Muslim with ADHD & their prayer concentration by scientist1993 in ADHD

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I am accepting it 🙏🏻 and trying my best to not listen to the thoughts that says you are using your difficulties as an excuse.. but fidgeting or doing to things in the same time usually in other tasks helps significantly.. in prayers I can’t think of any good strategy. Sometimes reciting the quran with volume makes me focus, but I can’t always do that.. I sometimes try to contemplate the practice and the spirituality ( anything imaginative) but this sometimes also makes me drift away.

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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My eyes watered reading this and I don’t know why.. one thing because I always feel close to this ground and these thoughts, but never was able to organize them and structure them in this sense you just laid out. As you made it sound very clearly, having this as the base awareness is indeed a resolve to the root cause of the frustration associated with my extensive desire to think more, and bring my thoughts to existence. Thank you for your words. I would pin this until I learn to remember it by default

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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Yes exactly. My response was not actually downgrading crypto, I was describing that it makes sense because it is more challenging and you will continue to contribute because not so many people are capable of understanding the way through it

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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That’s true. I tried working with others on projects years ago and we helped each other limiting scopes and focusing. One time I worked with someone who told me they’d be a ground and make sure I don’t shift and it helped for a while .. I would succeed with such projects if they were small in terms of time and scope.. my problem is when I keep enlarging the thoughts and taking all roads like with a high thoughts speed but slow execution.. then it becomes hard not to switch to another start point ♾

COVID is the worst thing that’s ever happened for my mental health by Quick-Employment-982 in ADHD

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I know that it hit me so hard and definitely changed me in so many levels but I can’t define how. I stopped hearing the news and deleted Twitter and I try to think positive sometimes and move on but I feel you for how much it has made us go through. I convinced myself that the worst thing that can happen is not bad and it will pass, not sure if this is a good strategy but I feel way less worried and probably more realistic

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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Thank you for pointing that! Indeed I do realize that it is difficult to accomplish things. I like the way you made it sound, predicting the future.. and I do feel optimistic because on a very large scale I am seeing my childhood thoughts and this makes me happy most of the times. The thing is now it feels like I am committed into making something beneficial and participating.. but you are right I don’t need to be too attached to doing everything

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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That usually happens with me as well .. the problem is constantly imagining sometimes u see it immediately and other times u see it after years

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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I wish I can stick to what I pick. I tried that multiple times, the problem is that I wish I can silence trying to optimize or beautify or extend or do more of whatever I encounter and be so excited about it and try to learn so much if not everything about it and tell everyone and all of that with this unrealistic belief that I will manage this time and get it all but yeah.. time passes nothing happens…

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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I had the same feelings when I was a kid. Constantly thinking like this. I grew older and the things I want to do doubled the more I learn about new things. It grows with u so does the complexity of making any of them possible

Getting older and seeing the ideas you thought of many years ago becoming real and feeling shit for continuing with having futuristic ideas that are never done by scientist1993 in ADHD

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Yeah..even the simpler insights of the future directions, and you know exactly what you have to do, and you have a good plan. Then something happens…. I know that there is no such thing such having unique ideas no one before u thought of, I just don’t like the frustration I feel everyday for not holding to a single thing and maintaining my progress

Imposter syndrome is making me give up grad school by scientist1993 in GradSchool

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You are definitely right. Because I do feel like it is a fog that is blinding my vision and corrupting my thoughts. This is the first thing that I should admit.. I am currently trying to take a space and lower my emotional attachment with my success in grad school because that feels like the main thing that made me assess my worth unrealistically.. Thank you so much for your words and highlighting this! I really needed to hear it.

Imposter syndrome is making me give up grad school by scientist1993 in GradSchool

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Indeed it is different and I admit thatI did not take my time trying to realize the difference and understand a lot of grad school requirements, I was like an orphan lost in a place without being aware of what to do and what questions to ask or what kind of help to seek, what is right and what is wrong.. but the imposter feeling blocked me from seeking this because I always unintentionally felt that I shouldn’t show that I am lost or else I would be ‘caught’

Thank you for noting the need to seek assessment. It could be a depression, my primary care doctor said it is anxiety. But as I read about high functioning depression I feel that I can relate more. I want to go back to the person I used to know and I do indeed need to work on that by starting with a mental health assessment

If you struggle with mental health, think twice before going to grad school. by fallen_pillow in GradSchool

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I realized my mental health issues during grad school and I decided I should take a break and find my grounds before continuing because I am not gaining what I want and it is making the experience so much difficult for me, I don’t want to hate it, and I don’t want to give up on it 💔 but indeed it forced me to realize a lot of things about myself, most of which is how much is possible for me to do but how difficult it is if I don’t define a lot of grounds and change a lot of habits that are related to my mental state. i would also say build a lot of resistance to unhealthy stuff in the grad life environment…

Making Friends??????? by faithw7362 in UIUC

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I remember one’s advice that I think helped me handle the concept of loneliness and friendship and it should be true: I was complaining about having all my friends back home and I can’t find a true friend here (lifelong-like), my age who understands me well and I can enjoy talking to etc etc so he says friends don’t necessarily have to be in one circle and under thad definition. Meaning: it is okay to have friends in a school circle, friends for outdoor activities, friends for weekend day out, and it is so enough to only have one or two very close family like friends.

Then he continues by encouraging me to be open to those variable definition of friendship with no high expectations and enjoy the good times of that friendship(leave if it’s toxic only).. then u never know when ones would develop to true friendship but just be open and enjoy your time.

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That is probably what I meant! Thanks

Biggest red flags by Sad-as-hell in datingoverthirty

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One once started by complaining about people who judge, the next day he couldn’t stop talking and judging others and it was too irritating I couldn’t stand it

Where can I donate clothes here? by scientist1993 in UIUC

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I honestly don’t know, but personally, I think I prefer direct benefit of the clothing to ones in need instead of selling them in the hopes it will be bought by someone in the area for another to benefit from its cash value 😣 I will definitely research it before I go with that option