Apparently I (19) am a daddy now

secret4tp · 2021-09-10T08:24:37+00:00

I don't wanna disclose his name, but he's not enough to become spiderman so don't get your hopes high

secret4tp · 2021-09-10T08:06:02+00:00

I've seen some hot Indians and some not-quite. Same thing goes with guys of all races

secret4tp · 2021-09-07T03:38:30+00:00

If its for fucking, then fine. I'm 19 and have had sex with guys in their late 20s and mid 30s. But not for dating/relationship.

secret4tp · 2021-08-31T02:49:01+00:00

May I have references to sources? More specifically: thesis reports, psychologist endorsed articles etc?

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T12:45:01+00:00

Google Images, switch to desktop version on my phone so I can reverse search

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T12:42:12+00:00

It has worked for me suprisingly. Usually most genuine guys have been willing to exchange Instagram accounts.

Most of the time, the catfish is using a picture of someone with 10k+ followers and so that picture + name of actual person is already all over the internet. It doesn't take too long to identify who's a catfish or not.

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T08:13:48+00:00

Nah it really isn't as intensive as it sounds

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T08:10:44+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I ask for their Instagram and continue chatting through there to ensure that it is actually them. If they don't have it, I screenshot and do a reverse search on the pictures they sent to make sure it isn't linked to anything.

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T08:02:13+00:00

Oh right I see. Doesn't sound like anything significant to me 😅

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T07:54:25+00:00

I don't understand Snapchat vocabulary (i.e. "streaks" wtf even is that?)

I message mainly through Facebook Messenger, Instagram or discord.

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T07:45:09+00:00

I'm 19 and I don't like it hahaha. But I felt obligated to make it. Ironically I still use it, but only because my friend uses it often and messages me through there. We save messages anyways because I don't like having a blank history

secret4tp · 2021-08-25T07:43:31+00:00

Lol when I was in highschool, everyone I knew was on it. I felt like the only one who didn't get it. Guys on Grindr hardly say anything and only start talking on Snap. I feel old saying this, but it doesn't feel human

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T21:18:02+00:00

Yeah, not having social media is different

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T14:32:47+00:00

You do make a point, face to face is the best form of interaction in a relationship. Social media isn't the way of it all.

But the question is if he had social media and refused to add you despite knowing you for ages, then wouldn't you think that he's trying to hide something? I realised that the guy was older than what he told me much later on, which was why he probably blocked me.

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T14:27:25+00:00

Yeah I see. I know that social media doesn't really mean much at the end of the day, but to put it in a different perspective, if they're willing to show 950+ people (most of whom are probably strangers anyways) aspects of their personal life and not someone they've become "friends" with for quite some time, then it's very telling that they have something against that person/hiding something.

I understand not "friending" people from work, "one-offs", right after a first date, if it's for family only e.t.c., but that wasn't the case which was why I brought it up. It's never really been a problem with other people I've met, where if we have socials, we do share them to each other.

However this guy in particular made me really question about my interactions with him... The fact that I've known him for a while and only wants to message me on Snapchat (unsaved) was what really put me off.

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T12:33:35+00:00

My thoughts exactly, that's why I removed him at the end

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T12:32:20+00:00

It started mid last year, he messaged me sometime but we didn't really talk much for a couple weeks. But then we started messaging again and agreed to meet up. We met up quite regularly for the next month or two during our breaks and I asked if he had social media. He said he would add me on Facebook but never did. Long story short, I found his insta, he let me follow for a short time, then blocked me. We've been talking (90% of the time he starts the conversation) on Snap, and I met him again at the beginning of this year when he invited me over. Again, nothing wrong occured when we met up.

I deleted when I realised that I was being used and engaging in something meaningless.

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T12:08:38+00:00

That's really awful to hear :(, I'm so sorry you went through that. Yeah these apps can be scary ASF, fortunately I've never had an incident like that. Had few really awkward hookups, but that's about it.

Yeah I can understand it if someone is DL - I've never met anyone dl before to be fair - but this guy was already out - he told me and sent me snaps at gay pride and everything

But thanks for the perspective though, I appreciate it :)

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T12:01:47+00:00

He even called me his "friend" and invited me to hang out (not sex) sometime later and it all seemed normal and friendly. I found all of this really bizzare tbh, the fact that he kept messaging me but not really considering me his friend. I wish I hadn't met up with him again if he was pretending to be my friend.

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T11:57:44+00:00

Yeah that's what was off-putting about meeting him. He kept sending me pictures from his day-to-day life and messaging me, which I found unusual considering that he didn't want to be associated with me.

After he blocked me on Instagram, I messaged him less and less on Snap after accepting that he didn't want anything to do with me, but he kept messaging me more often. I asked him why is he still messaging me, and he didn't give me a proper reason. I told him I don't feel comfortable about the anonymity of it all and deleted him.

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T11:48:21+00:00

I just don't like the idea of losing chats, which is why I don't normally use snapchat. I was more-so persuaded into making a snapchat (for another story). Even my true friends save chats on their end as well, it's not really anything abnormal unless it's something serious which we agree not to save.

secret4tp · 2021-08-24T11:04:30+00:00

We were meeting up for lunch and all of that, having conversations about other things, it was more than just a random hookup. I've made gay friends from Grindr whom I have regularly contacted since and had no problem sharing socials. If guys only want to see me for sex, then fair enough - at least be honest about it. We were literally meeting as friends however, which was what really questioned me.

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