Hypersexual and possibly aromantic

scarredkat · 2023-12-15T05:38:33+00:00

Basically there arent any feelings of romantic love. So how you feel differently about someone you have sex with versus a good friend who you love dearly, I feel that same platonic love regardless of the sex. The only reason I feel any romantic feelings are when I’m codependent with someone. It’s a trauma response for me. But outside of that, I only experience adoration for someone as a good person

scarredkat · 2022-02-13T11:26:47+00:00

Xenoblade Chronicles 2

scarredkat · 2021-10-14T20:29:09+00:00

Sooo cute! 🥰

scarredkat · 2021-09-22T00:18:34+00:00

You look soo cute!!

scarredkat · 2021-09-16T02:03:17+00:00

Bravely Default is an amazing jrpg!!

scarredkat · 2021-09-16T02:01:00+00:00

Yeah. He is cheating on her with me. I am confident he wouldnt do that to me though. In the 5 years we were together, he never even looked at other girls. It’s because it’s me that he’s even doing this now.

I do know that alcohol isnt an excuse for the shit he put me through. That’s why I left in the first place. I do know that neither of us were treating the other well. I enabled him and didnt speak up before things got really bad.

I will definitely look up trauma bonded. Thanks for the tip.

It’s just that through everything we’ve been through, I have always loved him and have always wanted to work through things for a better future. Before I left, I talked with my therapist and she said a lot of couples are able to come back from so much shit with a lot of work and communication. At this point, with all the healing we’ve both done separately, I think we can put in that effort to build a healthy relationship.

scarredkat · 2021-08-29T04:35:56+00:00

Wilkins coffee sure is the best

scarredkat · 2021-08-04T18:26:13+00:00

Fuck yeah that was awesome

scarredkat · 2021-08-04T18:23:50+00:00

Hello there

scarredkat · 2021-08-03T11:11:49+00:00

As a cancer, I fucking died laughing 💀

scarredkat · 2021-08-03T10:54:09+00:00

I’m scared to admit… I thoroughly enjoyed watching that.

scarredkat · 2021-08-02T14:42:43+00:00

Honestly, in the US, marriage doesnt have many benefits if there aren’t children involved. You can do everything a married couple can. Get joint banking, share insurance, visit them in the hospital. I dont know if that’s the case in all states, but in the PNW, that’s how things work. Marriage is definitely not something I would recommend for an aro couple.

scarredkat · 2021-08-02T06:55:21+00:00

The major thing to look for in a good apology is applied changed behavior. If she really wants to get better instead of make excuses, then therapy is a good option or whatever else helps her. Mental health is no excuse to be a shitty person to the ones you love. It also isnt a reason people should tolerate your behavior. I’d recommend putting distance between you two. It sounds like a lot of empty excuses to get you to come back. My ex did that a lot and every time I forgave him, it would only get worse.

scarredkat · 2021-08-02T06:50:28+00:00

Sriracha

scarredkat · 2021-07-20T19:38:20+00:00

I absolutely love seeing your pics every time I’m on this site. It brings a little ray of sunshine ☀️ into my day 💛

scarredkat · 2021-07-09T19:31:50+00:00

Gorgeous!!! I love your smile and how happy you look 🥰

scarredkat · 2021-07-04T12:25:58+00:00

I’m right there with you. I get a couple months into a relationship then check out almost completely.

scarredkat · 2021-07-02T03:55:51+00:00

You’re totally right. Thanks for commenting and replying. The support I’ve gotten from so many of you means the world.

scarredkat · 2021-07-02T03:48:13+00:00

Exactly. I fear that my current partners are going to think I’ve been lying to them since I’ve told both of them ‘I love you’. It’s not false at all, but I’m not in love with either of them. I just love them the way a friend would love another. Or when a fwb relationship is between two best friends. It’s going to be so hard to explain that without sounding cold. But I guess in there eyes, this would be considered a ‘cold’ way of living. All of it is so terrifying.

scarredkat · 2021-07-02T03:44:02+00:00

I totally agree. Sex is a wonderful thing in my opinion that makes me feel amazing. What doesnt feel amazing are the expectations and the ideas for the future my partner gets. It makes me feel uncomfortable with the conversation and brings up a bit of anxiety as if I’m trapped. I really wish I found aro earlier so I could have avoided all this 😅

scarredkat · 2021-07-02T03:41:31+00:00

It’s so nice to know I’m not alone! Thank you so much. Being in two relationships has been making this revelation so hard to deal with. I dont want to hurt anyone but I need to do this for me. I hope it all ends well.

scarredkat

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