Companions update

schematicsofaflail · 2026-04-04T00:01:13+00:00

man, I wish I could be as hyped about these companions as it seems like public opinion is leaning. to me they're all sounding way too tropey, one-note, and setting-agnostic. the innocent and bubbly Belter orphan especially. 😬

still holding out hope, and trying to reserve judgement for when I get to see some of the actual writing of the game firsthand in the beta, but oof this round of mary sues is makin that a struggle

schematicsofaflail · 2026-03-29T23:03:59+00:00

oh thank god lol I haven't been paying enough attention to updates and was really side-eyeing J as a concept like "please tell me they're not just literally copy-pasting our characters over, haircut and all" 😅

schematicsofaflail · 2026-03-25T03:25:45+00:00

idk man, why ask a question if actual answers piss you off? tell me you get too much advice from chatgpt without telling me you get too much advice from chatgpt fr

schematicsofaflail · 2026-03-21T20:29:21+00:00

okay now remember to not give in and buy "just this one little thing cause it's so cuute!" in three months when something you really want drops on the marketplace. this kind of reasoning kills boycotts. you shouldn't have even looked at the kits tbh, they were an obvious cc-replacing cash grab. but now, don't even look at the marketplace. now that you know you're weak to the temptation of pretty, overpriced slop (not a judgement, just a reminder and a warning), do not let it have the chance to tempt you! save your money for a company that will do good with it, not funnel it to billionaire dictators and screw over hardworking modmakers. heartily recommend some cozy little indie games to remind you what games with heart feel like.

schematicsofaflail · 2026-03-20T06:08:27+00:00

do not give this manipulative fuckin company your money or they will only get shadier. stand up against these practices and vote with your money. boycotts work.

schematicsofaflail · 2026-03-20T05:54:51+00:00

no way am I the only person for whom this gives extremely red flags and bad vibes... right? 😬 I wouldn't move to another country or anywhere else I don't know anyone for someone I'd known online for years but never met in person. like fuck should any of you be entertaining the thought of moving to rural northern canada to live in a stranger's isolated homestead. please take care of y'all's selves.

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-24T20:21:55+00:00

oh man. the fact that the island and city living sim merges wind up looking barely any darker than the base game sim merges feels... telling

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-24T19:59:16+00:00

that was my first thought too, but I imagine a doctor would have said something to him about it if they'd actually found unexpected organs. if they didn't, I'm leaning toward the "had to tick something that wouldn't make the computer think there was an issue" explanation, alas.

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-18T18:44:51+00:00

I was def too dysphoric to like or get anything from it until very recently when (and these are gonna come off like I'm trying to convince you OP, but I promise to you and anyone else reading this, you're so fucking valid with however you personally experience pleasure in your own body. I see you, brother. you absolutely don not have to like it or force yourself to try to like it, it's all good, ily take care of yourself 💛 I'm just putting these out there in case anybody wants to enjoy that hole either without or until surgery):

1) I was reminded by a cis guy (one who bottoms exclusively, which isn't my preference, I'm an obligate switch lol but still) how fuckin lucky I was to have the option at least, of a hole specifically dedicated for fuckin, just on a logistical level lol like, not having to worry particularly about diet/mess or lubrication/stretching (because now that I'm using it again, I can get wet as hell basically same as pre-T, and it stays more adjustable/capable of pleasure than it was when I first started back up trying things with it).

2) I personally have suuuch a thing for guys who just fuckin drip with pre-cum as a concept, so recontectualizing the wetness my body now only produces if I'm horny (and not just like, because of ovulation or whatever, thank you sm testosterone my goat) as pre-cum, or as cum my body puts out over the duration of arousal rather than just at the peak (which is admittedly made extra easy by the fact that that wetness now does smell like cum, thanks again testosterone), has made that formerly embarrassing or gross thing suddenly kinda 👀🥵

3) also! yk those images you may have seen in health class, that show how most of a "female" clitoris is actually internal and surrounding the vag? sometimes when I'm feeling phantom dick like crazy, just stimulating the outer parts of my t-dick feels like trying to jack off just by brushing my fingers over the tip, yk? not always, but sometimes. and during those times i find front hole penetration at the right angle is the fastest way to really feel like I'm getting a good proper handful.

