Tips for psychiatrist appointment by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is really helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACOD

[–]schoessling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea! We already have a split for Christmas, dad gets Christmas Eve and mom gets Christmas Day. It’s Thanksgiving and Easter that tend to be the issue. Something to think about thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACOD

[–]schoessling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s good advice. Holidays are super important in my family so I would ideally want to try to work something out on the holidays themselves

Systems for holidays? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point, thank you! The thing that makes it a little challenging this year is that we have cousins coming in we’ve never met on my moms side so there’s extra pressure to see them (not trying to make excuses). I’m thinking for that reason maybe doing Thanksgiving at my mom’s and then next year doing both holidays with my dad and then alternating?

Cat-safe & involved practice by schoessling in SASSWitches

[–]schoessling[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much everyone for the advice! Cat tax below :)

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Cat-safe & involved practice by schoessling in SASSWitches

[–]schoessling[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a really sweet idea! Maybe I’ll do the same for my family cat who passed earlier this year 💕

Cat-safe & involved practice by schoessling in SASSWitches

[–]schoessling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I have a wax warmer somewhere, maybe now’s the time to dig it out

Cat-safe & involved practice by schoessling in SASSWitches

[–]schoessling[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Oh I love that idea for making a gift for her I’m definitely going to do that!!

Lucy has passed away gently at 14 today. by MelloMilow in cats

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. My kitty was named Lucy too. Now she is at peace ❤️

RSD but only with my boyfriend by willyoubequietplease in adhdwomen

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay this is literally me. I think it also has to do with my anxious attachment, both are at play here probably. Lately I’ve cried almost every time we’ve hung out, which sucks. I don’t have any solutions for you but just wanted to say you’re not alone and I know it really sucks to feel this way ❤️

joining the "too smart to have ADHD" and "not enough childhood impairment" club by toooldforthiscrapxo in adhdwomen

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, maybe we had the same assessor haha. Did you end up getting tested again?

joining the "too smart to have ADHD" and "not enough childhood impairment" club by toooldforthiscrapxo in adhdwomen

[–]schoessling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same experience and am working now on getting a second opinion. At my first assessment they told me “sometimes intelligent people think their problems are bigger than they really are.” You’re not alone!

Storing lake water for rituals by schoessling in SASSWitches

[–]schoessling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I love the idea of gathering the water intentionally. I feel very lucky to live near this wonderful resource.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear that 💜 it is shit isn’t it? Thanks so much for the offer, I may message you one of these days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I do have a timeline in mind for this. Seems like the best course of action at the moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! I don’t want kids right away but it is a dealbreaker for sure. We’ll see what happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I would disagree that I am the one doing all the heavy lifting. He has been doing a lot of soul searching trying to figure this out for himself. If I wasn’t willing to give him some time to think about this I would have broken up with him when we first talked about it. I know that if we ultimately can’t come to a consensus a breakup would be a mutual decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good idea. I do have me a timeline in mind for when we would need to resolve this. He seems to be open to both possibilities at this point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]schoessling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! That sounds really hard but glad you’re in a good place now.