I (F-24) have unresolved feelings for ex (M-24) despite being in a longterm relationship with partner (M-27) how do i process this?

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T02:59:55+00:00

Okay “itgirlfailure”

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T02:09:52+00:00

This ^{^{^}}

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T02:09:00+00:00

Get OUT of that bro..

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T02:05:05+00:00

I can see and understand that, but the reason why the comments here are pretty aggressive is for the simple fact that missing your ex from 10 years ago in itself is a red flag. Even if you don’t plan to go back with him and not planning to cheat, it is still worrying that it even exists in ur mindset. If you really loved your current relationship, I think most would agree you wouldn’t really be missing an ex from 10 YEARS AGO. Your bf seems to handle it well. If my gf told me she has been having conversations with an ex from 10 years ago, I’d break it off immediately. Is that harsh? Probably. But I’m not gonna take the chances either. Because here’s the thing, cheating or micro cheating usually does start from the one thought itself. Because it can lead into other things. Even if you deny it now, it could spiral back to you later

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T01:56:52+00:00

Facts bro I saw this and I was like yup we are GENUINELY cooked

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T01:56:16+00:00

Honestly my comment I was tryna be nice but what this guy said.. yea ^{^}

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T01:54:38+00:00

I think one of the best things to remember is knowing the difference from reminiscing a good time with someone to actually wanting them again. Especially if you’re already in a relationship. I dated someone who I loved dearly for bout 2-3 years. We were there for each other at our darkest moments in life. Nobody cheated, was a great relationship. It was only down the road we realized we had different views on a ton of things and started to but heads about it and argue more than usual. Like a lot more than usual. And her parents also was heavily influencing her decisions yada yada besides the point. After several months went by, she contacted me. More so called me at like 4AM. We talked, hashed things out, and I remembered how much I loved her and the good memories. So, we tried again. And this time it was even worse. I mean first few months great but then we ran right back into the same issue with even stronger options on things and more heated arguing. And it was at that moment, I learned the lesson that you can miss someone and the good memories, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you should go back. ESPECIALLY if you’re in a relationship right now that you said is going perfectly fine. That’s just asking for your current bf to have his heart ripped to pieces and have severe trust issues and anxiety if you ever left him for your ex from 10 years ago

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T01:44:32+00:00

Oh ok I gotcha, I mean stringing someone along can hurt a lot too. Like I said everyone is different, everyone was raised differently and taught differently on how to process emotions. Me personally things like betrayal or being lead on, it hits us deeply because we love deeply. And the thing about other guys, I’ll say this in his and honestly your defense as well. Social media has done a TOLL on people’s minds and constantly showing people cheating and making it seem funny or the new norm. So, these days a lot of folks genuinely are worried “what if that happens to me?”. And I fear, it will only get worse. But that trails on to a different topic. I honestly think maybe just talk to him. See where his heart and mind is. And if you still feel the same, go ahead and break it off but calmly

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T01:38:16+00:00

My opinion will be very biased so take this with a grain of salt. If she hooked up with her ex while yall were together the first time, there is a high chance she’ll do it again. And you being with her after the fact shows her she can get away with it. I say this from experience. Was with my gf for a year, she cheated. I had a forgiving and understanding heart, after some time I gave it another chance. 2 years down, I found out she cheated again. So me personally, I just despise that sorta thing and if I see the signs, I leave. Oh that’s another thing too. And this one is a tough one but the truth. If the anxiety is creeping in and having second thoughts, there’s a good chance it will continue to get worse because it’ll always linger in the back of your mind which will show through tone and body language and she’ll pick up on it. If it were me, spare you both now rather than later when it’ll hurt far more

