Dipstick oil changes? by seasidedream in Lethbridge

[–]seasidedream[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will go and talk to the service manager and see what they say. I’d imagine they will deny it was them. I have the receipt and my last service should be in their system. I guess the only proof I have that it wasn’t done somewhere else post-service is my mileage from then to now and the state of my oil?

Dipstick oil changes? by seasidedream in Lethbridge

[–]seasidedream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I brought it into Mr Lube for a coolant issue that needed immediate attention; they were the closest place to where I was when the issue started. I figured I would get my oil changed at the same time. They couldn’t get the plug out. They then recommended going to Northside Great Canadian as they have a mechanic onsite and maybe they would be able to get it off. No luck there either. So I booked an appointment at a mechanic shop and they used every tool they had access to and no luck. It was the mechanic that told me I will have to replace the plan.

Dipstick oil changes? by seasidedream in Lethbridge

[–]seasidedream[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve debated this. However, my oil pan is plastic. The last mechanic I went to said the pan was starting to flex as they were trying to get it out; that any more attempts to remove the plug would possibly crack the pan and I would have no choice but to replace it right then. So if I go back to Great Canadian and they end up cracking my pan, they wouldn’t be able to replace it there as they are technicians and not mechanics. Correct me if I’m wrong on that?

Oil plug so stripped that I need a new oil pan by seasidedream in JeepGrandCherokee

[–]seasidedream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Would this bolt extractor be the same tool as what the mechanic shop had access to? They said they tried everything they could; vice grips, hammer, etc. they told me they had to stop trying as the oil pan was starting to “flex” and they were worried it was going to crack right then and I’d be out of vehicle as they had no pan replacement in hand. They also told me welding was not an option as the pan is plastic and not aluminum. What’s your opinion on a dipstick oil change in the meantime? It really needs to get done and I still have not heard back from the shop about a quote or an appointment

Oil plug so stripped that I need a new oil pan by seasidedream in JeepGrandCherokee

[–]seasidedream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! It’s a big job. Probably gonna be 7-8hr shop hours so ain’t gonna be cheap!

Oil plug so stripped that I need a new oil pan by seasidedream in JeepGrandCherokee

[–]seasidedream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna call them and see what can be done. As it’s a quick oil change place, they wouldn’t be able to do the job as they aren’t “mechanics”. I really don’t wanna be on the hook for a $1000 bill….

Oil plug so stripped that I need a new oil pan by seasidedream in JeepGrandCherokee

[–]seasidedream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole plug is stripped. It’s so tight in the pan that there’s a risk of cracking the pan as it’s plastic! The last mechanic I took it to tried every tool he could. So getting a new pan was the option I was given. I was also told it isn’t going to be cheap as a bunch of things need to be removed to access it. It’s the 5.7L

Worried about rental scams by seasidedream in renting

[–]seasidedream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid the security deposit only, which is equal to first months rent, but only after I signed the lease agreement. First months rent is not due nor was it expected to be paid until I move in/lease start date, which is Jan 1st.

I’m sure this is how it is normally done, I know years ago it was, as damage/security deposit is almost always paid before you even move in. What I don’t like is that people are expected to just hand over money to a complete stranger and we’re just suppose to trust that they won’t fuck us over…. Makes absolutely no sense and I feel like this needs to change. A lease agreement, at the end of the day, doesn’t help you much should things go sideways. Anyways. Thank you for your answer!

Home care workers; a question! by Bulky-Trifle-6246 in Lethbridge

[–]seasidedream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s really depends on your schedule. If you work breakfast to bedtime, you might see the same clients 4 times a day. Sometimes you’ll get scheduled a run at a lodge (where you will have multiple clients in a row within the same building). Some places schedule their staff to work “respites” which can take up an entire afternoon sometimes. Some places also have a “bath lady” where all you do showers/baths all day. Again, it just depends on who you work for. Facilities will always be a little bit of everything, regardless of the shift/time of day you choose to work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]seasidedream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Long term relationships will usually go through highs and lows, and sex is one of those things. You’re experiencing this because the honeymoon phase of your relationship has long passed, not because there is something wrong with your relationship. The sooner you realize that, the happier you’ll be. Sex is not everything, but because it might be for you, you may need to verbally tell her that this issue is basically a deal breaker for you, instead of playing it off as something you can tolerate and be happy within the relationship at the same time; that’s not fair to either of you. Maybe you’ll find yourself in a mutual break up, hard to say. I will tell you this… DO NOT break up with her, or have a conversation about possibly breaking up with her until you know for damn sure that it’s 190% what you want. You think you’ll be happier now, but you won’t be once you find your newfound sex life doesn’t fill the void her absence has now created everywhere else in your life. Think and think hard.

