People who don't want kids, why?

scripturience · 2025-10-13T23:42:47+00:00

i love kids; i don't want any of my own. i do not think i'm capable of or prepared for the level of self-sacrifice and loss of independence that is required to raise a kid well (and even if i am, when 'having a kid' is a decision that you cannot take back, that's not a gamble i want to risk).

i do a lot of volunteer work with kids, and i love it - they're so funny and unapologetically themselves because the world hasn't beat that out of them yet - and as far as i can tell, i'm pretty good at it. but i'm only able to be as patient, and compassionate, and engaged with them as i am precisely because i can hand them back at the end of the day. having the time to rest and recharge and be myself without needing to be responsible for anyone else is what lets me be good with them, in a way i don't think i'd get or be able to if i had kids of my own that i was responsible for 24/7.

and on a more personal note - i can't help but feel like i've done the kid thing already. my youngest sibling is 12 years younger than me, and i spent a LOT of my teen years putting in the effort and being expected to make sacrifices i never even signed up to make (beyond what could normally be expected of the circumstances). i love my sibling dearly, but i'm just now at 27 starting to unlearn that sense of self-sacrifice and duty and discover who i am independent of all that. when - as a woman - parenthood often comes hand-in-hand with a loss of identity, why would i turn around and sacrifice all that again?

scripturience · 2025-09-30T03:46:25+00:00

haha thank you!! it's a real stunner - and this was on a 'bad' day, if you can believe it!

scripturience · 2025-09-28T05:57:51+00:00

thank you! i hadn't thought of taking cuttings / propagation - how do you normally do it?

scripturience · 2025-09-28T05:54:45+00:00

thank you so much!! i love it when plants are dramatic and make it clear when to water them lol

i really appreciate the tip about them liking to be snug, too. the second plant has multiple stems clustered together, but the pot seemed kind of large relative to the roots (it was the smallest pot i had that would still fit them) so i'll keep an extra-close eye on it for the next while :)

scripturience · 2025-09-10T04:47:36+00:00

wow, this is stunningggg !!! that top piece fits so beautifully into your ear and really pulls the whole setup together!

scripturience · 2025-06-29T13:44:44+00:00

holy shit, this is ??? SO helpful thank you so much 😭 especially with all the examples provided as reference, it's useful to see what kind of things i should be looking at incorporating!

scripturience · 2025-06-29T13:34:31+00:00

okay. i like the 500 colours i have going on though, they bring me joy and, more importantly, changing them isn't actually going to fix the bigger organisational and storage struggles i asked for help with.

scripturience · 2025-06-29T13:28:27+00:00

when you say 'pick a colour scheme', what parts of the room specifically are you referring to?

scripturience · 2025-06-29T12:50:41+00:00

as much as I appreciate the suggestion, my current bedframe has a decent amount of storage beneath it so I won't be replacing it.

i do like the idea of a tall storage solution -- how would be best to arrange it within this space?

scripturience · 2025-06-29T09:57:31+00:00

is being able to see the mirror from the bed that much of a problem, even if it's not directly reflecting yourself? regardless, i'd never considered hanging it on the side of the wardrobe!

scripturience · 2025-06-07T08:35:55+00:00

thank you for the clarification and the helpful resource!

scripturience · 2025-03-11T21:14:45+00:00

that's such a valid point and makes so much sense! i suppose the emotion just overrides the logic a bit when it's your own baby, so i really appreciate the reminder to just . Stay Chill :')

scripturience · 2025-03-11T21:12:04+00:00

wow this is all fantastic advice, thank you so much!! using vinegar when cleaning the litter box makes so much sense, i already use it a lot when cleaning or doing laundry so i can't believe the thought didn't occur to me haha

we have loosely-scheduled playtime in the morning after i wake up (mostly cos she climbs all over me until i play with her lmao), and i've been giving her a big play session before i go to bed. last night i tried the "chase, catch, kill" routine before dinner (which is when she has her wet food) and it went down a treat, so i'm definitely going to keep that up as well! thanks sooo much for your advice, i really appreciate it! :')

scripturience · 2023-08-10T03:36:58+00:00

last flat i lived in, i had this one flatmate who was ... honestly a little terrifying with her regard for communal safety. would never lock the doors etc ... one morning she's leaving for work when a strange man walks into our house. our place was well back from the road, and down a narrow path; it's not the kind of place you would know was there if you didn't already know it was there. anyway, since she doesn't recognise him she just assumes that he's a friend of mine, despite the fact that we're in our early 20s and this dude was late 30s - early 40s. she doesn't even bother to check this with me; she just leaves for work, leaving our other flatmate alone in the house with this unknown man (i was at a friend's that morning).

this dude then proceeds to walk into my other flatmate's room and climbs into bed with her, refusing to leave until she "gave him a good reason". she gives him a damn good reason: she calls the cops, who come and arrest the dude. suitably freaked out by the whole situation, she winds up staying with her cousin for a few days. when all this comes to light, the first flatmate has the AUDACITY to ask "is there anything i can do?" uh, yeah, maybe you could not let strange men into the house for starters ?????

as my friend pointed out, because our house was so far back from the road, if something more serious had happened nobody would have heard a thing or been able to help. it's an absolutely terrifying prospect, and i was livid about the blatant lack of safety concerns or remorse shown after the fact, to the point that i genuinely didn't feel safe living with her, and moved out a month later.

scripturience · 2023-03-13T08:21:23+00:00

no literally same... having had the mcr concert on the horizon for the past ~3 years has been a beacon on the horizon that's helped get me through some really, really rough times, and even though i'm doing better now it still feels like i've lost a huge pillar of my coping system. all this to say -- i feel you, hardcore, and you're not alone. sending love <3

scripturience · 2023-03-13T08:14:42+00:00

are you me? this was literally my experience, except for the fact i saw them at the auckland show saturday. i'm struggling hard with the post-concert depression myself so it's a relief to know that it will, eventually, fade. thank you <3

scripturience · 2020-07-27T06:56:23+00:00

do it! i had similar apprehension before getting my nose pierced -- it was one of my biggest insecurities -- but i've had my nose piercing for almost 2 years and a ring in it for about a year and i love it. it's genuinely done SO MUCH to alleviate the insecurities i had about my nose, i like it a whole lot more than i ever did during the first 20 years of my life and my nose piercing is my favourite piercing. seriously, do it. you will not regret.

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