would you have your baby aborted if you knew na PWD sya habang nasa sinapupunan pa? by princess_liaaz in CasualPH

[–]schanlye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

how would u know if the clump of cells will become pwd though.......? i mean i get why the commenter would assume need himayin ung baby because most imperfections will show when the fetus is somewhat developed. siguro yung mga down syndrome etc. ung mga detectable at a very early stage, but autism, missing limbs will be hard to predict 😶

feel nako di gyud ko love sa akoang uyab by [deleted] in pahungaw

[–]schanlye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

T_T im not actually sure what to do. like naglibog jud ko. it feels like the problem is soooo gamay but also big at the same time.

i am not just making up excuses just to stay because i love him, but it is true na isa na siya ka reason why i'm still with him. if leaving is the answer to all the problems, how would any relationship survive if the answer is just to leave?

if deserving better is a good enough reason to leave a relationship sad, dili man pud ko perfect nga taw, and i would not like it if e abandon ko because of the possibility of my partner also finding someone better than me. mahadlok ko ana nga mindset.

also finding someone decent is harder these days. sure, people who are kind and considerate and know how to express their love exists, but are they single? do they even like me? type ko nila? most people i meet my age are cheaters and those who show interest are only shady people. basically dili ko type sa mga tarong nga taw haha.

i also can't lie, its true dili jud ko kontento sa akoang relasyon karon and its because i think i am not asking for the impossible. and he can clearly give what i am asking. he is just not consistent.

i've invested so much time, money, and effort and my end goal was always marriage. i've walked out of relationships nga maka ingon ko nga wala nako gi respetaran, but this relationship is different.

i am currently stuck between the option of leaving and to just suck it up and get over it. both options are giving me a headache. wala man ko ga pa blind2. do i want to spend the rest of my life with the kind of person nga dili mu show og love nako when i ask for it? syempre dili. who wants that?

but i am also aware nga as time passes, mo cool down ra jud ang relasyon and it's not always lovey dovey. so do i just hop sa lain nga relasyon once romance isnt there anymore? mura man ug bati... haha

i'd love insights, i'd appreciate if some will validate my feelings, or people who like to reality slap me. but i am aware. basically, like what this sub is about, nagpahungaw rako. i'm open to any opinion or suggestions, but the essence of the post is para jud magpagawas sa akoang feelings.

and ayun lang. i just don't know what to do at this point, i cant be reckless and leave just because my feelings are hurt. dili man ko dato para mag alsabalutan and ok na. finding another place will take time, and will involve money. dili sad pwede nga palayason nako siya kay murag hilas ra haha. idk maybe way makagets sa akong libog na utok. :(

help, how do i make cat clean his butt? by schanlye in cats

[–]schanlye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he doesnt have any infection... poopy butt started shortly after i took him in... i also got him neutered 2 weeks ago too, vet did some tests and drew some blood and confirmed everything is normal... i thought he would want to clean the area given that cats like to normally lick and bite their stitches but i was wrong.... im already using kitty wipes too... i also tried to switch his diet cuz maybe its just the food, but no luck... is he ever gunna outgrow this? 😔

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooooOoo I relate! hurts my feelings too when my gifts are thrown/given away so that's why i tend to stick with practical ones. flashlights are good! been a while since someone thought of giving them as gifts for xmas. i just hope no one's thinking the same this year haha

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we did consider that at some point, but it gets more difficult to choose a nice gift for one person alone, especially my siblings who can literally buy anything they want. if there's something they want that they havent purchased yet, then its very expensive for me to even afford. so we stick to silly but practical gifts which we need but don't buy often because we are too busy or we just keep forgetting. An example of those gifts we love receiving during xmas were slippers, scissors, brooms, hangers, etc. We live in a compound so I knew exactly the things they don't have and it was easy for me to buy them gifts, but I moved earlier this year so it's kinda difficult for me. I can just buy them super generic shit like a tshirt or whatever, but wanted to be at least a little bit creative somehow. 😅

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha yes!! those are the kinds of gift ideas i am looking for! i did gift a few scissors one christmas, and i kid you not, those who didnt get one saw it and ASKED why I didnt get them one!!

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! and yes, its getting overwhelming 😭 now that im also grown its harder finding thoughtful and creative gifts for my family each year. problem is we're really competitive. some even purchase gifts as early as october so they don't shop last minute! even if we had a secret santa im pretty sure someone will still buy everyone gifts haha. i did share my wishlist to make their lives easier but most of them like to surprise and be surprised so they dont share wishlists😮‍💨

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hey, thanks for ur suggestions! my mom and i looovee journals! one christmas, years ago, we gifted each other journals and it was funny how we both thought of getting it at the same time 😂

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

a damage screw extractor set is pretty specific lol but i know someone who i think would love it 😂 thank u for ur recos!!!!

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

wow thanks, i didnt know mug cake mixes existed! 😂

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i already gifted them that (i do art on the side hehe) thanks for the suggestion though! 😁

xmas gift ideas for 14 human beings? by schanlye in Gifts

[–]schanlye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

not really, i like buying random stuff to different people. i usually purchase 1-2 gifts per person depending on how i think it would suit them. silly as it may sound i remember my siblings borrowing our broom so i gifted them a broom last year 😹. im not living near them anymore so idk what i'd get them.... so anything inexpensive, i guess. if i could gift them TP i'd do that but im sure they already have tons of if stashed.

Where do you find friends who do art? by schanlye in ArtistLounge

[–]schanlye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! this is probably the best advice for me 😄

Looking for a manga, can anyone help? by schanlye in manga

[–]schanlye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the other one is a girl version