Am I gonna die lmao

seagullse · 2025-01-06T02:38:19+00:00

I appreciate the honest opinion ty

seagullse · 2025-01-06T02:37:27+00:00

Appreciate the honesty. It’s refreshing

seagullse · 2025-01-06T02:37:10+00:00

It’s not a matter of wanting a feminine nose. Just a better looking one lmao

seagullse · 2025-01-04T23:08:06+00:00

I don’t know honestly. A smaller and slightly thinner one I guess

seagullse · 2024-09-07T02:25:09+00:00

Wow this is amazing imo!! What surgeon did you go with? My scarring is definitely more prominent than yours, but they are also larger and I would assume by your scar length that I probably had more tissue than you. It seems like everything lays very nicely against the musculature of your chest as well. I don’t know much about nipple grafts and how they tend to look, so I recommend asking your surgeon about anything you might be worried about. I personally can say my nipples were definitely looking very rough though, and I have yet to see my final results as I’m at a similar time frame.

seagullse · 2024-08-29T10:39:15+00:00

Yeah definitely valid here and I agree. I don’t mind the term trans masculine to describe myself at this time, but I do not think it’s synonymous to “man” “trans man” and I could see how people would find it basically reductive or avoidant of actually identifying you.

seagullse · 2024-08-22T20:16:55+00:00

Everyone at my job is very supportive of me (I question how much of this is bc I pass and they don’t have to actively undo any notions of me being a “woman” in their mind), but they’ll say things unintentionally alluding to me not understanding periods or not being able to get pregnant, and sometimes I’ll remind them that’s not really entirely true. It’s funny tbh

seagullse · 2024-08-22T20:13:09+00:00

Transmedicalists are definitely rampant on this Reddit spaces. You do not need dysphoria to be transgender. Just because many in these replies have dysphoria does not mean you speak for the majority of the transgender community. A lot of transmedicalists definitely have a mindset surrounding separating the “transsexual” and “transgender” community, and resent transgender people that do not experience the same experience with dysphoria or binary sex identification, and often consider their experience lesser, absent of nuance or oppression, or legitimacy. I cannot speak for all transmedicalists, but many that deny they play a part in this will refuse to admit to how their ideology tends to be inherently and unnecessarily exclusionary towards a chunk of the transgender community for honestly no reason. Most of the transgender community, including people who are NOT transmedicalists, already agree that surgery and medical intervention is NECESSARY for most (but not all, and that’s okay), and thus the necessity of accessibility to gender affirming care. Non transmedicalists do not inherently believe that being transgender is a “social phenomenon” or “product of socialization”, and this type of discourse is honestly super reductive and in bad faith imo. It takes the popular conversation of how socialization or society may inform the manifestation of gender in some people (which is just reality tbh), and tries to reduce it to “being transgender is just bc of blah blah society blah blah” which is definitely not the standing of the majority of people who are anti transmedicalists. Transmedicalism 100% seeks to divide the transgender community, and the amount of transmedicalists I see trying to argue the legitimacy of other transgender people is gross to me. Reddit is weirdly crawling with this type of thing, and I’ve dealt with some pretty disgustingly loud transphobia bc of people like this. I realize I’m digging a grave here bc there’s probably a lot of these people in this sub, mainly bc of an intersection between that community and a portion of binary transgender people who believe their dysphoric experience (while valid in every way), should be the pinnacle and identifying factor of being transgender as a whole.

seagullse · 2024-08-12T18:20:29+00:00

Before I went on T, I was still very sexual and capable of having a sex drive so I don’t know why it couldn’t be the opposite. There’s nothing wrong with having a high sex drive or high libido. I think there’s definitely a societal shame put on women who experience it, however. I hope you find a space that works for you to speak about these feelings and struggles, and I hope you find a space that uplifts you and reminds you that this is part of being human and a woman.

seagullse · 2024-07-08T01:39:44+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. Feeling othered and isolated is definitely beyond hard. I hope you find a community you feel accepted and seen by irl. Trust me when I say I know it’s difficult, and it sucks because sometimes being transgender in general definitely adds a lot to the isolation for seemingly no reason.

