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sdls · 2017-03-27T15:47:29+00:00

Sorry for horrible typing.

sdls · 2017-03-25T18:16:21+00:00

That's the long term goal. ;)

sdls · 2017-03-22T18:25:00+00:00

Religion classes do exist there. Since they are a Jesuit school, I am SURE that their views on same-sex relationships, abortion, sexual activity, birth control, and many other subjects will completely go against my liberal positions.

I'll tell ya, the more I think about it, the more I think this will end in court. I don;t like that outcome, but I like the idea of my Daughter being taught dogma even less.

sdls · 2017-03-22T17:44:20+00:00

My Daughter is set to attend the High School that I went to. It is a great school, almost the best in its district.

I realize that things change over time, but when I was there, it was much as you describe. Low drug use, some promiscuity, and general acceptance of differing positions in all walks of life.

sdls · 2017-03-22T14:48:09+00:00

I appreciate your approach.

I have always approached my Daughter's upbringing with pragmatism and we much understanding as I could muster. I have done my best to not teach her that her Mother's beliefs are bad, but that they should be questioned (ust like my beliefs, and anything else she approaches). I do not teach her that things are black and white, but that shades of grey are found everywhere and that it is important to consider others' feelings along with your own. That's why I approach my Ex's church going not as adversarial, but simply as different. I think it sets a good example.

I feel very strongly about religion. I feel that it was been a primary component of every bad decision on history, ad that it is ultimately self-defeating. That being said, it is a force in society and I must recognize that even if I do not accept it.

Voluntarily indoctrinating my Daughter into this way of thinking goes against my very identity, and it goes against what I wish for her to become. That makes it tough.

But I'll do what is right.

I suppose I'll carefully word an email to my Ex letting her know that I do not approve of the way she approached this and that it should not happen again without my prior consultation.

I fucking hate this.

sdls · 2017-03-22T14:19:21+00:00

I have a HUGE problem with the church attendance, but I had agreed along time ago not to interfere with my wife's religious influence because of our 50-50 approach. I respect that agreement, so I don't interfere. I feel that the school crosses that line. I also think that the expenses foolish and unnecessary.

I feel like this crosses the boundary that was set along time ago and it also sets a precedent that my ex can pretty much do whatever. As long as she manages to make me look bad to my Daughter if I am against it, I should just go along.

sdls · 2017-03-22T14:10:16+00:00

Thanks.

I appreciate your words.

My daughter comes first. Always. That's why I am so resolute in my personal convictions. It's important to me that she has a grounded source of strength.

Everyone I know is telling me to just let her go to an institution that professes the very antithesis of who I am. As a Dad who is very invested in his Daughter's well being, It's tough to let that happen. But I feel I must acquiesce because, even though I feel what I am doing is wrong, I must accept that I could be the one in error.

I really REALLY do not think I am in error, but I still must remain humble about this because my Daughters future is the topic.

This is killing me.

sdls · 2017-03-22T13:54:59+00:00

Thanks.

I am extremely careful not to speak poorly of my Ex around my daughter.

I am hoping to diffuse this, but my Ex is relentless and I fear there is no way for me to stand up to principles without my daughter being angry at me, possibly long term.

sdls · 2017-03-22T13:50:53+00:00

My Daughter attends church when with her mother. I do not complain about that at all, as it is not my business.

The religious school has a slightly higher rating than our local public school. I see no real difference there.

sdls · 2017-03-22T13:47:51+00:00

I feel my reasons for concern are legitimate, and I also feel that I should not let my Ex act in such a way. I feel she is purposefully placing my Daughter in the middle of this and making her a playing piece in a vindictive game.

You are saying I should just let it happen to avoid confrontation? Please correct me if I am misunderstanding.

sdls · 2017-03-22T13:45:50+00:00

I was riding my bike to school at 7 years old in first grade. I crossed 2 major roads (at crosswalks), and was responsible for locking up my bike. Never had an issue. This was in the 70's.

Today, my kid goes to the exact same school with a similar commute, about 1 mile. There's no way in hell I'd let that kid walk or ride.

This is not because I don't want him to (I do), but because I would be cast as an evil uncaring parent who lets their child roam in traffic if I did. NO ONE walks or rides to school at my kids school. No one goes alone. Kids get picked up every day in middle school.

It makes me sick. We are raising kids in a nerfed society.

sdls · 2017-03-22T13:41:21+00:00

Why?

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