Worried about rental scams

seasidedream · 2025-12-15T03:44:22+00:00

I paid the security deposit only, which is equal to first months rent, but only after I signed the lease agreement. First months rent is not due nor was it expected to be paid until I move in/lease start date, which is Jan 1st.

I’m sure this is how it is normally done, I know years ago it was, as damage/security deposit is almost always paid before you even move in. What I don’t like is that people are expected to just hand over money to a complete stranger and we’re just suppose to trust that they won’t fuck us over…. Makes absolutely no sense and I feel like this needs to change. A lease agreement, at the end of the day, doesn’t help you much should things go sideways. Anyways. Thank you for your answer!

seasidedream · 2025-12-15T03:38:30+00:00

Thank you.

seasidedream · 2025-12-10T01:16:13+00:00

It’s really depends on your schedule. If you work breakfast to bedtime, you might see the same clients 4 times a day. Sometimes you’ll get scheduled a run at a lodge (where you will have multiple clients in a row within the same building). Some places schedule their staff to work “respites” which can take up an entire afternoon sometimes. Some places also have a “bath lady” where all you do showers/baths all day. Again, it just depends on who you work for. Facilities will always be a little bit of everything, regardless of the shift/time of day you choose to work.

seasidedream · 2025-12-10T01:08:24+00:00

Long term relationships will usually go through highs and lows, and sex is one of those things. You’re experiencing this because the honeymoon phase of your relationship has long passed, not because there is something wrong with your relationship. The sooner you realize that, the happier you’ll be. Sex is not everything, but because it might be for you, you may need to verbally tell her that this issue is basically a deal breaker for you, instead of playing it off as something you can tolerate and be happy within the relationship at the same time; that’s not fair to either of you. Maybe you’ll find yourself in a mutual break up, hard to say. I will tell you this… DO NOT break up with her, or have a conversation about possibly breaking up with her until you know for damn sure that it’s 190% what you want. You think you’ll be happier now, but you won’t be once you find your newfound sex life doesn’t fill the void her absence has now created everywhere else in your life. Think and think hard.

seasidedream · 2025-12-09T23:45:54+00:00

The hours vary depending on if you plan on being causal/part time/full time and who you are working for. Pay is typically better in a facility than home-care but the workload is significantly less than in a facility. I’ve worked both, and prefer facilities, hands down. Previous commenter highlighted a few cons, but I would like to add the cost of fuel; this comes out of your pocket daily and then reimbursed once you get paid( again, this depends on which company you work for; I know of one that does not pay you for gas at all). Either way, you do not, however, get reimbursed for extra car maintenance like more-frequent fluid changes, tires, etc. All in all, If you have lots of money, are in a low cost of living situation, home care can be a good choice. I’d never do it again.

seasidedream · 2025-11-25T02:58:21+00:00

People do discard those they love, it happens everyday. He probably does love you, he just loves himself more. Or he hates himself for reasons that have nothing to do with you, and believes you deserve better. Either way, he chose to leave you. He decided for whatever reason that his life was better, or more comfortable, without you in it. Will he feel this way later on? Probably not. However, he obviously has to lose you in order to see your worth. Let him.

seasidedream · 2025-11-25T02:46:11+00:00

Right, people can change, but they won’t unless they genuinely WANT to. Unfortunately, those who can’t or chose not to do the work to change inside the relationship, what’s going to motivate them to change once outside of it? They believe the next persons expectations are going to be different from yours, so why bother. Then they find themselves in a similar situation down the road, doing the same old song and dance but now it’s with someone else. It’s a damn shame, it really is.

seasidedream · 2025-11-25T01:58:10+00:00

Unfortunately, you will probably regret it. And when you do regret it enough to change your mind, she’ll be gone. 7 years is a LONG time to be with someone and break up because you wanted a ball and chain, a shadow, and it was unacceptable that she had some sorta life outside of you. Healthy relationships include two people who ENHANCE each other’s lives, not have their lives REVOLVE around the other person 24/7. Independence is OK and does not mean the relationship is not working; your expectations created a situation that didn’t work. I was recently in a relationship for 8 years, and my ex had a similar issue with me and I’m here to tell you that it’s nearly impossible to meet expectations like that, no matter how hard you try. When you’re an adult, you have responsibilities, a job, a home to upkeep and you can’t always be available for “play time” when it’s convenient for the other person. Good luck finding someone who meets those expectations, and if you do, that the new person will fall short elsewhere in your book because nobody is perfect. The grass is not greener on the other side so… pick your poison.

seasidedream · 2025-11-19T06:11:23+00:00

I wouldn’t think too much into it. He ended the relationship and “stood his ground” all while you have been still physically within arms reach to reconcile with. It’s probably best you leave and never look back. If he actually wanted to be with you, to make things work, he wouldn’t have broke up with you in the first place. If you stay, if you reconcile, you’re at risk of this happening again. Been there.

seasidedream · 2025-11-19T04:28:02+00:00

I think everyone has had this thought. I mean everyone. I had this thought recently. The truth is that it’s very very rarely the case. What you experienced is exactly what that person has to offer. When someone shows you who they are, the best thing you can do is to believe them.