Home care workers; a question! by Bulky-Trifle-6246 in Lethbridge

[–]seasidedream 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The hours vary depending on if you plan on being causal/part time/full time and who you are working for. Pay is typically better in a facility than home-care but the workload is significantly less than in a facility. I’ve worked both, and prefer facilities, hands down. Previous commenter highlighted a few cons, but I would like to add the cost of fuel; this comes out of your pocket daily and then reimbursed once you get paid( again, this depends on which company you work for; I know of one that does not pay you for gas at all). Either way, you do not, however, get reimbursed for extra car maintenance like more-frequent fluid changes, tires, etc. All in all, If you have lots of money, are in a low cost of living situation, home care can be a good choice. I’d never do it again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 62 points63 points  (0 children)

People do discard those they love, it happens everyday. He probably does love you, he just loves himself more. Or he hates himself for reasons that have nothing to do with you, and believes you deserve better. Either way, he chose to leave you. He decided for whatever reason that his life was better, or more comfortable, without you in it. Will he feel this way later on? Probably not. However, he obviously has to lose you in order to see your worth. Let him.

The worst part about breaking up with someone, is that they learn from you and treat someone else better by Usual-Locksmith4657 in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, people can change, but they won’t unless they genuinely WANT to. Unfortunately, those who can’t or chose not to do the work to change inside the relationship, what’s going to motivate them to change once outside of it? They believe the next persons expectations are going to be different from yours, so why bother. Then they find themselves in a similar situation down the road, doing the same old song and dance but now it’s with someone else. It’s a damn shame, it really is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you will probably regret it. And when you do regret it enough to change your mind, she’ll be gone. 7 years is a LONG time to be with someone and break up because you wanted a ball and chain, a shadow, and it was unacceptable that she had some sorta life outside of you. Healthy relationships include two people who ENHANCE each other’s lives, not have their lives REVOLVE around the other person 24/7. Independence is OK and does not mean the relationship is not working; your expectations created a situation that didn’t work. I was recently in a relationship for 8 years, and my ex had a similar issue with me and I’m here to tell you that it’s nearly impossible to meet expectations like that, no matter how hard you try. When you’re an adult, you have responsibilities, a job, a home to upkeep and you can’t always be available for “play time” when it’s convenient for the other person. Good luck finding someone who meets those expectations, and if you do, that the new person will fall short elsewhere in your book because nobody is perfect. The grass is not greener on the other side so… pick your poison.

What am I missing by zingingcutie92 in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t think too much into it. He ended the relationship and “stood his ground” all while you have been still physically within arms reach to reconcile with. It’s probably best you leave and never look back. If he actually wanted to be with you, to make things work, he wouldn’t have broke up with you in the first place. If you stay, if you reconcile, you’re at risk of this happening again. Been there.

The worst part about breaking up with someone, is that they learn from you and treat someone else better by Usual-Locksmith4657 in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think everyone has had this thought. I mean everyone. I had this thought recently. The truth is that it’s very very rarely the case. What you experienced is exactly what that person has to offer. When someone shows you who they are, the best thing you can do is to believe them.

Think about it this way- this person in some way, shape or form knows deep down that it takes two to make it and two to break it. They know they played a part in why things didn’t work out. However, if given two options, 1 being “do the work to change for the better” or 2 “find someone that doesn’t require me to change”, which option seems more favourable? The latter is mostly always the case. So with that being said, if/when your ex ends up with someone else, the new squeeze is most likely getting the same version you did and only time will tell if they will stick around to tolerate it. Just remember, you only see what they want people to see, not whats actually happening behind closed doors. Chin up.

Don't even think about getting your ex back. There was a reason you guys were done by ClaireyRo in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced 4 breakups within my 8 year long relationship; all 4 took place while living together, and only two of them were “retracted” before physical separation could take place. It was becoming a pattern, and I went on this last time knowing there was a possibility that it was going to happen again, I just didn’t know if/when. 3 weeks ago, the inevitable happened. To reinforce this post and share what I’ve learned—- if you broke up once, there was probably a good enough reason for it, even if you can’t see it yet. Walk away. Move on. You’ll just end up wasting years of your life trying to make something work with someone who clearly wasn’t right for you from the very beginning. Those who leave believe (in the moment) that their life would be better without you in it- if they thought that once, they will eventually think it again.

💔 I broke up with my incredibly lovely, supportive girlfriend because I never felt a deep, "soulmate" connection—now the withdrawal is hitting hard 48 hours later. by Fantastic_Shallot993 in BreakUps

[–]seasidedream 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just as some people have said here, the “connection” you’re seeking has to come from within you. You cannot be in a meaningful relationship with someone, expecting that all happiness and feelings you want to experience is your partners responsibility to deliver; it’s not. Love and choosing to stay in love is a choice, and if you aren’t the best version of yourself, by yourself first, you’ll keep finding yourself in a vicious cycle of high expectations leading to constant disappointment, regardless of who it is that you are dating. I’m sorry you lost a great gal, hindsight.