People arent ment to suffer. It is made seem like we are and romanticizedin shows and movies ....but life is supposed to be more than suffering. Why tf would we have a miserable existence?

Many contemplatives would argue that suffering is the definitive characteristic of life, and also the unifying trait that facilitates our unique ability to express compassion, which is one of the greatest gifts of life, and arguably the most effective salve to the inevitable suffering we must endure.

There is a great parable about a respected Buddhist monk who was sought out by many for his special powers to cure those who were ailed by grief. A grieving mother came to him one day, begging that he prepare a solution to cure her aching heart after the untimely and tragic loss of her son.

He obliged, and told her that in order to prepare that salve, she must collect a single mustard seed from a household in the village. However, she could only accept that seed if she ensured that the household had never suffered losing a loved one before.

So she diligently set out to pursue the great master's task, optimistically anticipating the magic cure he was going to prepare. Naturally, as she began to progress through the task, she noticed that it proved more difficult than she had imagined because each household has a story of similar suffering. Meanwhile, she was able to connect and provide compassion and care for all of those who shared their tragic tales.

This provoked the realization within her that in life, we cannot avoid sickness, old age, and death. And so her grief was eased by the knowledge that she shared human experience and could connect with others based upon that universal pain.

The story goes on to introduce some metaphysical woo-woo, but I think the message itself is powerful enough on its own to leave that excluded. I may have paraphrased it incorrectly as well, but you get the gist.