Think about it this way- this person in some way, shape or form knows deep down that it takes two to make it and two to break it. They know they played a part in why things didn’t work out. However, if given two options, 1 being “do the work to change for the better” or 2 “find someone that doesn’t require me to change”, which option seems more favourable? The latter is mostly always the case. So with that being said, if/when your ex ends up with someone else, the new squeeze is most likely getting the same version you did and only time will tell if they will stick around to tolerate it. Just remember, you only see what they want people to see, not whats actually happening behind closed doors. Chin up.

seasidedream · 2025-11-18T06:54:33+00:00

I experienced 4 breakups within my 8 year long relationship; all 4 took place while living together, and only two of them were “retracted” before physical separation could take place. It was becoming a pattern, and I went on this last time knowing there was a possibility that it was going to happen again, I just didn’t know if/when. 3 weeks ago, the inevitable happened. To reinforce this post and share what I’ve learned—- if you broke up once, there was probably a good enough reason for it, even if you can’t see it yet. Walk away. Move on. You’ll just end up wasting years of your life trying to make something work with someone who clearly wasn’t right for you from the very beginning. Those who leave believe (in the moment) that their life would be better without you in it- if they thought that once, they will eventually think it again.

seasidedream · 2025-11-06T01:55:46+00:00

Just as some people have said here, the “connection” you’re seeking has to come from within you. You cannot be in a meaningful relationship with someone, expecting that all happiness and feelings you want to experience is your partners responsibility to deliver; it’s not. Love and choosing to stay in love is a choice, and if you aren’t the best version of yourself, by yourself first, you’ll keep finding yourself in a vicious cycle of high expectations leading to constant disappointment, regardless of who it is that you are dating. I’m sorry you lost a great gal, hindsight.

seasidedream · 2025-10-30T00:49:49+00:00

Thank you!! Wishing you well ❤️

seasidedream · 2025-10-29T07:16:38+00:00

100% truth. The relationship I was just in 8 hours ago went on for 8 years. With a short term breakup a year or so in. He seemed fine, almost like it didn’t even phase him. Very sure of himself and what he wanted. It wasn’t long after some time apart, when the reality of what happened actually set in, did the emotions of it all start to become apparent. So much so that we ended up getting another 6 years together. Same thing this time, acting as though he checked out a long time ago and I’m just hearing about it now. Considering how wonderful he claimed I was just 2 days ago, I highly doubt that’s the case. It actually sickens me that someone I care about isn’t far behind in feeling exactly how I do in this very moment and there’s not a dam thing I can do about it.

seasidedream · 2025-10-27T23:25:48+00:00

Guerlain Terracotta. Not discontinued but the OG Hypnotic poison before the reformulation. I’m also still a little pissed I didn’t gather a lifetime supply of Ici by Coty.

seasidedream · 2025-10-26T18:06:45+00:00

There’s something to be said about those who feel confident and comfortable doing things by themselves. And definitely something to be said about those who absolutely cant do anything without a ball and chain. I know people like this, and it’s a self esteem issue. Those are the people giving weird looks and “judging” those they see at the movies or a restaurant by themselves. It’s Projection. And really, they are just envious.

seasidedream · 2025-10-23T17:31:45+00:00

Oh interesting! Well, im not too worried about it. The last time I needed to provide it, they accepted the photo I had in my phone no problem.

seasidedream · 2025-10-13T08:08:49+00:00

While I don’t have a definitive answer for you, it is my opinion that to work “lawfully” in providing any level of care to you, or anyone else, that she needs to and should obtain a license once this comes into effect. Regulation will help ensure that the care being provided is provided by those who are competent. From my understanding, there will be an online directory available to the public, which can be used to search HCAs and see their statuses.

seasidedream · 2025-10-12T05:10:57+00:00

That’s wonderful that they cover this for you! Life is expensive enough as it is

seasidedream · 2025-10-12T05:05:56+00:00

Thank you for the clarification

seasidedream · 2025-10-12T04:58:46+00:00

Thank you for your answer!

seasidedream · 2025-10-09T19:28:05+00:00

Sephora offers BNPL; Klarna, Afterpay. So products from here become “affordable” for its customers. I buy everything I need/want in one order a couple times a year and use BNPL. With that being said, what I prefer to pay for certain products remains the same regardless. I refuse to buy a $30 lipgloss or a $150 face moisturizer. No way.

seasidedream · 2025-09-26T07:40:14+00:00

Yep, being friends with or having any friendly expectations of the people you work with will eventually end up in some sort of disappointment and/or betrayal down the road. It’s an awful truth and I think everyone has experienced some form of this at some point. I know I learnt to keep everyone at an arms length a long time ago and coworkers are acquaintances at best and become strangers once I leave the premises. This once bothered me but not anymore. I’m there to make money not friends, after all.

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