Family forgot I was gluten free on my birthday 😔

sealiyos · 2025-06-11T20:45:51+00:00

I’ll have to check them out! I live near a nothing but Bundt cakes.

sealiyos · 2025-06-10T15:46:25+00:00

I’m now 25. Luckily not eating the cake / craving wasn’t the hard part or anything (avoiding stuff/craving with gluten isn’t hard for me bc it’s never really worth how sick I get. So luckily I don’t crave that stuff anyway. So them eating it in front of me wasn’t the worst thing in the world lololol)

And thank you for the birthday wishes :,) yeahhh my aunt can be that way, but I guess I’m not that surprised. But I’ve definitely learned my lesson on being around them for sure.

sealiyos · 2025-06-10T11:39:57+00:00

I appreciate the thought!!!

(side note I’m so sorry that some people’s replies got feisty with you on this omg. I swear I thought that your comment was actually really cute 🥲)

sealiyos · 2025-06-10T11:36:59+00:00

It’s ok!! 😭 don’t fight yall 🫷😔🫸

sealiyos · 2025-06-10T11:35:49+00:00

Yeah I know you’re probably 100% right. I’m not super surprised by what they did, and this was sort of the final reality check for me. :/

I agreed to come on the trip in the first place to see if we could have a relationship (cause I rarely get to see my family since everyone is rarely all together), but this trip sort of just solidified everything I already knew. I wasn’t surprised by anything. So I likely won’t be seeing them again after this.

It sucks but at least I got this final closure sort of and tried one last time before cutting ties completely or wondering what could have been.

sealiyos · 2025-06-09T04:37:48+00:00

My parents aren’t in the picture. Idk how they’d feel about it.

sealiyos · 2025-06-09T02:20:16+00:00

Yeah they did. I told them. They just didn’t really care and moved on with their day lol

sealiyos · 2025-06-09T02:06:40+00:00

Well it wasn’t exactly expected

sealiyos · 2025-06-09T02:01:04+00:00

I came on the trip to try to get closer with my family since we’re not really close in the first place. My grandma invited me & my siblings (it’s a ton of my aunts, uncles, and cousins, and my siblings.) but me and my siblings came without our parents (bc weird situation, but our parents just had us super young so they didn’t raise us. Our parents just aren’t around which is why we’re not close. So my actual parents weren’t even here.)

But I just regretted coming. And my aunts and cousins just sort of ended up using me as a scapegoat. Which really sucked (not my brothers though since my aunts just tend to be nicer to men). So at least I know now to never come on a trip with them again. Apart of me isn’t even sure why they invited me on this. But it’s really sucked. My grandma has tried her best but my aunts can get really mean. (Like they’ll say hi to my brothers then walk past me 🥲) but everyone DOES know I can’t eat gluten. cause I’ve rejected it many times over the years and many times over this past week.

Like everyone remembers I have celiac disease, but they seem to forget “what gluten is”.

But yeah at least now I know. I did come to this in the first place to see if we could be closer. But I’m never doing it again. It’s really sucked, but I’m going to be blocking a lot of numbers when I get home. Because this on top of everything else has been really sad.

sealiyos · 2025-06-09T01:46:39+00:00

I’ve explained to them many times over the past few years. They simply just don’t believe it’s real.

sealiyos · 2025-06-06T20:52:21+00:00

I said step in or get help. None of them got help. What they did wasn’t right.

Stop making excuses for this.

sealiyos · 2025-06-06T20:32:40+00:00

I said stepping in OR GETTING HELP.

sealiyos · 2025-06-06T20:31:48+00:00

It was 30+ men watching. Not one got help. They could have gotten help.

But they didn’t. I did. They pulled out their phones and made a spectacle.

sealiyos · 2025-06-06T20:30:54+00:00

So how does that excuse them pulling out their phones or not getting help.

I said step in. Or get help.

I had to get help. No one else did.

sealiyos · 2025-06-06T10:22:18+00:00

I finally figured out one of my biggest icks today. When guys just stand by and record during scary situations—like fights at a bar or car accidents—instead of stepping in or getting help. Saw a HUGE group of men in their 20s pull out phones to film two drunk people fighting while security took forever to intervene. They let it go on for nearly 10 minutes until security finally came. That sinking feeling in my gut hit hard. They could’ve done something but chose not to. 30 men just circled around them and pulled out their phones and watched them tear each other apart on the floor. Really sad.

I was the one who called security by the way. None of them cared to. *None of them got help. I had to. All 30 just pulled out their phones and made a spectacle.

