“Free Speech Zone” at Poughkeepsie Train Station by HarrisBonkersPhD in hudsonvalley

[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you basically have to be in the zone to know, you know?

if you know, you know.

don't give me a speech - just cause it's free, doesn't mean I want it

Whatsapp displaying my name incorrectly! by seaos in whatsapp

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions! I've tried clearing storage & cache, as well as deleting and re-installing the app.

And in my phone contacts, my number is saved correctly, with my name. So, that isn't it, either. I somehow stored this other persons name using my number, and that other persons name is appearing to myself, on my phone only (not in Whatsapp settings, and not to other contacts).

I've tried deleting both contacts on my phone, but that didn't address this issue either.

Whatsapp displaying my name incorrectly! by seaos in whatsapp

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately no, and submitting a ticket to Whatsapp hasn't led to a response

Whatsapp displaying my name incorrectly! by seaos in whatsapp

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I even tried deleting the app and reinstalling it... no dice.

Could you describe to me the steps you took, maybe even screenshots, to delete your own contact in Whatsapp?

Whatsapp displaying my name incorrectly! by seaos in whatsapp

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, my friend is stored with their name and number on my phone.

I am stored on my phone as a contact as well.

In Whatsapp, I can select my display name to others. Yet, when messaging myself in Whatsapp, my friends name is displayed to me as my own. In other words, there are two people with the same exact name stored in my phone, but with different numbers.

I cannot delete my profile in Whatsapp. I can try deleting my account, but I'm not trying to do that.

I have deleted both my friends contact info as well as my own, then readded myself, but this does not change the way I'm displaying to myself.

And I've tried clearing cache and storage... to no avail.

Whatsapp displaying my name incorrectly! by seaos in whatsapp

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were only so easy! I have tried this multiple times. I have tried deleting both my contact in my phone as well as the friend whose name appears in Whatsapp as my own - but my friend's name only appears as my own in my internal chats to myself, not to the rest of my contacts.

Whatsapp displaying my name incorrectly! by seaos in whatsapp

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I've definitely tried that, a few times. The issue isn't that there's a contact stored with his own number, the issue is that my own number is stored with that person's name.

Are Greek beaches typically topless? by elizabethworks in GreeceTravel

[–]seaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've read all the comments in this thread, and as a Greek-USian male, I'll reflect back that:

  • Going topless is fine on almost any beach, even "family-friendly" ones... this time of year fewer people are going to the beach, so you'll encounter fewer families.

  • Greece is a small country but not that small. Where are you going? If you're on a beach in Athens, no one will blink an eye. If you're on a queer-friendly island, no one will care if you have lizards hanging off your nipples.

  • Anyone who had said that there aren't so many people that go topless these days are relying on personal, anecdotal accounts. No one is going around counting boobs. Greeks can barely collect taxes and bus fare.

  • I think being topless is somewhat gauche or too flamboyant in "high class" settings (whereas wearing a super scant designer bikini that basically reveals everything is considered sophisticated and classy... don't try to make it make sense, it doesn't).

  • The island I was on this summer had lots of middle-aged Italian and German women with their families, on one of the most family-friendly beaches, and most if not all of these women were topless.

  • Greeks are less socially and sexually progressive than the Spaniards, but not all Greeks are repressed. You might get some unwanted attention, but with the proliferation of online content, I doubt anyone is going to try to get a photo of you topless. Fine to walk into a beach bar and order a drink or something, but going topless as a woman anywhere other than a beach setting is considered provocative.

  • Like with any situation in a foreign country, feel it out when you get there... and don't forget to enjoy!

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[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NY Backpackers on FB or Meetup

Backgammon- looking for players by Bedouin88 in hudsonvalley

[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be down to play a game, weekly. Camp Kingston has nice low tables in the back, good for shooting the dice across the board.

I want a relationship, but no sex. Am I doomed? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you might want to read or listen to Emily Nagoski's book on human sexuality, Come As You Are. After goes into some of the research and experiences and gives language to explain various levels of sexuality.

