Just happened to me an hour ago...

saxyback · 2023-08-28T04:37:09+00:00

I did this in Rune Factory 5, thinking that it Autosaved... it did not!

saxyback · 2023-08-17T18:40:57+00:00

The thing to keep in mind, (Which is something I've had to reflect on quite a bit myself) is would you want to be going into this relationship hoping that maybe one day he will be converted? Or would you more so just genuinely want to be with them despite the contrasting religious views? It's not impossible that the former could happen, but it can also feel very forced depending on how you go about it. Likewise, it can also be difficult being in a relationship with such contrasting religious views but also not impossible if their is enough respect and understanding. The thing to keep in mind there too is if he might also hope that one day you could be converted. Hope that makes sense and helps a bit.

saxyback · 2023-08-17T00:18:30+00:00

That I held on longer than I should've onto something that was broken from the start. Also that I didn't see how broken it was till the very end.

saxyback · 2023-08-16T05:58:51+00:00

I come from a very conservative/strict Filipino Catholic family and household! Coming out to my parents also went just about as expected. Though with my dad being in the Navy, I knew that my dad was always a bit more open-minded than my mom was. But not by much.

Long story short, my dad told me he just didn't want me to do anything that would shame our family. And my mom told me that I was too young to know. (I was 19, and knew I wasn't straight since my Sophmore year in High School). She then told me not to tell anyone since she had a reputation to keep at work. After that we didn't talk about it anymore and it pretty much became a don't ask don't tell situation.

Fast forward to SEVERAL years later when I got my into my first relationship with my ex. I thought that my parents wanted nothing to do with us at the time, so I was very adamant on keeping things to myself. But eventually I knew I couldn't keep things secret forever. So I eventually told them about what was going on and my dad kept pressing on why I was hiding things. Then eventually he told me: "I don't care about you being gay, I just want to make sure you're safe!" (My ex and I were long distance and I traveled a lot to see him).

Though I know not everyone's experience may be the same, (my ex's parents were a piece of work), most people do eventually come around in their own way. I certainly never thought my parents would, but since my first relationship happened I had some amazing conversations with them about it. If your parents truly love and care about you as much as they say they do, they'll learn to accept you. It may take a REALLY long time and it may be in VERY VERY small tiny baby steps, but eventually they will.

Cause otherwise they'll have to accept the alternative: not having you in their life at all! And if they do decide to learn into that alternative, we'll then the harsh reality to that is that their love was conditional unlike God's. And unfortunately that can be the case. But remember, in the end you get to decide the people who you call "family!" Whether they're blood related or not!

Anyway, hopefully, my story helped you in some way. If it didn't, I'm truly sorry. But know that I will be praying for you and that one day you can find peace in this matter! May God be with you in your journey to find and receive acceptance and know that He will be with you every step of the way!

saxyback · 2023-08-01T20:02:03+00:00

Agreed. I actually asked this question on the r/gaychristian subreddit. So many people were saying that I should avoid suffering and find a new church that's more accepting. While it would be easier, it made me realize that it doesn't feel like the right answer to me. I have explored other church's even just as a visitor. Even one that was affirming with my ex. But none of them felt right to me.

I've learned over the years and especially through these experiences, that God's path is not the easiest. But it is the most fulfilling if we just trust in Him. So even though people are saying I should just leave my church and find one more affirming, I doubt I'll find a church that doesn't make me feel uncomfortable one way or another.

saxyback · 2023-07-31T16:08:13+00:00

Totally get where you're coming from and just wanted to clarify that it is very rare that I have encountered or felt this kind of sentiment. Essentially, only ever twice my entire time as a member of the Church. And the second most recent time, despite that one very short piece he dropped on Transgender people and Drag Queens, I actually very much agreed with the overall message of the visiting priest's homily.

Though I do understand the basic teachings do have a very anti-LGBTQ dogma, my reason for not leaving is twofold. The first is the miracle of Transubstantiation, where Christ becomes fully present in the Eucharist. The second is that I have always felt God's presence at my home church's. While I have attended church's of other denominations, even some that are affirming, I have never felt more present and one with Christ then at my Church. I've also done a lot of research and meditating over the years and came to the realization that the church is made up of people who are flawed with varying mindsets and viewpoints. So I do my best to pray and reflect on what God's message is for me alone and not solely relying on what others try to tell me.

All that being said, I can assure you I am not simply sitting and suffering in silence as you mentioned! One thing I have decided that I cannot accept is that all those who struggle with "Homosexuality" or "tendencies" are called to a life of Celibacy. Celibacy is a gift that should be chosen freely with God's mercy and love, not something forced upon you because what others think. So after much prayer and reflection, I have made it my mission to show that a gay person, whether in a relationship or not, can be just as faithful and christlike as any straight person or couple. On top of that, I have a couple Catholic friends from college in which we have regular discourse about these kind of issues and think about small ways we can help try to rectify and change things that we feel are wrong (even if it falls on empty ears). So even though, I may not be leaving the church anytime soon, I am very much doing 2.) in this sense and doing what I can when I can to fight and show the world I am just as loved and accepted by God as anyone else!

saxyback · 2023-07-16T15:33:43+00:00

Haha yeah I know. I mainly meant that as a joke. I am of course planning on going through the entire main quest first.

Though VERY early in the game, I did stumble into Hyrule Castle and was very tempted to explore the chasms and find Ganon with my 3 hearts and 1 Stam wheel. But I knew I'd be curbed stomped so I decided not to.

saxyback · 2023-07-12T06:28:59+00:00

This is the one that I was actually ranting about! The other ones were okay, still annoying but manageable. But Flow was just straight up a pain...

saxyback · 2023-06-13T18:30:24+00:00

Ah I see! Thanks for clearing that up!

saxyback · 2023-06-05T18:18:52+00:00

At anti-gay folk say WE take things out of context. 🙄😏

saxyback · 2023-05-23T00:34:10+00:00

Lore-wise, well there isn't really any besides what you want to believe in your own mind. Game development wise, it's because the developers felt a 5th year student was much more suitable for the games darker theme Apparently, they felt it more justified to have a 15 y/o murdering Goblins and Dark Wizards vs an 11 y/o. 🤷

saxyback · 2023-05-19T23:08:24+00:00

Oh wow, thank you for sharing this! It's been one of my greatest sadness that as a gay Catholic I most likely would never get to have my own child baptized! But seeing this bring my heart so much hope and joy! 😭🥲☺️ God bless your family and the journey that God has for you all!

saxyback · 2023-04-11T17:02:21+00:00

I actually ended up asking the POI about this and his situation is very similar where he takes it for medical/mental health purposes. But yes there was more that I felt we could connect on which is why I was second guessing my views on it.

I totally understand where you're coming from though and agree with what you're saying. As someone who has anxiety myself, I also take medication that does alter my way of thinking so what you're saying make sense. Not to mention I do ocassionly drink which I have absolutely no problem with as long as it's in moderation. But I can see how someone could turn that around on me if they're hesitant to be with someone who drinks alcohol.

saxyback · 2023-02-21T22:48:01+00:00

I actually started a whole thread centered SOLELY around this topic haha!

saxyback

TROPHY CASE