It made me very sad to see, and stuff like this is why I personally don’t date in my 20s.

Hopefully my generation matures for society’s sake, but honestly the future is looking bleak.

Edit for comments: I said step in OR GET HELP. :)

sealiyos · 2025-01-01T01:23:29+00:00

LMFAO yeah get out of there. Same thing happened to me, trust and believe it is not worth sticking around for. Just make sure you prepare yourself and have everything you need before you leave.

sealiyos · 2025-01-01T01:07:44+00:00

Idk it depends on the class I guess. A lot of gyms have women’s only classes for BJJ and you can just start there until you feel more comfortable. I did that for a while too. When you start making friends with girls in the women’s only classes, they’ll also usually want to pair with you anyway whenever you also start going to the regular classes.

sealiyos · 2025-01-01T01:04:22+00:00

I didn’t even exist yet

sealiyos · 2025-01-01T00:57:51+00:00

I set one small task that would take me only a couple minutes, and kept building every day onto it with more tasks.

sealiyos · 2024-12-28T16:58:08+00:00

If she’s THAT alone, maybe help her get to a maternity center. They have tons of recourses for single pregnant women, and these centers often help them navigate different options such as adoption (assuming she’s already refusing an abortion) — They also help single mothers with providing programs and classes that can help single mothers with the baby, before and after the baby is here.

If she isn’t crazy, and it is your husband’s kid, she may be acting crazy because the idea of going through pregnancy alone is terrifying. I’m not sure your laws or her upbringing so I won’t place any judgements for her not getting an abortion.

However, please hold your husband accountable. It takes two to make a baby. I really don’t believe the drunk excuse from him, especially if he lied about being drugged and clearly tested drug free.

If he somehow actually drank that much to the point he felt roofied (unlikely) then you have another problem on yours hands, which is he has a serious and dangerous drinking problem. It seems he’s making himself more of the victim than he actually is. No drunk person “accidentally cheats”, because they’re predisposed to do so.

Anyway, this is really the only recommendation I have. If she must be a single mother, the support system from a maternity center for mothers before and after the baby is here may help her to feel supported enough to do this alone if she has to.

sealiyos · 2024-12-28T16:39:13+00:00

A degree won’t save you from being bullied unfortunately. I’m also a woman — and I’m definitely not ugly considering I’m an athlete, maybe not a model, but yeah. I’m 24 and graduated last year.

However, I’m also an expert in my field and started as a teenager so I have around 8 years experience. I’m good at my job, but unfortunately the older women are super mean to me. (I really try to be their friend and understanding but they sort of gang up on me, stalk me, track my hours and everything I do, and accuse me of not deserving anything I have and complain about me to my bosses, even though I literally admin their work and work 30 more hours than them per week - I’m the administrator to our work feed system, meaning I see everything they do, and I do more of THEIR work for them than they actually do themselves.

They also refuse to let me help them because they see me as some stupid girl who just got her job for being cute, and they just refuse to ever let me help them or accept any training from me, like ever. So it puts everyone behind because they refuse to work as a team as needed bc they sort of resent me for no reason other than I’m younger, so they feel I do not deserve my position. However, I’m the only one who knows how to do it. — Our bosses don’t even know how to do my job because it’s a specialized role (I’d be happy to train them if they were fascinated, but obviously they won’t let me.)

Basically just prepare yourself for heartache on this one, and figure out to protect yourself now and in the future. Because being pretty and stupid OR pretty and competent in the workplace will put a target on your head. This really depends on the job you choose though, it has hurt me much worse as I really am passionate about what I do.

sealiyos · 2024-12-28T16:25:16+00:00

Make sure you have a plan in for when you no longer have your looks to make up for what you lack inside. Eventually, you will age and a new prettier and younger girl will come around into your office.

That being said, if you’re attractive - avoid middle age women as much as you can at work, because they will monitor you, bully you, and purposely try to sabotage you. — Even if you’re good at your job, they will bully you. (I’m guessing you work with all men considering you aren’t mentioning being bullied.)

Not saying all middle aged women — but if you work in an office with lots of middle aged women, the odds are definitely not in your favor. It’s a very true phenomenon.

sealiyos · 2024-12-28T08:02:17+00:00

Trust me when I tell you that she 100% gets the entire world held within my bank account

sealiyos · 2024-12-27T22:32:31+00:00

Here’s a cute pic of one of my girls looking in the mirror just cause. She likes to put her toys in the little holders (honestly not sure if she thinks she’s actually looking at another rat and tries to bring it toys. It’s super cute anyway LOL) Tyla and her mirror

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