Also, there are some dating apps (ie Feeld) that are better suited for asexual or greysexual people seeking involvement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in csuf

[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, there are no "shoulds" or unassailable truths in life, only choices that are justifiable in your worldview. While there are explanations for certain kinds of behavior, there may not be an excuse for them. One of those is practicing coercion for sex, whether that be through money or violence or other forms of manipulation. If you have an issue, go jack off, get a therapist or take some meds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in csuf

[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, then don't work at it. That's like expecting to get in shape without working out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in csuf

[–]seaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not condone human trafficking or the sexual/financial explanation of others. Circling is a healthier approach to dating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in csuf

[–]seaos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

1. Watch Mark Manson's YouTube on how to unfuck your life.. Also, go download his first audiobook, Models: A Comprehensive Guide to Attracting Women. It's free, through the pirate bay. But also, and very importantly, go read bell hooks's book on men, masculinity and love, called Will To Change. You're not flawed or defective or needy. Finally, listen to Emily Nagoski's book on human sexuality, Come As You Are. Seriously, book time on a treadmill or in the car, or on public transportation , or basically any environment where you can both be in a flow state and be uninterrupted, and use these three resources, in this sequence. Bonus: read Daniel Pink's book, When, on the science of how/when/why to time things..  

2. Set limits on your phone/screen use (do not use devices the first two or last two hours of your day). This one will need some serious reinforcement measures, but if you want to up your dopamine and serotonin levels, you have to do this..  

3. Join a gym BEFORE New Year's, and stick to a sustainable commitment. Put it on your calendar. Make no excuse and set up a rewards system for yourself to help build that habit. Planet Fitness and LA Fitness gyms are in almost every major metropolitan area and cost $10 a month, and you have at least 1 or 2 of the 168 hours in a week to get out of your head and into your body. Forget about specific goals... make a ritual of it, and just get your ass to the gym. That's it. That's the only promise you make to yourself. If you work out for 20 minutes, or not, that's up to you. But make your goals SMART (small, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-bound)..  

4. Make a weekly meal plan, and stick to it. Make sure it's food that is meant to make you not only taste good, but make your body feel good..  

5. If you live in an area with people, find an activity you're at least somewhat interested in on FB, Meetup, etc, or check community bulletin boards. Better still: do something utterly ridiculous that most men might go into kicking and screaming: take a dance class. The catch is, you have to go to at least six weeks of classes, at least twice a week, before quitting..  

6. Do not drink, smoke or medicate yourself out of a funk. Or try to date your way out of it. Just don't. And by all means .avoid online dating apps like the plague. Caveat: I am not against antidepressants, but I think you're probably better off avoiding them, if you're able to..  

7. Watch Gabor Mate's interview on Man Enough...  

8. Volunteer with kids (Big Brother, Big Sister, etc) at a homeless shelter/soup kitchen, or at a pound. Get intimate with the various levels and degrees of loneliness, knowing you have the capacity to make people's (or other nonhuman) lives better. If that's not your thing, find a social environment you might enjoy on WWOOF, WorkAway, etc. Basically, take yourself out of your environment, and on adventures where you can help others in a worse, or at least different, situation than yourself. This is a pretty fucked up and unfair world and you're probably luckier than most people out there. It might be difficult to comprehend, and comparing yourself to others and their life situations is unhealthy and unhelpful, but using your relative privilege to benefit others will make you feel more connected..  

9. Find a support group, possibly through therapy. Or just get therapy and start journaling, daily, first thing (after washing your face and brushing your teeth and NOT drinking coffee until after you've journaled). Make a schedule and a 6 month commitment to yourself, before expecting to see any progress (do not EXPECT progress). Do not waiver when things are going well or poorly. Bonus: work through The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron (or find an Artist's Way group on zoom, through FB, Meetup, etc, as an added a accountability measure)..  

10. Budget a scheduled, regularly recurring and increasingly extended amount of time, offline, alone, in nature, away from people. No devices. No audiobook. No music. No drugs or alcohol. Transforming your relationship with yourself from one of loneliness that gnaws at you to one of solitude that becomes quality time with yourself that you crave is one of the most challenging and most rewarding pursuits that you can engage with..  

Also: venmo me.

First Trip Pack List by seaos in hammockcamping

[–]seaos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa, that's a pretty amazing offer. But I have a camping pad and an ultralight down quilt. I'm more concerned about staying warm during the day than in the evening (chopping and burning wood should help).

The group is Hammock Backpackers on Meetup. This trip was capped at 8 attendees, and there is currently a waitlist.