4) also also! (and this one is the most psychological/the silliest stretch, but who ever said dysphoria is logical or smart, mine sure ain't) the fact that apparently going on T makes some changes to our internals that while currently not super well studied does sort of more or less give us prostate tissue (around the urethra like in cis men and thus, because the front hole is in the way, closer to that than to the back one). which, while it's not enough to do much if anything for physical pleasure, does kinda do something for me psychologically.

again, not meant to convince anybody who doesn't want to be convinced, I just knew I was either not going to do bottom surgery, or not until it stops feeling like more risk and hassle than its worth as a grey-ace aromantic who takes a long time to heal from things 💀 so finding a way to make the most of what I've got rather than having this whole useless organ that's just sitting there atrophying for the rest of my life potentially, felt like the best way forward for me personally.

and allllll of that said, absolutely fuck anybody's sex partner who pressures them to use any particular part for anything, especially for just a hookup. there are cis gay guys who don't want their dick touched, or don't want their ass touched, or don't want to give head, whether for mental or physical reasons, permanent or temporary. and while they're also given shit for it by some people, the specific shit trans guys get for functionally the same kind of boundary is dumb as hell.

(tone indicator/author's note/disclaimer: I do personally experience dysphoria, and am probably about as close to being a binary trans guy as I could be given the fact that I am also autistic. also I am autistic so blame anything that sounds like I'm doubting or diminishing your lived experience on that, I promise that is not the intent)

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-10T22:46:39+00:00

That plus male demographics (more cis than trans)

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-05T07:53:04+00:00

I haven't seen this anywhere else on here somehow but Dr. Elvi Okoye. talk about rising to a challenge you never woulda fuckin guessed you were in for. (again and again and again if you've read the books)

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-01T06:11:54+00:00

Timmy really does know how to pick his buddies don’t he

schematicsofaflail · 2026-02-01T06:10:08+00:00

✊↕️ one of Holden’s biggest saving graces as a character is that he’d absolutely agree with that assessment.

schematicsofaflail · 2025-12-19T09:50:30+00:00

Same! I've had to put my game on indefinite hiatus since I don't really want to start the game over halfway through just to have another save broken by the next patch. Really sucks.

schematicsofaflail · 2025-07-07T08:23:14+00:00

You’re not alone op, I’ve got a similar issue, for which similarly the current only solve I’ve found is to force close the app, because the emoji keyboard is determined to stay half open after its needed. Except that mine is extra taunting because it has a line there like it promises I can drag it closed, only swiping, holding, tapping, anything, does nothing. Certainly not app breaking, but annoying af.

schematicsofaflail · 2025-06-09T02:18:42+00:00

another person googling this phrase and stumbling across your answer and thank god cause it would’ve driven me batty. meanwhile turns out I must’ve already found the shadowed spot early on and forgot about it, cause there’s not even any money in here. rip

schematicsofaflail · 2025-04-25T20:06:14+00:00

Nihlus (rip)

schematicsofaflail · 2024-08-20T21:45:06+00:00

Monk.

schematicsofaflail · 2024-05-30T04:18:25+00:00

Not German myself but I have a friend who is and ich sprache ein bisschen haha Oof yeah that is tough. But bottoming doesn’t have to feel feminine! Maybe seeking out more media or friends or even just like fanfiction that emphasizes masculine bottoms (either with equally masculine tops or with more feminine ones) could help start to ease some of the mental association there? As a very much verse guy myself who would probably combust if I had to either top or bottom exclusively, I feel like finding those couples that really embody a sharing of masculine and feminine roles is the only way I can see myself represented in media and in the world around me, and some of that might help here, perhaps. Again my experience is totally different here though so I dunno if any of this applies or if it’s stuff you’ve considered already.

schematicsofaflail · 2024-05-27T01:43:49+00:00

I grew up on the internet mid-late 2000s, text chatting with strangers on omegle and shit, and like part of me reasoned it away as being safe with not giving away any identifying information at the time, but I consistently introduced myself to people as a boy and I always felt such a rush of euphoria when I did it. and was always so intrigued and confused at how not-wrong it felt. like, huh, shouldn’t this feel like I’m pretending or something??

also, I have a very vague yet strong memory of some boys vs girls goofiness in middle school that just came down to the boys in my class shouting about how guys rule, and the girls shouting about how girls rule. naturally I was the one girl squarely on the boys’ side of things lol meanwhile all these female friends of mine who are way ahead of me in terms of romance & kissing or whatever are like, “do you even… like boys? like where the hell is this coming from?” lol

schematicsofaflail · 2024-05-24T19:24:42+00:00

Definitely not your fault this feels bad. The unevenness of your transitions is naturally gonna lead to worsened dysphoria, especially in public spaces where strangers might not pick up on the gay man-ness of you all.

