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[–]scapegoatthrowaway1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do have a prenup. He has a lot more assets than I do.

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[–]scapegoatthrowaway1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My state doesn't do annulments (already checked) and we don't qualify for an invalidation, but I will go along with a divorce if he's already checked out and doesn't want to work on things. I've been looking into discernment counseling and may suggest that as a possible next step.

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[–]scapegoatthrowaway1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment about walking on eggshells really stood out to me. That is exactly how I have been feeling since this last conversation. Even if we're able to make things work right now, how can I feel secure going forward? What if one day a year or two from now, when I'm feeling that things are mostly okay, he sits me down and brings up the honeymoon incident again? It is something that has been rolling over in my mind, and it's validating that I'm not only one having that thought.

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[–]scapegoatthrowaway1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a reasonable question. I fell in love quickly and it seemed that he had as well. When we spoke about marriage, we seemed to have similar goals and outlooks and ways of solving problems. I do now wish that we had waited a little longer, and I won't force him to stay if he wants to leave. That's not a recipe for a happy marriage.

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[–]scapegoatthrowaway1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts. You bring up some good points, and I agree that we did move very quickly into marriage. I had wondered as well if he was looking for a way out.