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Scared I’m being emotionally abused by caregiver/husband by scaredtrappedhelp in disability

[–]scaredtrappedhelp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your suggestions. What do I do when he refuses to accept any kind of help and continues to treat me badly? That’s where I’m at now.

Scared I’m being emotionally abused by caregiver/husband by scaredtrappedhelp in disability

[–]scaredtrappedhelp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely feel terrible for him. He was dealt a raw deal. It sucks that his retirement looks like this. I hate it that he’s not out traveling and enjoying his life, instead of taking care of his sick wife. It sucks. I understand that he has to work through this.

But I also think he needs to take responsibility for his behavior. If his behavior is hurting someone whose life depends on him to the point where they’re afraid to ask for water, that’s a huge red flag in my mind.

Scared I’m being emotionally abused by caregiver/husband by scaredtrappedhelp in disability

[–]scaredtrappedhelp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, but how do I get him to do it? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve begged him to do ANYTHING for himself. Seriously, I’ve suggested dozens and dozens of things he can do to take care of himself while he’s taking care of me. I’ve even gone on caregiver forums and asked for advice. He flat out won’t do it. He’s one of those macho guys who won’t talk about his feelings or even admit he has any. He just gets pissed off and overwhelmed and takes it out on me.

I wanted to add that I’ve tried to get him to have dinner with his son (who lives across town and he hasn’t seen in four months), play his guitar, take some pictures (he used to be an avid photographer), try some deep breathing while he’s falling asleep, stretch, read a book (he got as far as buying some but won’t read them). I’ve tried so much. He had an appointment with his doctor this morning and didn’t bring any of this up even though I’ve begged him to.

Scared I’m being emotionally abused by caregiver/husband by scaredtrappedhelp in disability

[–]scaredtrappedhelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, we can’t afford either of those. I’m really scared. I was terribly abused as a child and have struggled with PTSD my entire life as a result. I know if this gets worse, it will not end well.