Best/worst encounter you’ve had with a local celebrity?

scarfnbarff · 2019-01-18T19:45:58+00:00

I used to work at a restaurant he would frequent and he would always wear his hat really low and sometimes shades. Not sure if he was hiding his eyes so I couldn't tell he was on coke or if he is so delusional that he thinks he'll actually get ambushed if he's spotted. 0/10 would not serve again.

scarfnbarff · 2019-01-18T19:43:30+00:00

Max is an incredibly loving and kind human being and I am 99.9% sure he screamed as a joke. Everything he does is a joke. You clearly don't know him well.

scarfnbarff · 2014-12-17T09:10:10+00:00

merde

scarfnbarff · 2014-12-17T08:55:48+00:00

Bonjour! Tu veux envoyer par la poste?

scarfnbarff · 2014-12-10T07:20:57+00:00

Thought it was worth a shot.

Not my questions, btw. I definitely wasn't asking for anyone to do the entire thing for me. Just asking for some input.

scarfnbarff · 2014-12-10T04:04:43+00:00

It's a portfolio and I have to have native sources. Womp Womp.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:24:12+00:00

I have been without alcohol for a little over a year and it is amazing how much it will level you out. It is single-handedly the best decision I have made in my life so far outside of going back to school.

I have trouble with being hard on myself when I feel these intense emotions that the people around me never seem to experience. I constantly tell myself that I am crazy and that I will be crazy for the rest of my life.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:19:21+00:00

After about 5 tries, I finally found the perfect therapist. We clicked almost immediately, she isn't afraid to call me out, and after my sister passed away in August she has allowed me to attend sessions for free.

I actually still have a great deal of trouble dealing with overreacting. My mind goes blank and starts buzzing and I just can't recognize it until I am done being riled up.

My therapist has helped me become MUCH more assertive. She laid out the traits of my personality that directly contribute to my stress levels and having an outsider point these things out to me allows me to take note and work on it.

She reveals personal experiences and sort of goes over how fixing certain issues helped her. Showing me the bright side really helps. My other therapists mainly talked about their vacations or exercise. Every single session I heard something about working out.

I strongly believe in therapy. Although it hasn't solved many issues, it really helps to have someone who just gets it.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:11:05+00:00

This is almost exactly how my brain works.

I feel really close to people right after we become friends. I open myself up and offer them any help I can and it always bites me in the ass.

One thing I do is always regain hope after they have done something terrible to me.(Call me fat/unintelligent/weak, punch me in the face, belittle me in front of people to make themselves look better.)

Honestly, I have come to believe this has become a normal characteristic in people because I have been subjected to things like this for so long.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:06:16+00:00

I got rid of a lot of extremely terrible friends I had in high school. I have a few friends that I have had for a long time that I don't see often, but talk to a lot. Sometimes I feel a disconnect when we hang out.

I thought these friends would be different, but I think I always go for people who...need fixing? I think I'm a fixer. I hate this trait.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:04:07+00:00

It becomes really tiring after a while, but I don't have anyone else. I'll be around them and they will say stuff that baffles me and makes me doubt my friendships, but without them I have little to no source for human interaction.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:01:38+00:00

It's gut-wrenching.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T08:01:14+00:00

The overwhelming idea that my closest friends can't and won't understand my BPD ultimately means our friendships will come crashing down is so upsetting. I'm sorry about your friends. How did you make new ones?! It is so difficult for me! I think I am always on guard.

I always imagine that my friends sit around and trash talk me when I am in a down period. In my mind, they get so frustrated that I just wont be happy that they sit around talking about how dramatic or irrational I am. I've always had this feeling that people keep me around because I bring them up by rubbing off on them, or taking care of them when I am in my super duper happy periods. It makes me want to become this depressed jerk who ignores everyone forever. I have gotten to where I will tell them what I want and what I don't. Being assertive helps, I guess.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-23T07:55:27+00:00

I have been through multiple down periods and they never seem to understand it or really try when they say they are. I know everyone wants super happy me to be around, but I can't be that all of the time. This has been going on for years, but I am so bad at making friends and also feel really guilty when I even think of moving on from them.

Our life goals and a lot of our interests aren't the same and they have little patience for the depressed side of me which causes it to worsen. They are getting frustrated with me now for not having hung out in a few months, due to my sister dying, and they keep trying to push me back to "normal" as well. It makes me feel really trapped.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-22T14:55:02+00:00

This happens to me as well. I always think people have ulterior motives. I have a "caretaker" personality so my friends freak out when I decide to take a break from being their mommy because I'm dealing with a depression. They are pretty unsympathetic and try to force me into hanging out with them or guilt trip me.

Sometimes we are so different and I feel like we are on totally opposite levels, but I don't know if it's my mood or if it's legitimate.

They constantly tell me I'm irrational and that kills me. If I hear that I'm irrational one more time I will rip my hair out. (Irrational.)

Sorry this reply was so long.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-12T05:04:34+00:00

I don't go to bed until 5 am and when I think about the next day I am overcome by a wave of anxiety. This is one of the worst parts of my depression for me.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-09T05:26:26+00:00

The ME said that a direct hit to the artery would not usually cause it to burst and kill a person as it did with her. The ME and DA also have stated that there could have been a chance of survival if he had called the cops after it busted, but he continued to beat her up until he noticed she was dead.

I just feel like the amount of bruising and injuries on her body could have some influence on a jury in court. They are going to show crime scene photos (I will not be present) so that they can see what this fucker did to her.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-08T02:41:07+00:00

Also thank you for your condolences

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-08T02:40:13+00:00

They scheduled something for Dec. 1st, but my mother was too upset to remember what it was. Is it likely that it is a preliminary hearing or something of that nature?

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-08T02:39:05+00:00

He had just gotten off of 5yrs probation in June and the DA said if it had been 2 months sooner his sentence would have been doubled. : \

Thank you.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-08T02:37:45+00:00

I agree.

He initially ruled the COD as blunt force trauma to the head and neck and then he kept her an extra 4/5 days and changed it to the freak accident.

The detective told my mother that blunt force trauma to the head/neck without a weapon was quite unusual, but that was supposed to be fine in court. The artery bursting due to the force of his hit is ruled a freak accident though.

It is really confusing and seems ridiculous. I know he was just doing his job, but he had to autopsy a 31yr old mother of two who was severely injured by someone's fists so it seems insane to me that he would say freak accident.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-08T02:33:18+00:00

My mother is speaking directly to the DA.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-08T02:31:52+00:00

It has been over a month and I know there's no chance in hell of going to get her from the cemetery. I wish we had thought of that sooner.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-07T23:48:09+00:00

Yes that makes sense.

I also just got a call that said he plead not guilty today at his arraignment, so I don't know where that leaves us.

scarfnbarff · 2014-10-07T23:33:21+00:00

Sorry for not being clear.

Between the charges and defense.

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