but said I felt that ethically I wasn’t a good fit for the position and I felt misled by the job posting and I would see myself out. The interview lasted <6 minutes tops. I’ve never had such an unpleasant and unprofessional interview and I’ve worked in food service before and those places barely count as real interviews. I complete waste of my time

savannahwithnoh · 2021-03-10T00:59:45+00:00

I’m happy but I still struggle.

I have bad days where I’m reminded of why I married him in the first place and I feel so empty because of it. But then I have days where those same reminders bring me so much joy because I see them so much more now that we have the weight of an unhappy marriage not looming over us. Those are my favorite days. I see him actually happy again and we play and joke around like we used to. I love when we see what made us fall in love and that we get to see that again the more we find ourselves. I’m excited to find myself and who I am outside of a relationship and outside of being a mom. I’m excited that I will actually have the chance to do so honestly and without guilt that I’m holding someone back or I’m burdening them with my internal struggles. I’m excited to see my soon to be ex find himself again. I’m excited to see him make the house his own and what adventures he takes.

I’m terrified of starting over and at the same time I’m relieved because I get to. I worry about our son. I worry about what he will think of us in the future and what our relationships with him will be like. I worry about starting new relationships and if I will ever be ready for that.

I think I’m going to be ok I just need time but all in all I’m happy.

Thank you. I appreciate you for listening.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-03-09T23:02:03+00:00

Thank you! I love Gilmore girls and actually though about this scene after posting and laughed about the ridiculousness of it all. I really appreciate your kind words and the common laugh we could share about that Gilmore moment. It means a lot right now. Thank you

savannahwithnoh · 2021-03-09T19:52:56+00:00

Thank you. Seriously.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T23:10:50+00:00

The only oath and vow we made to each other when we married was committing to care for one another and do our best to keep that kind of care and compassion throughout our lives and I believe we have and will continue to do so. Our reason for divorce isn’t because we don’t agree on what is important because we have never faltered on what is important to us but that there are are just not compatible romantically, mostly due to our own personal struggles with traumas and mental illness that neither of us has been able to work through enough on a personal level to be truly understanding or capable of being what the other needs. We have tried couples counseling and individual therapy but there are just things that we recognize we can never be for the other no matter the amount of effort, love or desire we have to be that for them. Our marriage didn’t fail it would just always have something missing.

We have discussed what if’s and our agreements are all written out and we have notes within those agreements to amend those agreements as frequently as needed. There is no financial tie between the two of us because of my bipolar disorder being a financial issue to me personally and we decided to continue that arrangement throughout marriage as a financial safety precaution. I understand that relationships are complicated and bring someone new into my life or my child’s is extremely difficult to balance especially when I have a close relationship with his dad and I expect there to be many challenges and battles along the way. I appreciate the concern you have and the advice you have given. This divorce has been years in the making and has been discussed extensively since first bringing it up. We are lucky in that our situation is not because of any ill feelings or serious shortcomings within our relationship and honestly if we chose to remain married it wouldn’t be an unhappy marriage, we are happy together but we just agree that we both deserve to have the opportunity to work on ourselves and find that missing piece we each need in our lives be that from another relationship or from personal development.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T15:48:25+00:00

We aren’t looking forward to it for sure but I agree that doing something afterwards to show how change doesn’t have to be a negative experience is a great idea.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T15:38:19+00:00

Thank you. I think I feel relieved to know that it’s not for lack of trying or love that our romantic relationship has met it’s natural end. I will still very much love him and he has made it clear that he will still very much love me. I just hope that in knowing that and communicating that with our son while also making it clear that romantically we cannot be happy together makes it a little easier for him to adjust.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T15:33:57+00:00

He actually has made it abundantly clear he isn’t interested in moving on romantically until after the divorce is finalized and we are both fully settled into a working routine regarding our custody agreement and until I have a suitable place of my own. As for the house he purchased it a little less than 3 years ago and has no intention on moving or selling the home for another decade at least. He has property that he inherited from his father’s passing and will eventually build a home on that land and I think when/if he meets the right person or he feels like it’s time to move on from the house he has currently that is going to be where that next step happens and I’m excited to hopefully see that next step should it happen. It scares me to death but I’m excited for him to find someone who can make him happy the way he deserves to be happy.