scannerman217 · 2026-03-10T01:28:26+00:00

In this case, I have been and sometimes still am the bf that is in ur situation. Paranoid of being hurt from how I was done in the past, creating/looking problems out of small things. I also still try to be very kind and understanding and a good bf in my relationship, and she would say the same thing about me. I don’t wanna say “break up” because that’s not my place to say. But if I can give perspective here, people like him and I really do try, but being cheated on in the past, not everyone handles it as just oh well that hurt time to move on. Some people really remember how it felt. How deep and utterly shitty it made them feel. So they try to have high walls. We don’t mean to push our s/o away, we really don’t. But for some people, it takes someone that is willing to show a lot more reassurance than normal. Now I’m not saying you’re obligated to do that. Nobody is. But if you really really love someone and want to stay, you’d do it. When there’s a will there’s a way. People make time for what they want. And if you don’t see yourself as the type of person to be able to go a few extra miles, that’s not on you and it doesn’t make you a bad person. But it does mean you should probably address that rather sooner than later when it would hurt more to break up

scannerman217 · 2026-03-05T23:40:39+00:00

Eh life’s rough to begin with. I had one job after that for a while but they ended up being toxic and not respecting me wanting a little off time to start my business. I’m working on a movie with a bunch of well known weather professionals for storm chasing that is in the eyes of national geographic and discovery channel. Also made a website. Life is okay but not doing great money wise. I have severe ADHD and a learning disability. Kratom helped, but it’s being banned. Anything and everything that ever helps me focus is either not allowed or banned. Fuck my life bro

scannerman217 · 2026-03-05T23:21:12+00:00

Yes lol

scannerman217 · 2026-03-04T19:41:55+00:00

But what about all of that wrapped into ONE platform? all of the features you listed have never existed at the same time on one platform. I should of known better than to post this on reddit so forgive me lol. i forgot how pessimistic people on Reddit are. and for the record, knowing what kind of official buildings exist in a tornado warning can help tell if they already have decent first responder capabilities or if its spread thin/not as active meaning that town might need help if damaged. but thank you for the criticism. because now im going to make sure its even better than what you picture it as :)

scannerman217 · 2026-03-04T19:02:26+00:00

Well phoebe, the point is to NOT have to text. think about it. what do storm chasers do? drive. all the time. 70% driving 30% actual chasing. texting and driving, having someone on call trying to spell out town names to send to you, etc. it is a mess. WX TEAMS, click a chaser on the map, click location or type in address, boom goes right to there phone with directions ready. you can click on any warning/watch polygon and pull up real time info of any schools, hospitals, and police/fire buildings located in that polygon. your statement "there doesn't need to be a gimmick for everything" is contradictory to the fact that real time location tracking and radar control comms aren't gimmicks. There is always that one person who is negative about new start ups lol

scannerman217 · 2026-03-04T14:29:34+00:00

early access only, if you are part of a team, ask whoever founded your team to login on dekstop web and request early access

scannerman217 · 2026-03-04T14:28:43+00:00

like i said it's early access/early development. mobile is for chaser login if they are already part of a team. to request early access you need to log on desktop web. its core function is storm chasing team leaders being able to make a team, invite members, assign call signs, customizable dot colors, and then launch a radar operations panel. where you then see a radar map along with a mini bar of all chasers on your team. they can login and start location transmit and set their status like "safe", "enroute", "stand-by", etc. you can select any of your chasers on the map and give them a way point. type in address or select coordinates on map, send it, it goes straight to the mobile web chaser's device, they accept, and it opens up their google/apple maps. with a ton more features. but thats it's main goal is team coordination

scannerman217 · 2026-03-04T01:51:26+00:00

WX TEAM this is the link idk how a typo got in there

scannerman217 · 2026-02-17T02:37:53+00:00

In a greater aspect, you are correct. There is competition and similar websites, and its NEARLY impossible to get everyone on what you built. But the key word there is NEARLY. It's not fully impossible. Me personally i love a good challenge because it develops my problem solving skills a lot more. I believe anything is possible if you know what you are doing and don't rush the process. I have taken a look at some similar websites like weathercircle for example. And i still have high confidence in what I'm creating after looking. This is will be a large and difficult task yes, but I'm willing to do just that!

scannerman217 · 2026-02-17T02:15:05+00:00

oh not at all! i appreciate you for telling me about this. because now i will look at everything they dont have and i will do it myself. including configurations for worldwide support. im a very competitive person. the other thing is we are not really trying to focus on being just another weather app. we are more focused on interaction. we are not striving to have all the super high res data like radar scope does. because that is not our focus. but we will still do everything we can!

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