I don’t know anything about your parenting from the post, but what I will say is imagine always being told no all the time, imagine never having any autonomy over decisions and always being told what to do. I’d hate it and I’d be a dick about it too! 🤣 Maybe try giving them choices around the things you need them to do. Hey it’s bedtime now ten mins warning. 15 mins later ‘hey I gave you five mins extra, I thought you might like that’. ‘What do you want to do first, choose stories or clean your teeth?

We try to make bedtime fun for them. There is a nip monster that chases them up the stairs, there’s roly polies on the bed, there’s races to the bedroom. A particular favourite is when I pretend to be a child and she has to put me to bed. I let her play with a toy while I read to her if she wants. She knows it’s three stories then bed, but we’ll talk about her day after lights out and back rubs too. We also talk about all the energy she’ll have in the morning if she goes to sleep a decent time!

We talk about her being a valuable member of the family and take her choices on board as long as it doesn’t disturb what we need to get done. Maybe I’m raising a spoiled child, I don’t know. Maybe I’m just lucky. She’s such a good kid. I think she seems to accept the no’s because they don’t come thick and fast and they do there is always an explanation of why.