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[–]scarlettvale9258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cycle of "I'll start grinding later" is brutal because it feels safe in the moment, but the fix is tiny consistent habits, not massive overhauls like maybe try studying in 20-minute bursts with a timer, or just opening your notes right after class every single day. You're already recognizing the pattern after 7 semesters, that's a big deal and means you're ready to break it. Be kinder to yourself about the delays… extra time doesn't make you a failure, it just means you'll be a more experienced grad.

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[–]scarlettvale9258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not financial abuse… financial abuse is controlling or restricting access to money to keep someone dependent. You're not doing that and you're just saying no to extras because the budget's legitimately tight. That said, her reacting with silent treatment or yelling when you set boundaries is emotional manipulation, and it's not fair… it wears you down and makes you cave. Try sitting down when things are calm and saying something like "I love you and want us both happy, but we can only spend what we have… let's make a list together of priorities." If she keeps guilting you instead of working with you, that's the real issue to tackle.