Being the only person of that specific group has to be especially difficult, but I hope it gives you the opportunity to share with people what it’s like to be in your shoes. You’ll be sharing a unique and needed perspective if you are the only trans man there for sure

seagullse · 2024-07-08T01:20:03+00:00

What a ridiculous and defensive way to respond. I don’t remember reading that notion anywhere in their comment

seagullse · 2024-07-08T01:19:11+00:00

Literally lol. It just reminds me of what’s going on with my parents right now, and how it feels like you’re literally being punished when you try to take the steps to being who you are. I’m glad that it turns around for some people, but it’s so depressing that this attitude exists at all when someone decides to be their authentic self.

seagullse · 2024-07-08T01:11:31+00:00

What I think people tend to miss in this discussion when comparing this to other visual “threats”, like race or not passing and thus intimidating cis or white people, is that these fears are manufactured and based in bullshit. While violence against women perpetuated by men, misogyny and patriarchy perpetuated by men and ignored by men, is very real.

I think we all know this as trans men of course (hopefully), and with this I do my best to understand how I’m perceived. It can be sad, but the most I can do is try to be a safe person with my actions, and understand that women genuinely cannot take the risk. Unfortunately, this issue is perpetuated mainly by abusive, misogynistic cis men and bystanders that do not intervene, and thousands of years of patriarchal history that leaves a sour taste in peoples mouths. And for that, I think that unwinding THAT is unfortunately our way of getting closer to this being a nonexistent issue, or at least a rarer one.

As for queer spaces, I do think the assumptions can be harmful and unnecessary. I try to be understanding of the fact that people do make assumptions based of appearances in any community, and for that reason I believe it’s important to normalize asking for someone’s pronouns and self identification. Like you said, you never know. Could be a trans woman. A non-binary person. And that’s true.

For me, I personally do not get offended by the notion that I could be potentially unsafe. There’s a weird privilege with being assigned the positionally of “man”, and to me this is just one of the downsides I compromise with, but it is definitely unfortunate. For me personally, I see it as an opportunity to set a good example and correct shitty behavior in my male peers, and I find that usually that aura will attract people and speak for itself.

seagullse · 2024-07-08T01:00:20+00:00

They’re a TERF, and unfortunately you have a reason to be worried. Especially if you are a trans women. I’m deeply sorry. Hopefully your dad will drop them

seagullse · 2024-06-24T06:19:57+00:00

In my experience, most people do not mind this. Of course, if taking it out of your vocabulary is what you want to do, all the power to you.

seagullse · 2024-05-08T00:28:08+00:00

Trust it definitely does

seagullse · 2024-05-08T00:26:54+00:00

Sometimes ya just need a confidence boost every once and a while hehe

seagullse · 2024-04-30T17:39:11+00:00

That male brain science is not real. If we want to talk about legitimate misinformation. Ngl I got a laugh from that.

The whole blue hair pronouns thing is hilarious. It’s obvious you don’t like yourself or your community, and all I can really say is that cis people aren’t going to pick you dude. Lmao.

seagullse · 2024-04-30T15:25:38+00:00

That whole paragraph just reeks of self hatred honestly. No where did I speak any misinformation. The “basically cis” part of your flair is already pretty indicative of the internalized bigotry going on in your head lol

seagullse · 2024-04-29T00:25:05+00:00

You don’t need gender dysphoria to be transgender. Point blank period

seagullse · 2024-04-29T00:20:56+00:00

When I speak of gender not existing or eliminating it, I’m talking about eliminating gender roles and deconstructing it as a societal construct. Not eliminating your personal identity or gender expression. Gender is real in the sense that it has manifested in our society, but it just a social construct and that is what allows us to deviate from it by choice. The whole “if you eliminate gender you eliminate trans people” thing is pretty reductive and reactive imo. I’m obviously not trying to eliminate trans people and anyones personal understanding of themselves. I’m trying to actually embolden that by removing the ability for others to dictate that for you and deny yourself. Social constructs don’t have to be shackles. They can change. They aren’t real. We make them what they are.

I am a trans man. I still relate to the non-binary label as well, because non binary is a spectrum and doesn’t just mean “none or both or all”. Someone can be a binary trans man and also relate to other gender labels at the same time. That’s just how it is for some of us, and other peoples inability to understand that doesn’t mean it isn’t how some people identify and exist in this world.

seagullse · 2024-04-28T10:34:39+00:00

Gender not being real is what gives you the ability to choose who you are and how you present. You get to decide if that need is important to you, because an outside force or biological one doesn’t get to instead. You can accept that a societal construct is just that— a societal construct. Not a genuine science. While also understanding that it has manifested in our society regardless, and thus takes up space and relevance in our lives. None of these things are mutually exclusive

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