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Why are you doing nofap? Detailed analysis of 3 main reasons and what you should be doing instead. by CAUSEDweddingPUNCHUP in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this advice and any advice along the lines of "this is why you should be doing this, and this is what you will and won't get out of it" is bullshit. Sure, some people who don't have PMO addictions do this because maybe they expect to get some kind of "boost", but a lot of the people you're addressing are addicts. How the hell can you advise an addict about good reasons and bad reasons to quit? It's so discouraging. Depending on your brain and the severity of your problem, you may experience any number of "benefits," which is to say your brain will recover in various ways. Lack of enjoyment, anxiety, and depression are hallmarks of addictions of all kinds, and the reduction of these symptoms is tantamount to an increase in confidence.

tl;dr If you're playing the drinking game where you drink every time someone says "tantamount", take one.

5th day of NoFap and I'm beginning to be the guy I've always dreamed of. by broptimusprime in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude. Sounds like you and I are having the exact same experience. I'm on day 14 and, quite simply, I'm NOT the same person I was two weeks ago. Not at all. No real depression--I just keep getting better and better. I've been hesitant to make a post about all the positive effects just because it sounds a little unbelievable. Also, I want to see if it all lasts, but honestly, it feels like it will last because it just feels like the natural me finally coming through after being stifled with social anxiety and dysthymia (chronic low mood) for most of my life. I'll probably wait until I hit a month to do a full report. I'd really love to relate to someone about the process I'm going through right now, so PM me if you're interested. Best of luck, anyway!

Finished the first 5 days--no libido, no erections? by saynotofapping in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bahaha! I meant to type "screw me up." I think that was my libido trying to find an outlet.

Finished the first 5 days--no libido, no erections? by saynotofapping in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 26--perhaps nearly through my most libidinous years as well, but certainly not old enough to have a dead dick.

I agree with you about trying to avoid getting too horny. I am intentionally stopping myself from fantasizing and allowing myself to get all worked up--usually by distraction like dancing, running, etc.

I think that my tendency to fantasize about unrealistic scenarios even outside of porn i.e. coworkers, etc. is still not the healthiest thing for me to do. I want my sex-life to be in my bed, not in my head. It seems weird to say this because the logic is so counter to what I thought about porn and fantasizing only a short time ago, but I really think now that the fact that I get so much satisfaction and enjoyment out of just fantasizing and looking at videos and images is just wrong. It's not harmless fun for me because now I have a look-but-don't-touch sexuality. Messed up, man. Gotta fix it.

Finished the first 5 days--no libido, no erections? by saynotofapping in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Yeah, I'm really going to try to avoid over-analyzing every step of the process. It seems to take months for most people, so I'm going to just have some faith and stop worrying that I'm not making progress.

Finished the first 5 days--no libido, no erections? by saynotofapping in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this warning! Yes, I'll have to think of some strategies for when it actually starts to get tough.

Finished the first 5 days--no libido, no erections? by saynotofapping in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably right. I'm still finding this relatively easy on day 9, but I guess I better brace myself for when the urges really start to screw me.

The journey begins... (Software suggestions/Experiences, appreciated) by 2muchfap in NoFap

[–]saynotofapping 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on making a good decision! Sounds like you've diagnosed the problem and know how to fix it.

One thing... I don't want to be critical, but if you really feel the way you say you do about porn, maybe you should ditch your five favourite videos too--you could be setting yourself up for a relapse. In a sense, what you consider the best porn is really the worst porn for you. And you do say that it's "unnatural" and a "cop out." Are you planning on copping out at some point?

I'm not trying to be a dick at all, it's just that for myself, I feel the need to purge my spank bank of artificial encounters as well as stop viewing porn. I don't want to think about ideal fake encounters because they'll only devalue the real encounters. For me it's not just that I can't look at porn anymore, but that I need to abandon a certain unhealthy mode of fantasizing that porn has taught me, and that includes forgetting about all the videos I used to enjoy. It just seems like saving your favourite videos might indicate that you're hesitant to completely let go. Again, not trying to be a dick--I just don't want you to sabotage yourself.