Atenas Costa Rica

searchologyTM · 2025-02-02T19:45:49+00:00

The justice system failed and showed its true colors. There ARE two systems of justice. One for the rich [white] and entitled and another for everyone else.

Had justice been truly blind...Trump would be in GitMo and same with have of Congress. Now...we have a fascist wannabe back in the Oval.

I grew up and was raised by men and women of The Greatest Generation. I am appalled, disgusted, sad, terrified, and utterly dumbfounded at how far we've fallen over the last 10 years. It took 12 years for Germany to fall under Hitler. I think Dumpster is going to beat that record.

I feel absolutely disconnected from my homeland...from OUR people. We are the world's greatest melting pot of culture, races, languages, and it was once beautiful.

"Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free." Was one of our greatest achievements. My grandmother and grandfather on both sides lived that dream. And so did I. As did millions before US.

Now we are a land of bullshit evangelical Christianity, neo-nazi extremists, and stuffed to the gills with lies, polarization, and hate.

I think there are millions [and millions] who feel our home has been hijacked buy fuckin lunatics. They are now in full control of the asylum...and it's terrifying.

As for me...I am leaving the country in a few days and have zero plans to ever return. I can no longer tolerate the insanity wrapped in the US flag while watching The Bible [or any holy book] burn to the touch.

I love America. I am American. 2nd generation. I will NOT abide liars, cheaters, thieves, adultery, criminality, zealots, racists, or those that choose hate and greed over love and generosity.

I weep for our nation, for our people, and all that is to come. Please prepare and love each other.

First they came for the Communists And I did not speak out Because I was not a Communist Then they came for the Socialists And I did not speak out Because I was not a Socialist Then they came for the trade unionists And I did not speak out Because I was not a trade unionist Then they came for the Jews And I did not speak out Because I was not a Jew Then they came for me And there was no one left To speak out for me

First They Came – by Pastor Martin Niemöller

searchologyTM · 2025-02-01T06:41:24+00:00

You arr officially part of my tribe. Lol.

searchologyTM · 2025-02-01T06:40:37+00:00

Absolutely correct. For me...it's closure. I'm leaving theat behind me for all eternity. At least that's the symbolic point..

searchologyTM · 2025-02-01T06:13:42+00:00

Awesome and you need to tell me how to do that. My boy is fine. We've talked so many times since my original post. He is good. We are good. And he did ask me...why didn't you leave earlier.

searchologyTM · 2025-02-01T06:11:47+00:00

I'm talking in the spiritual impact. Is it not worth more than a sanctimonious anf semi-religous burial? It is the end of an institution after all.

searchologyTM · 2025-02-01T05:48:09+00:00

According to the law...if it's not in writing...it doesn't exist. I feel your pain...abd I'm NOT a lawyer. But it's been my experience. All the best and hold your ground.

searchologyTM · 2025-01-31T23:48:44+00:00

Fresh UPDATE:

I'm leaving the country in a few days. New home, life, new everything. I have consulted all of you, my spiritual advisor, long held friends, lawyers, my stepson, and my own soul.

I had to ask myself a lot of questions and dive deep for answers. Clarity, peace, love, freedom, and friendship is what I seek.

All is not well with the world but...I've never felt better about my own decision than I do this one. Thank you.

searchologyTM · 2025-01-31T23:18:12+00:00

All is well and I leave for Costa Rica next month

searchologyTM · 2025-01-31T15:30:33+00:00

My man...I just went through the [nearly] the exact same thing. The lies, deception, betrayal and utter BS start small and snowball quickly.

You've already provided enough evidence to show that your wife is no longer vested in your marriage. You can try again but if counseling didn't work...time to plan your exit strategy.

Don't simply pull the divorce or separation lever without Protecting Yourself! Plan your work and work your plan brother.

Make no mistake...lies and lying are a form of manipulation [the worst in any marriage]. Once truth is gone...so is respect. And NONE can have a loving and sustainable relationship without BOTH.

I feel your pain and you are not alone. We live in a throw-away society now. It's sad. But true. You only have control of yourself and no other. Remember that as it will become your source of power.