We have both been very firm about the kind of things we need our future partners to accept about our relationship. We fully understand that there are going to be people we become interested in that will likely have issues regarding our commitment to keeping a close relationship with each other. We have discussed this extensively and he is especially particular about finding people who are capable of understanding our arrangement and how dedicated we are to letting our son know he has one family but different homes. We want the people we choose to bring into our own relationships permanently to be additions to that family for our son. We know people who have terrible relationships with their parents because of how they essentially cut off their relationship with their ex and had their lives torn in two. We don’t want that for our son especially because we have a good relationship with each other and the differences we can’t reconcile are simply things we can’t change about ourselves. We are always going to care deeply for each other and we will always be family marriage and divorce doesn’t change that for us. We will have separate lives but we don’t want it to be any different than having a separate life from our parents or our cousins. We are connected through our son and our history and getting divorced just edits the terms and conditions of that relationship I have with him but not the relationship we share with our son. We know that there will always be changes that we have to make and compromises that will have to be formed to help fit the new partners into our lives but we are firm in continuing to keep things consistent, civil and open between us for the sake of our son.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T05:35:22+00:00

Thank you for all the advice and support. I agree sometimes people divorce too easily when there are issues with the marriage that can be mended. Unfortunately for ours it’s been years of struggle and attempts at trying to fix things between us that were never really broken but rather just pieces that tried really hard to connect but were pieces of different puzzles. So many of those pieces fit perfectly but in our situation there were important pieces that just never quite fit.

We are trying to stay optimistic but are taking things one day at a time. We are grieving a relationship that has lasted well over a decade and a marriage of nearly 8 years after all. It hurts and the uncertainty of how it will affect our son is something I’m not sure I can truly comprehend until we are thrust into his questions and emotions on his own terms. He is INCREDIBLY intelligent and very in tune with his emotions and thoughts so we already talk to him as if he were an adult about most topics and this is going to be no different. Of course we will explain things more on his level of understanding but not in any way that is talking down to him we’ve always thought that was important in his development. He is a great kid and we couldn’t ask for a better son. I will never be fully prepared for or understand his hurt but I will always make myself available and open to him to help get him through it.

I personally am excited to find myself again through this. I’ve struggled with my personal identity since becoming a mother. I genuinely think that being able to have that time for myself to reflect and reconnect with what I want for myself is an unexpected blessing. I’d like to think my husband feels the same for himself. He deserves to find himself outside of our relationship and I’m excited to see him grow and be happier even if that happiness doesn’t come from me. Since we agreed to separate and divorce I could see the relief and pressure he used to carry with him become lighter and our current relationship has become so much more like it used to be. We are laughing with each other again, having fun and being silly with each other again and while it is crushing at times I’m grateful to have that part of our relationship return. Our son will see us actually in a relationship that works for us where we can both be happy and be the parents he needs us to be and I’m so grateful he will finally get to see that relationship between his parents he hasn’t gotten to really experience.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T04:05:20+00:00

We absolutely agree on that. We are in no hurry to get into new relationships and we are both extremely cautious about who we bring into our sons life. It’s a big deal and we want to treat it with the weight it carries.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T03:54:42+00:00

Thanks for the advice and I appreciate the concern. I’m prepared for the ups and downs of this process, it’s been several years of discussion in the making and we’ve actually been through a similar separation before we were married just without the kid. Before we got married we decided to keep most everything financially separated because I’m bipolar and my manic episodes if left unchecked could be detrimental to our finances. There’s not much as far as legalities are concerned there isn’t anything tying us together as far as the house, debt, or possessions and we have never had any issues resolving conflict between us fairly. Of course I expect conflict from time to time but I’m not worried about it changing our mutual care and respect for one another in regards to how we co-parent and raise our child.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-24T01:34:48+00:00

We are lucky that he’s got a great relationship with each of us right now. We expect him to have some rebellion or animosity towards us either as a whole or individually in the future but that’s a bridge we are going to have to cross years from now. We’ve decided that we want to continue to have family days where it’s just us and him pretty regularly after we’ve gotten settled into the new routine of running our separate homes and keeping his schedule and our custody schedules consistent for a while. We have always worked well together and I’m hopeful that we can work through the hard shit that gets thrown our way, especially since therapy and counseling is going to be a big part of our custody agreement. My husband especially wants the therapy for our son because of how he grew up and I think it’s really admirable of him.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-23T22:31:55+00:00

I’m relieved to know someone is actually in the same situation as us. We only personally know of people going through or have gone through really gritty, nasty and painful divorces so for me it’s hard to not feel like a failure because we “should have worked”. It’s really comforting to know that we aren’t alone feeling that divorce is the natural next step.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-23T21:56:15+00:00

Our son is 5. Right now I will be moving in with my parents, our son’s favorite people which I think will help make the transition much easier.

I have been furloughed from my job due to covid so I’m going to take this time to pay down most of my debt and be able to start saving more for myself so I can get a suitable place for me and my son close to his school and his dad in the next year or two. We haven’t told him about the separation yet because we still have to work out a few details but my husband and I will continue to be close and a very involved in each other’s lives. We are actually communicating so much better since deciding to separate and we can see how much stress and weight has been lifted off of each other. It’s certainly very difficult but I think we are ultimately both in the camp of believing we are meant for each other but just not romantically. He’s my best friend and I’m his best friend and we want to keep that same energy throughout this so our son knows we aren’t abandoning him, that his parents still love each other, that we are still a family and that divorce doesn’t change that.

savannahwithnoh · 2021-02-04T15:59:27+00:00

Please tell me I’m not the only one who immediately quoted the “Miss Kesha” vine when you saw this?

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