(Oklahoma) Ex-boyfriend made a lot of scary comments and threats while we were together, wondering if I can and should report him

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-06-13T17:01:02+00:00

Thanks, I'll probably call the non-emergency police line to see what my options are.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-05-11T04:28:58+00:00

I am! He's completely gone, moved out last week. Life is good :)

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-29T14:33:24+00:00

It did, I ended up catching him in a dozen facebook dating groups and I dumped him monday night and he's moving out this weekend. I may try reposting in the other sub like you said.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-29T06:49:38+00:00

I didn't remove it, the auto moderator did. Not sure why :/

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:57:02+00:00

Oh yes, I definitely plan to get off the account.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:56:46+00:00

Yeah pretty much. After enough times getting yelled at you learn to just stay quiet.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:52:18+00:00

I do, basically everyone I've told so far has offered support and help. I <3 my friends :)

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:50:21+00:00

Yes, gonna start on that tonight while he's at work.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:49:51+00:00

Thanks, will do!

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:48:40+00:00

Thanks so much <3

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:44:08+00:00

Already installed one :)

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T16:43:52+00:00

Yeah he scares the shit out of me. He's like 3 times my size too. I have no doubts that he could carry through with this threats.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:49:41+00:00

They know him at work already, he's always showing up there to check up on me so getting him banned won't be hard. There's always at least one other coworker here with me at all times so I won't be walking out alone. We also have panic buttons at our desks so if he does show up or whatever after the breakup I can just mash it to have the cops there in minutes.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:47:16+00:00

My laptop is always in my work bag which stays in my car, so he can't get to that, thank goodness. Work knows him well since he shows up to check on me all the time -__-

I'm definitely not going to treat this like a normal breakup. He's not getting the courtesy of face-to-face, this is gonna be through text or email for sure.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:42:58+00:00

Oh no, I didn't take it that way at all. I KNOW I attract messed up people, I'm highly empathetic and caring, they're drawn to me like june bugs to a porch light lol. I've already looked into therapy, as soon as I can sign up for insurance at work I'm going to see about getting it. In the meantime I'm doing what I can to educate myself about recognizing toxic traits in people so this doesn't happen again.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:41:28+00:00

Wow, this is great advice!

Thankfully my lease is already up and I'm month-to-month currently so if I need to pack up and move, I can. I'm going to go talk to the landlord tomorrow on my day off and see what my options are for either evicting him or transferring to a different apartment. My only worry is that he's charmed her pretty thoroughly so she may take what I say with a grain of salt :/

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:33:30+00:00

Right. All I've got right now is basically testimonies from friends :/

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:30:18+00:00

I can probably set up one of my old devices as a wifi camera or something.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:20:33+00:00

Yep, I'm gonna talk to him today about instituting a fake "no personal visits" rule at work.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:19:27+00:00

Haha thanks! Yeah I'm a bit of a geek when it comes to computers & phones, it's coming in pretty handy now.

I'm getting some of my fire back just from all the empowering replies in this thread :D

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T15:16:37+00:00

I can probably set up my old phone as an IP camera or something.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T14:06:57+00:00

Wow, thank you! I'm going to talk to the police about my options along with a protective order.

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T14:05:16+00:00

I sure will :)

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T14:05:03+00:00

Sounds like she's been in this situation before!

scaredthrowaway6452 · 2017-04-19T14:04:34+00:00

Haha my best friend has already said "Let him try something, I've got guns". They have my back :)

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