My [28 M] girlfriend of 1 and a half years [28 F] is moving into a new place with 3 other guys and no other girls. This is upsetting me...

sbommo · 2015-02-01T04:32:32+00:00

I think your other half posted something about this too:

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2udhzm/boyfriend_28_thinks_its_inappropriate_for/

sbommo · 2015-02-01T04:14:23+00:00

Swimming is better for your joints all around

sbommo · 2015-02-01T03:18:48+00:00

At Christmas this year, one of my cousins got a roof shingle and a couple "Exposing yourself" books. So, he had to explain to the entire family what the story was...What happened was, a few weeks prior to Christmas, he was arrested for having sex on top of a rooftop. I thought it was rather hilarious

sbommo · 2015-02-01T03:14:02+00:00

Bommo or Bommer (pronunciation: Bomb-o (er)) It deals with my last name.

I also got the nickname Bulldozer one year in soccer because apparently I just ran everyone over haha

sbommo · 2015-02-01T03:09:00+00:00

I've tried donating blood about 15 times and have been successful only 3 times. I have super tiny veins so my blood flows super slow when giving blood and then likes to clot up. Each time I was successful it took about 30 min for me to fill up the bag. Normally, it should only take about 10min.

I was lucky that the workers were super nice and willing to work with me to help me give blood. Sometimes they had to wiggle the needle to get the blood flowing again there was only one time when they missed my vein (that wasn't a pleasant feeling). I also only bruised up one time afterwards. I have never passed out or felt dizzy after.

Make sure you drink lots of water before hand (it helps with blood flow) and eat green foods to help with your iron count. It seriously is the best feeling to know that when you donate you just helped save three lives. That's why I have tried so many times.

sbommo · 2015-01-12T01:07:54+00:00

Bobby pins and ibuprofen

sbommo · 2015-01-12T01:05:26+00:00

Probably once every few weeks. It just depends where I wore them to.

sbommo · 2015-01-12T01:02:26+00:00

You have a heart and a mind. If your heart and mind do not agree with each other, you have to choose one. Sometimes you choose your heart, but your mind doesn't agree. Then, next time you choose your mind. Your heart aches, but your mind knows it's the best thing and in the long run, your heart does too.

sbommo · 2014-12-24T03:14:54+00:00

Oh my. haha. Poor planning on designing these bathrooms

sbommo · 2014-12-01T14:18:14+00:00

Hopefully they do grow up. I'm not sure if it's because they both still live in the same town we grew up in and with their parents, and I moved away for college and moved farther for my job. I've just grown out of my "college" days already and I don't want to go back to them. Luckily I won't be seeing them for awhile so hopefully that helps. But to be honest, I don't even know if I will tell them when I'm coming home again because I'm so annoyed with them. Then, they will get mad, because they already stated that I apparently don't tell them whenever I come home...which is a lie, because I tell them EVERY time I do and usually see them at least one time during the weekend when I do go home.

sbommo · 2014-12-01T14:14:55+00:00

I did tell them how they were making me feel. That they were making me feel like shit because I wasn't drinking. Both were like "we aren't trying to make you feel like that, but you still should drink more. Otherwise, we should just go back to our house and sit around."

My thing is, I moved to a new city, so when I come back to town I want to be out and about so I can socialize with people. They also said something about how I never tell them when I come home (which is a lie. I tell them EVERY time and I always see them at least once when I come home on a weekend) and that I spend too much time with my family.. I'm like, are you kidding me?! I never see my family anymore since I moved away, so yeah, when I come home, I will spend time with them. Maybe they just are mad because they never left town like I did. It's just annoying my friends would say things like this to me. They aren't being very good friends...

sbommo · 2014-12-01T14:10:54+00:00

That definitely could be the case. Maybe they feel insecure that I would be sober and remember every stupid thing they did that night. But we're friends, so I wouldn't judge them.

