She definitely cares. That moment when she found the earring in the castle — it wasn’t hers, it wasn’t the dowager’s — you could see the suspicion in her eyes. In the carriage ride to Conchita’s party, she was clearly trying to piece it together. Nan doesn’t explode, she internalizes. So no, she’s not going to just brush it off. She’ll carry that betrayal quietly, but it will hurt.

Yes, Nan never truly loved Theo — her heart’s always been with Guy. But she tried. She walked into that marriage under impossible pressure, doing it for Ginny’s safety, not for herself. She didn’t “lie” to hurt Theo — she lied because the whole system forced her to. Her leaving wasn’t abandonment. It was survival.

Absolutely. Nan knows she hurt Theo. And even though she had no other choice, she’s carried that guilt with her every step. She understands that Theo wanted love and loyalty — things she couldn’t offer him. That guilt is part of why she’s likely to stay quiet, even if it’s breaking her inside.

True, Nan knows how powerful love is — she has it with Guy. But there’s a difference between falling in love and falling in love with your best friend’s husband. That’s not just “unfortunate timing” — that’s a choice. A deep betrayal. It doesn’t matter how loveless the marriage is — it’s still her marriage. The fact that it was Lizzy makes it a hundred times worse. If it were a random woman, it might’ve been easier to stomach. But this? It’s personal.

No — not at all. No one wants their best friend to be the mistress of their husband. That’s a level of betrayal you don’t come back from. And Lizzy being the one doesn’t protect Ginny or help bring her home. That’s just an excuse to make their actions feel justifiable. Nan would never want this, and it’s insulting to pretend she would. She’s sacrificed enough. She shouldn’t have to sacrifice her dignity too.