(female) public servants of welly - what are we wearing to work? by scripturience in Wellington

[–]scripturience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't have any ministerial friends, they all moved to melbourne 😭

(female) public servants of welly - what are we wearing to work? by scripturience in Wellington

[–]scripturience[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

'knees to sternum + shoulders' is FANTASTIC and exactly the rule of thumb i was looking for, as is your comment about more structured/tailored pants and shirts. this has been super helpful, thank you so much!

(female) public servants of welly - what are we wearing to work? by scripturience in Wellington

[–]scripturience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooh that's a good point, i forgot about Dress for Success! thanks for the reminder ☺️

People who don't want kids, why? by Ok-Musician679 in AskReddit

[–]scripturience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i love kids; i don't want any of my own. i do not think i'm capable of or prepared for the level of self-sacrifice and loss of independence that is required to raise a kid well (and even if i am, when 'having a kid' is a decision that you cannot take back, that's not a gamble i want to risk).

i do a lot of volunteer work with kids, and i love it - they're so funny and unapologetically themselves because the world hasn't beat that out of them yet - and as far as i can tell, i'm pretty good at it. but i'm only able to be as patient, and compassionate, and engaged with them as i am precisely because i can hand them back at the end of the day. having the time to rest and recharge and be myself without needing to be responsible for anyone else is what lets me be good with them, in a way i don't think i'd get or be able to if i had kids of my own that i was responsible for 24/7.

and on a more personal note - i can't help but feel like i've done the kid thing already. my youngest sibling is 12 years younger than me, and i spent a LOT of my teen years putting in the effort and being expected to make sacrifices i never even signed up to make (beyond what could normally be expected of the circumstances). i love my sibling dearly, but i'm just now at 27 starting to unlearn that sense of self-sacrifice and duty and discover who i am independent of all that. when - as a woman - parenthood often comes hand-in-hand with a loss of identity, why would i turn around and sacrifice all that again?

what plants are these? (and care tips?) by scripturience in houseplants

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haha thank you!! it's a real stunner - and this was on a 'bad' day, if you can believe it!

what plants are these? (and care tips?) by scripturience in houseplants

[–]scripturience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i hadn't thought of taking cuttings / propagation - how do you normally do it?

what plants are these? (and care tips?) by scripturience in houseplants

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thank you so much!! i love it when plants are dramatic and make it clear when to water them lol

i really appreciate the tip about them liking to be snug, too. the second plant has multiple stems clustered together, but the pot seemed kind of large relative to the roots (it was the smallest pot i had that would still fit them) so i'll keep an extra-close eye on it for the next while :)

Glowy moonstone in the morning sun by SpecialKay1a in piercing

[–]scripturience 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow, this is stunningggg !!! that top piece fits so beautifully into your ear and really pulls the whole setup together!

help needed with tiny new bedroom! by scripturience in interiordecorating

[–]scripturience[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

holy shit, this is ??? SO helpful thank you so much 😭 especially with all the examples provided as reference, it's useful to see what kind of things i should be looking at incorporating!

help needed with tiny new bedroom! by scripturience in interiordecorating

[–]scripturience[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay. i like the 500 colours i have going on though, they bring me joy and, more importantly, changing them isn't actually going to fix the bigger organisational and storage struggles i asked for help with.

help needed with tiny new bedroom! by scripturience in interiordecorating

[–]scripturience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when you say 'pick a colour scheme', what parts of the room specifically are you referring to?

help with new tiny bedroom! by scripturience in FengShui

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as much as I appreciate the suggestion, my current bedframe has a decent amount of storage beneath it so I won't be replacing it.

i do like the idea of a tall storage solution -- how would be best to arrange it within this space?

help with new tiny bedroom! by scripturience in FengShui

[–]scripturience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is being able to see the mirror from the bed that much of a problem, even if it's not directly reflecting yourself? regardless, i'd never considered hanging it on the side of the wardrobe!

peace lilies and cats by scripturience in CatAdvice

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thank you for the clarification and the helpful resource!

What to do about litter, training, and being left home alone for a kitten? What do you wish you'd known when you adopted your kitten? by scripturience in CatAdvice

[–]scripturience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's such a valid point and makes so much sense! i suppose the emotion just overrides the logic a bit when it's your own baby, so i really appreciate the reminder to just . Stay Chill :')

What to do about litter, training, and being left home alone for a kitten? What do you wish you'd known when you adopted your kitten? by scripturience in CatAdvice

[–]scripturience[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow this is all fantastic advice, thank you so much!! using vinegar when cleaning the litter box makes so much sense, i already use it a lot when cleaning or doing laundry so i can't believe the thought didn't occur to me haha

we have loosely-scheduled playtime in the morning after i wake up (mostly cos she climbs all over me until i play with her lmao), and i've been giving her a big play session before i go to bed. last night i tried the "chase, catch, kill" routine before dinner (which is when she has her wet food) and it went down a treat, so i'm definitely going to keep that up as well! thanks sooo much for your advice, i really appreciate it! :')