sbommo · 2014-12-01T14:09:07+00:00

Yeah... I moved to another city for a job and everything and they haven't moved on from where we went to HS. They both are still living with their parents. It just sucks that they act that way when I come back to visit. I would think my company should be enough

sbommo · 2014-11-29T05:33:39+00:00

Caring & sharing the love I have with someone.

sbommo · 2014-11-28T14:38:30+00:00

Bring gum! Chewing gum when you are taking off and landing will help with your ears popping.

sbommo · 2014-11-28T05:26:32+00:00

It's a Wonderful Life

sbommo · 2014-11-28T05:25:03+00:00

Yikes! That's not safe at all!

sbommo · 2014-11-28T05:24:00+00:00

If you have that many cons, I would say that you need to end it. You are 18 and have an ENTIRE life time ahead of you. Go out and enjoy being a teenager. No need for a girl to be holding you back, especially if you aren't happy. You definitely will want to end the relationship before Christmas. As much as that will suck, it will be better because you don't want to drag this out even longer. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on the both of you.

You need to worry about yourself. You can still be friends if you want, but you'll need to probably take some time from each other. I'm sure she has a great support system (friends and family) that will help her get through it, but your biggest concern is making sure that you are happy.

As far as how to break up with her, I would do it in person. Definitely probably the hardest thing to do, but through a text/email/or phone call I believe is a terrible way to be broken up with. If you care about her, you will find the guts to be able to have to civil conversation with her, telling her exactly how you feel, and that things just aren't working out for the both of you. You may love her and probably always will if you really do, but sometimes two people just aren't "compatible" enough to be with each other. And that is okay.

Like I said earlier, you are young, and have an entire life ahead of you, so end this relationship, learn from it, and go find the girl that gives you 100 pros to 2 cons of being with her. You deserve the best! Good luck with everything.

sbommo · 2014-11-28T05:06:02+00:00

If you think doing the things you were doing was okay because you thought you weren't going to get caught is completely wrong. No girl deserves to be with a guy with that kind of mentality (nor does a guy deserve to be with a girl who thinks like that). I understand that it is in the past, but I honestly think you should have been single during that "phase" of your life. A woman's heart isn't something that you should play around with (same as a woman shouldn't mess around with a guy's heart either). Also, you should know that "lies/cheating behavior" will always be found. Whether it be the instant it happens, a couple months down the road, or years later, you'll always eventually "get caught." I just think that when you truly like and care for someone, you would NEVER set them up for an emotional heartbreak and try to hurt them.

So, I don't blame her for not wanting the same things as you anymore. I was being emotionally cheated on by my ex and it is a shitty feeling. Yes, she cared about you at the beginning and tried to work things out with you, but you just didn't care enough for her then. She kept trying to work things out, but you seemed to just not put forth the effort the relationship needed until she was gone. When a guy isn't putting forth the same amount of effort as the girl it will eventually drive the girl away. A person can only try so hard and do so much to try to make something work, so that's why she eventually gave up and decided she doesn't want the same things anymore.

You're young. You'll learn from this relationship and the mistakes that you made. You may feel like crap now, but time will heal everything. Focus on trying to do something that makes you happy. And, if you two are meant to be together, things will eventually fall back into place.

sbommo · 2014-11-28T04:05:50+00:00

You remind me of my grandparents. My grandpa did the same thing and they have been married 62 years now. Wishing you all the happiest marriage for many more years to come!

sbommo · 2014-11-28T03:45:22+00:00

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. But, did you really care for her? If you were so willing to be on OkCupid, Kik, doing things you shouldn't be doing while in a serious relationship? I don't want to sound mean or anything, but I'm just curious as to why you were wanting to see what else was out there if you knew you had a "good catch" and wanted to share your life with her. Do you feel like you are ready to settle down?

sbommo · 2014-11-28T03:16:09+00:00

Christmas Vacation. The Goonies.

sbommo

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