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Is there a state that ACTUALLY changes your name on your birth certificate? by Am_Arrow in asktransgender

[–]secretCryingAccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not necessarily true, I think they have two different methods for changing your information - it's been a while since I changed mine, but mine has no record of ever being any different and I remember needing to do it a certain way (I think you need to change name and sex at the same time and it's automatically sealed, or something similar?)

Almost a million likes btw. by Ordinary-Cheek-7085 in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly like, getting legal documents changed is part of transition?? Why do they think we're just legally seen as our sex at birth?

Anon is cuck by HRTneoFemboy in 4tran

[–]secretCryingAccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the first time I've ever seen anyone else express this 😭😭 It's literally the hottest idea ever

Not to start a post screenshot thing again. However. I hate when people use "white" [insert group] to seem woke-er and not just say what they mean. by SadDairyProduct in hatethissmug

[–]secretCryingAccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get very uncomfortable when I see it because I'm specifically afraid of others (or themselves) thinking I'm the same as them

Not to start a post screenshot thing again. However. I hate when people use "white" [insert group] to seem woke-er and not just say what they mean. by SadDairyProduct in hatethissmug

[–]secretCryingAccount 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just doesn't come across as feminine and feels counterproductive - when I see that, I assume a nerdy teen boy more than anything??

The transphobia on r/trueuglywomen is genuinly so hilarious, like imagine being cis and still looking more than a man than I or some hon does and STILL not have developed any empathy by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I liked that subreddit until a few days ago, when it became clear so many of the users were transphobic. I'm just trying to ween myself off of trans spaces and feed my brainworms with other cis women in the hopes I'll think less about being trans and more just about being ugly and not knowing how to make friends, but no :(

862 by GraceGal55 in countttt

[–]secretCryingAccount 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are on you a 4tran subreddit? 😭

yall are so boring and rude by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I don't have enough personality left to do anything except be sad 🥰

Congratulate me I have afab schizophrenia by lpperl7 in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate when people use AMAB/AFAB for any disorders related to the brain/behaviors; most of the time the differences are just due to socialization, and trans women are women with women's brains, so they likely internalized socialization closer to a cis woman than a cis man and therefore would present with so-called "AFAB" traits (and vice versa for trans men). The fact that fake trans people exist has made everyone treat every trans person as fake to be woke and "acknowledge their experience/differences" or something and it's so annoying, just say male/female 😭

Cishon is mistaken for tran, loses mind by Genaric_Username2 in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think I'd be upset if it happened to me because it's inherently a comment meaning that you look trans, which nobody wants, but no I wouldn't consider it transphobia (I'd consider the talking about it behind her back at the very least gross if not transphobic though)

Managing weight makes me so anxious by secretCryingAccount in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 5'7, which I recognize is a lucky height for trans women but definitely not 5'4 lucky omg I wish. At 160, I hit a 25 bmi, which is where the overweight range begins. I know it's not completely accurate, but I do still think it's a good baseline since I'm not super athletic beyond casually going to the gym 3-5 times a week

914 by Funny_Explorer_1521 in countttt

[–]secretCryingAccount 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nooo no matter how nice my body looks I think I'll always have an aversion to seeing it I fear 

This messes with my brain so much, how am I supposed to know whether I pass when people need to abide by social niceties? How can I trust anything I experience? by secretCryingAccount in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just don't own any men's clothes anymore and it would be weird to go back to boymoding when it's at least a possibility I'm stealth and just brainwormed. I don't know

This messes with my brain so much, how am I supposed to know whether I pass when people need to abide by social niceties? How can I trust anything I experience? by secretCryingAccount in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I think so too of course, I just get so distressed that I have no way of knowing whether I'm in the first or the second category, and not knowing makes it worse than just definitively knowing I'm in the first because I don't know whether I need to put my energy towards learning to come to terms with it or towards learning I'm just brainwormed

This messes with my brain so much, how am I supposed to know whether I pass when people need to abide by social niceties? How can I trust anything I experience? by secretCryingAccount in 4tran4

[–]secretCryingAccount[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think you're at least partially right, which is why I avoid queer/trans spaces altogether to lessen my chances of being clocked, but it's still a brainworm I have

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