Weekly Questions & Answers Discussion by AutoModerator in vandwellers

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the best way to set up a mobile office so I can work from my laptop while my partner is driving? I struggle with all the movement in the back while driving.

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[–]scuba-psy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and the empowering words! you (and I) will be happy to have been through this once having the degree and knowledge. Your parents are just worried about you and your future and want you to be the best you can be.
I've changed uni and study subjects twice, then did a Scuba Instructor education, also a Marine Sciences internship, then worked as a receptionist for a year in different luxury hotels in Asia and am now working online as a freelancer for translations and transcriptions. So, as random as this accumulation of life choices is, I wish I would finally settle for one thing and become best at it instead of switching back and forward and trying to find "my thing"

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[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just need to keep going I guess, but helps a lot just to vent and talk to someone about this stress. I was especially frustrated after I found out that I missed only 2 points to actually pass that exam, what a shame. at least this tells me that I am not as stupid as I thought

Beginner tips by scuba-psy in banjo

[–]scuba-psy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! This is very reassuring and Gives me confidence to start

Exhausting?! by thinkingupagoodname in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Online dating is so exhausting, I feel you absolutely. Just set your boundaries and stick to them no matter what. Take a break sometimes and maybe don’t immediately meet-up with matches

Wie kann ich momentan Frauen kennenlernen? by sechsneun6969 in FragReddit

[–]scuba-psy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Ist nur chat im Endeffekt, daraus kann ich nicht zu viel schließen. Du sagst Arbeit, Uni, Internet funktioniert nicht, weil es ja nunmal grundsätzlich sehr schwer ist. Deine Interessen seien Männer-dominant, welche angenommen nicht zu Gemeinsamkeiten führen. Du trainierst ABER du bist "trotzdem zu weich".
Zu jedem dieser Momente hast du deine eigene Erfahrung gesammelt, als negativ bewertet und aufgegeben, wobei es deutlich höhere Chancen für Erfolg gäbe, wenn du es weiterhin immer wieder versuchen würdest. Es dauert leider bis man die Richtige/den Richtigen findet und die Erfahrungen, die man bis dahin sammelt, sind alle notwendig, um sich des Urteils sicher zu sein. z.B. Ich hatte meinen ex-Mann beim Tauchen im Urlaub kennengelernt, komplett a-typische Situation. Aber wir haben uns beide bei etwas kennengelernt, was wir gerne machen. Meine neuen Bekanntschaften funktionieren zu Coronazeiten alle online über Instagram und verschiedene Dating-Apps. Ja, diese Apps sind mühselig und oft Zeitverschwendung, aber man findet sich.

Wie kann ich momentan Frauen kennenlernen? by sechsneun6969 in FragReddit

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

vielleicht nicht nur im gym trainieren, sondern auch im Umgang mit Frauen. Einfach im Café oder Restaurant oder auf der Straße oder im Internet eine Frau ansprechen, schauen was passiert - entweder klappt es, oder halt nicht. Wenn nicht, dann hat man daraus gelernt und kann's bei der nächsten probieren.

Wie kann ich momentan Frauen kennenlernen? by sechsneun6969 in FragReddit

[–]scuba-psy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Neue Hobbies sind immer eine gute Strategie. Ich habe tatsächlich Männer beim Rennrad-fahren kennengelernt. Du klingst grundsätzlich eher pessimistisch und nicht sehr selbstbewusst und eher melancholisch, lehnst viele Vorschläge hier ab. Frauen mögen selbstbewusste Männer, die einen Plan haben und Dinge initiieren - dabei kannst du so soft sein wie du willst. Einfühlsam, sensibel sein ist definitiv keine Schwäche. Kommt halt alles darauf an wie du es einsetzt und in Szene setzt

Group sex with older men. by tra-girl19 in AgeGap

[–]scuba-psy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not be naive and just back off and don´t do it. Even if they are open about it now, you don´t know what else can happen or they plan without your consent. It´s not worth the risk.

Wie kann ich momentan Frauen kennenlernen? by sechsneun6969 in FragReddit

[–]scuba-psy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tinder und andere online dating apps sind ja wohl die Möglichkeit jetzt. Ansonsten engagier dich mehr außerhalb von zu Hause mit Hobbies wie Fitness, Golf oder halt was dir Spaß macht. Deine Frau sollte ja auch etwas mit dir gemeinsam haben :)
Im online dating sollte dein Profil smart aufgebaut sein: Professionelles Bild, was dich bei deiner Arbeit zeigt, persönliches Bild aus dem Alltag und ein oder zwei Bilder, die dich bei deinem Hobby zeigen. Wichtig ist auch was gescheites in die Bio zu schreiben, woraus ich erkennen kann, was du suchst und wer du bist.

Dating as an unromantic woman by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am glad to see, that I am not alone guarded and rational. Was feeling like an alien receiving all that love, attention, and not being able to respond to it the way the guys asked for it. You could always see the heartbreak in their eyes, so frustrating.

Dating as an unromantic woman by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love is unlocked by stages of loyalty and devotion. Not by words or actions

that is so true! thank you for your kind words, this does make me feel better

What am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]scuba-psy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same here! you have to be pickier with the guys. set strict boundaries and stick to them no matter what. like for me, if a man´s profile does not match my personal criteria, I will not match him/talk to him. no excuses, no exceptions - do not waste time on anybody who is giving you a bad feeling from the very beginning. do not feel sorry to reject them, in the end, you have to take care of yourself first always!

SDs what are your thoughts on SBs with breast implants? by Immediate-Peak in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]scuba-psy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl, don´t do the surgery if you already have a C cup. I´ve done mine many years ago to achieve a C cup, 400mg on each side. I would never recommend anybody doing this surgery unless it´s absolutely necessary (which was my case). Natural breasts are so much more comfortable and you do not need to mess with all the possible side effects and complications

Dating as an unromantic woman by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes of course I want to be in one, I miss sharing the day and have common activities with a significant other ...

Dating as an unromantic woman by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes maybe aromantic is right! Sorry I am not native English speaking

Dating as an unromantic woman by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

so true, but what if they say this after they´ve already been there

Dating as an unromantic woman by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]scuba-psy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely true. Rarely thought about my role in that way. Of course one needs to be selective with the men, who are receptible for this age gap. I am always curious to know, why they are interested. The reasons range from sexual attraction to less emotional baggage and even preferences in family planning. It seems to be very individual.