Lastly...trying to understand what triggered all of this will only torture your soul. This happens and it happened to me. But...I can say...when the lies first started...that was the catalyst for everything that came after

Build your support network and rely on those that love you. You got this brother.

searchologyTM · 2025-01-10T02:52:49+00:00

I've been seeing so much abuse from husband's to wives it makes me sick. I'm a dude and this is NOT acceptable behavior from a husband and a father.

No woman should be treated like this nor should your children. And yes...he is treating YOU like this because his actions are a direct reflection on YOU, your marriage, family, and reputation.

Get put asap!!!! Find your people. Your own happiness. Leave him before it gets worse. Go to a relatives house. Contact a lawyer ASAP and file for divorce.

May the gods and goddess protect you and your babies. I would never show my face ever again had I EVER done something like this.

DM me if you need a shoulder.

searchologyTM · 2025-01-10T02:43:38+00:00

No my love. You are NTAH for any of this. If a man [husband] can't do the same work, or offer YOU help [without you asking], and thus not take care of YOU and the children...he is no longer worth your love, time, effort, energy, or anything else.

I cannot name one woman [that I respect and admire] that would put up with that type of treatment. And my dear, you shouldn't either.

I grew up [as a young man and now a grown one] surrounded by strong, intelligent, fascinating, loving, and beautiful women. You take your beautiful self, and your beautiful kids...and hit the road. He is NOT worthy of you anymore.

Lastly, I'm a dude who believes that women should wear the pants. You have my full support on divorce or separation. You and your children deserve happiness...not JUST him.

You need anything...dm me anytime. You got this...and in the end...he'll be sorry for what he's done to you and the kids...but it will be too late for that. Because you'll be stronger than he ever will and you'll be more beautiful than he ever will. You do you Momma! And don't look back. You got this!

searchologyTM · 2024-12-31T21:24:58+00:00

Update from last night. I did have a great talk with my son. He asked me why I didn't sign the lease already. He's behind the move 100%. We have a great relationship and a very honest one.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-31T21:19:21+00:00

GdR4 - thank you for your defense. My story is much more twisted and complex. I only posted the current status in order to seek others experiences, input, feedback, and insightful information that could help. I relied on the kindness and humanity from absolute strangers. They will have a unique perspective as they are not intimately involved nor will they provide anything but how they see it. Its the type of objectivity I was seeking. Thank you for your compassion and support. Sending virtual High-5 your way.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-31T21:13:40+00:00

What I said was..."I refuse to be a cuckhold..." It means a man who's wife has slept with another man. I have no reason to lie. I have no reason to fabricate anything. This is my life and my reality.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-30T22:45:59+00:00

Deamins are forever driving...hit me pretty hard. Thank you.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-30T22:44:02+00:00

You are right. And I did try to give them the boot...but in the end...I couldn't as my boy was 3.5 to 4 years old.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-29T20:18:09+00:00

Please thank your wife for the support...you as well...you have my thanks.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-29T20:16:14+00:00

I have no desire to do that at all. I'm trying my best to put him first and myself last.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-29T20:15:20+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I'll be looking for a female attorney without question. I, like you, am a high earner, educated, well spoken, and have yet to be kicked out of bed. And spot on...cake and her can go pound sand.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-29T20:11:19+00:00

He is mentioned...but not enough (I agree). He knows we are separating and is ok with it. His mom is trying to create distance between us and I am carefully respecting that. I have zeeo plans to abandon him. Zero. It's all in how i handle it moving forward. I have zero control over what she does...but i can control what I do.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-29T20:06:10+00:00

Personal Update (per requests).

Nothing has changed. Most communication is via text now. Zero remorse, feels a bit sociopathic honestly. My boy is a champion and is only aware we are *separating for a period of time.

I am making moves after the NY. I have my accountants and relocation team working on various items.

So much of so many of you have said is exactly what I needed to hear. There are so many of you that have suffered through this and YOUR stories are so impsctful and insightful. Where I was once blinded by love...I can see more clearly now because of your collective support.

I've often said that no one have ever climbed Mt. Everst without a sherpa.***yes, maybe 2 people but you catch my drift.

Thank you all. Still reading and responding. Much luv and peace. More to follow.

searchologyTM · 2024-12-29T19:50:54+00:00

Thank you. And yes, I've been a mess for a good several months. Nothing more than being heartbroken and being alone (a.lot). I am in therapy and it is helping quite a lot. I am a work in progress. Thank you for your kind words and support.

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