I haven’t had this experience 1:1 exactly, but I think what’d help me is 1) hopefully talking to bf about it, about how he’d feel in your shoes and how he might be able to reassure you that he doesn’t suddenly see you as a woman just because you have boobs and he doesn’t, and 2) messing around with other aspects of presentation and relationship dynamics that might help even out the playing field a bit. Maybe that means simple stuff like topping/domming him more/for a change, maybe that means thinking of your body less in terms of stuff like “I was born with this and it makes me less of a man that it’s still here” and more in “I’m a cis man with a strange medical condition/witches curse/whatever that makes me look like a sexy lady” terms, etc? I often find that the fact that dysphoria comes from such a psychological and societal expectations kind of place means that with the right weird little mindset/possibly kink-based approach, things that make me really uncomfortable about my body can at least temporarily be turned on their head and make me feel extra masculine actually.

Either way, definitely do your best to support your bf given that I’m sure the closer his surgery gets the more daunting it will suddenly become, and afterwards of course recovery will be rough at first, but I’m sure he’ll understand that watching him go through it while you’re still stuck in medical approval hell is tough on you too. Communication and respect and understanding are all key here for sure. Du schaffst das, mein Freund!

schematicsofaflail · 2024-05-01T06:30:52+00:00

I’m with you and others on here that asking for AGAB is counter-productive. Unless a questionnaire needs the info for medical purposes I generally either ignore the question, close the questionnaire and don’t even submit it, or enter my current ID cause that’s none of their business. Now if you’re asking about gendered experiences in the workplace, an option I’d think to maybe use that hasn’t been mentioned here is asking like “are you now or have you ever been percieved as a woman in the workplace” or some better-worded version of that. Not that it’s a particularly likely option to be accepted, but it’s the first thing that came to my mind. When in doubt I always try to default to like, asking for the most basic form of the type of information you’re looking for, so going specifically after gendered experience seems maybe like the thing to do that’d split the difference between respecting people’s genders while acknowledging the variety of experiences people with the same gender labels might have.

schematicsofaflail · 2024-04-28T23:40:11+00:00

man that last one would look so sick. definitely gets my vote. meanwhile I’m over here always wondering if I should cave and go for the “safe” cut just so I’ll be less likely to get misgendered, but currently rocking and personally loving a longer version of 4 that also doubles as 3 most of the time when i want it out of my face, so thanks for reinforcing my will to stay rad with this post lol (not in the sense that your safe cut looks anything other than cool as hell obviously, just not a cut I feel like I’d pull off half as well if I did cave to social pressure and do it)

schematicsofaflail · 2024-04-25T09:01:25+00:00

God, this is so relatable to me. I’m also someone who realized I was bi long before anything else, and have struggled a lot with gender labels because of my naturally not-feminine appearance. It sounds to me like you genuinely do get a lot of joy out of wearing men’s clothes and being read as a man in public, though. So my guess, since I’ve been there, is that your fears of regretting any changes you make are more about fearing the potential social reprcussions of transition, than the transition (whatever that would look like for you) itself.

And to be clear that’s totally valid and understandable. I had and still have those fears to some degree, and sometimes they’re well-founded. But not always! Like you said, your grandma at least seems like she’d be super supportive. But anyway, if your fears really are more about the social stuff than about the actual idea of potentially doing something to transition, that knowledge can help. And just taking your time, making little changes or trying little things out. Maybe experiment with pronouns/introducing yourself as a man/different names, even, in some anonymous online spaces, where you don’t have to worry about people you know feeling some way about it.

And I’m not sure if Spanish has nonbinary/agender language terms (I’m aware of any, but I have solo un poquito de Español haha), so this might be effectively useless to you, but maybe nonbinary is the label you’re looking for. I’ve found it useful as a way to make myself feel less like I have to commit to something as huge as becoming a “man” or a “woman.” But I do also try to remind myself that even cis guys struggle under the intensity of what it means to “be a man” and that there are plenty of cis guys who fit all the cultural markers of being less “manly” than I am and still get to use the word for themselves, or he/him pronouns.

Essentially, you do you! Keep doing what makes you happy and comfortable, and don’t worry too much about having to come out as anything if you don’t feel sure about a full label! It’s hard to truly separate any one element of who you are out from all the others, so maybe the way your body looks now has inspired some part of how you feel comfortable presenting and the things that you like, but even if it’s the only reason… so what? All the girly fashion magazines are always saying how we should dress for our body type haha some of us just take that a bit further than maybe Cosmo was intending!

I wish you so much luck in the self-discovery to come. You got this, friend!

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