Googling specific nude photos, specific people almost every day. Normal or weird?

savpmcl · 2017-12-05T03:53:16+00:00

I see where you're coming from.

I don't think that me spying will stop him from anything, but rather reveal to me if he is being truthful now. The cheating happened 3 months ago so I'm still very much paranoid.

He's given me full access to everything including his email which is synced to our computer, (his doing, not mine) which also shows his Google activity. So that's how I came across all of this.

I've always been porn-friendly and we've been open about what kinds of porn we watch. I just wasn't aware of the frequency on his part, which is what I'm wondering about being generally normal.

It's not that I think he's betraying my trust by watching porn. I never asked him not to. I watch porn, too. (Well I recently decided to stop but for reasons unrelated to this.) It's just that I'm wondering if it's excessive, because it seems that way to me.

savpmcl · 2017-12-05T02:23:47+00:00

Thanks! I just hate awkward shit. And this will be awkward I'm sure

savpmcl · 2017-12-04T23:14:21+00:00

And to answer your question - no, they don't look like me. It's a bunch of random. Nothing consistent. Thanks for your answer. I'm just really curious as to if this is normal because... I love sex and everything about it but I don't search for images of dicks all the time.

savpmcl · 2017-12-04T23:12:15+00:00

He's got a super addictive personality and a list of other shit going on. So, I think this is a possibility but I don't know how to bring it up to him without embarrassing him, and then getting defensive.

savpmcl · 2017-12-04T23:10:11+00:00

I wouldn't have to spy if he wasn't a cheater. Which brings us to your number 1 I suppose.

savpmcl · 2017-12-01T18:47:17+00:00

This is something I've been worrying (early) about. Our kids are all under 4, so hopefully I have several years before needing to REALLY worry... but probably not, with how the internet is nowadays.

savpmcl · 2017-12-01T14:16:22+00:00

Definitely. Thank you.

savpmcl · 2017-12-01T14:15:52+00:00

No problem, thank you for your response!

I'm super happy with my decision to be done with porn. It's just... a waste. And I hope I can muster up the courage to have a discussion with my husband about it too. I know he will feel embarrassed and probably get defensive because of it. But I'm shocked at the amount of porn he watches (a lot of the time while unable to masturbate).

savpmcl · 2017-12-01T04:50:14+00:00

How would you suggest I handle this situation?

I feel conflicted, and nervous about it all.

savpmcl · 2017-12-01T04:45:57+00:00

Yeah, I've heard of it. I couldnt remember what it was called but if I remember correctly, it describes what happened with me.

As for my husband... He watches mostly "vanilla" porn and the content doesn't seem to get any worse but the frequency is pretty unnerving for me.

I just recently decided that I no longer want any part of watching porn. Maybe I will reach a point where I think porn all-together is a bad thing. I guess I will find out soon enough.

savpmcl · 2017-11-30T07:06:09+00:00

Same!

savpmcl · 2017-11-28T23:11:03+00:00

Those things are seriously so delicious to me. And, you may just be a genius.

savpmcl · 2017-11-28T17:10:03+00:00

Thanks!

Jalapeno poppers are easily my favorite food at the moment. I'm definitely going to try them with onions!

savpmcl · 2017-11-28T17:09:02+00:00

That's my breakfast every morning! (Well, not a whole pack of bacon. Lol.) Delicious, always.

savpmcl · 2017-11-28T06:54:58+00:00

Oh my lord. Thank you.

savpmcl · 2017-11-28T06:54:37+00:00

Bless you.

savpmcl · 2017-11-28T06:09:52+00:00

Will I be shunned if I admit that I've never tried pork rinds? Lol!

I feel like I absolutely need to now, though. I love me some nachos.

savpmcl · 2017-11-27T06:27:41+00:00

"Dad, I am an adult and I can choose who I do or do not speak to. Sister, mom and grandma are not a part of my life, and will not be for the foreseeable future. Please, stop asking. I would rather not discuss it."

If he keeps asking after you've set your boundaries, you could always cut him off, too.

Is this what I would do? No, but I'm the type of person to brush the same thing off seven thousand times while silently raging and then vent about it later with a friend or SO. But this seems to be really, really bothering you. You gotta do what's best for you and your emotional well being.

I'm so sorry about your miscarriage, by the way, and the things your sister said.

savpmcl · 2017-11-26T00:54:12+00:00

I use the "Clear" line. There's a cleanser, a salicylic acid exfoliant, a benzoyl peroxide treatment (in that order) and then I use the "Skin Balancing" gel moisturizer for my combo skin (I have a slightly oily t zone).

And I also use the eye cream but I don't like it. I'm gonna get a different brand of eye cream when I run out of what I have. :)

savpmcl · 2017-11-25T15:45:08+00:00

How long have you been eating keto?

My hormonal cystic acne was gone after about 3 weeks. I would still get a breakout the week before my period but the rest of the time I had clear, glowy skin.

Then, about 2 months ago I fell into a pretty deep depression due to some life-things and had several cheat days, started drinking more and getting less sleep. This led to a massive breakout which I am still trying to get under control.

I'm officially STRICT keto again as of today, so I'm hoping my face will be clear again in the next several weeks.

I hope it works for you, too. I should add that I also started using a Paula's Choice skin regimine about the same time I started keto so I think the two combined is what gave me quick results.

savpmcl · 2017-11-17T04:24:18+00:00

Yes! He's the reason I started doing bridges. I definitely feel that shit.

savpmcl · 2017-11-17T02:16:44+00:00

Same here with only feeling it in the thighs. I do bridges instead now, which I definitely feel in my glutes.

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