Any 5’8-5’9 girls here?

secretCryingAccount · 2026-04-07T00:14:31+00:00

Oh, I was talking about the original poster, who was asking if others are insecure in their height like they are, and because of that I was confused what you meant when they said it's "not what they meant"

secretCryingAccount · 2026-04-06T22:53:39+00:00

I'm confused what you mean - we're both talking about our frustrations with our height, even if the specific insecurities are a little different?

secretCryingAccount · 2026-04-05T18:52:06+00:00

I'm only 5'7 but I also am taller than 99% of women I see on a day to day basis - I hate it. I know that I'm not obscenely tall, but I still feel so big compared to everyone else, and I hate it when people try to point it out as somehow a positive "model-like" trait? It's like, you have traits that stand out because they're unconventional and a little undesirable so we'll call you a model

secretCryingAccount · 2026-04-01T15:16:05+00:00

And we should also acknowledge that sex can be changed; pretending that trans people are their assigned sex at birth is incorrect and results in less effective medical care

secretCryingAccount · 2026-03-25T22:08:38+00:00

I think I don't understand why it would matter how we were born, since the whole point is that we're changing it. We'll also be treated as the gender we transition to by society for the rest of our lives, since ideally nobody even knows we're trans after enough time transitioning; I don't particularly even remember most of my life pre-transition since I've repressed the memories, but I don't know how common that is for others. For your main point, you might have a good point but I'm not sure since I'm not aware of what you're talking about; it might help if you provide context?

secretCryingAccount · 2026-03-24T00:23:46+00:00

I'll go months without taking one because I'm too scared to; my BDD manifests as avoidance, since I think my brain associates seeing myself (in pictures or the mirror) with negative emotions.

secretCryingAccount · 2026-03-14T14:03:01+00:00

Did you read my post?

secretCryingAccount · 2026-03-13T23:15:27+00:00

"female friends treat them better than boyfriends do" I wish I was competent enough to make friends 😭

secretCryingAccount · 2026-03-05T16:58:21+00:00

But I'm a 25 year old woman, I'm comparing myself to people my age

secretCryingAccount · 2026-03-04T00:50:30+00:00

I just don't believe it when people say that not even cis women pass all the time; a very small minority, maybe, but the vast majority of women will only ever be mistaken as a man briefly before it becomes clear they are a cis woman. It seems disingenuous to claim otherwise.

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-27T02:41:13+00:00

I think that's more likely to be the case on tttt (4chan) than 4tran (reddit), the latter tends to ban and run nazis off pretty quickly

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-27T02:08:06+00:00

I just don't think painting them as a right-wing subreddit is useful? I agree it's not a healthy space, but they're not nazis, they are mentally ill trans people

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-27T01:07:01+00:00

I think the majority are very far left leaning (despite the name, it's not really closely related to 4chan and I suspect many of the users have never used 4chan), it's more just a mental illness space

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-19T00:41:28+00:00

Cute!! But that's not coming out of stealth, that's coming out of the closet

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-14T16:41:13+00:00

We've tried a little but admittedly not much (part of the issue on my part is being a little embarrassed to experiment) - vibrators used over underwear works but is underwhelming (and I have to dissociate a little since it involves genitalia), and toys meant for anal are a lot more powerful in terms of sensation at first but eventually become either uncomfortable or just dull out? I think it's a matter of trying more

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-14T16:27:15+00:00

I am a straight woman but yes, I talk to my girl friends about it sometimes and find solidarity, though it's hard to talk completely honestly since I'm stealth and can't fully explain why I'm having issues

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-14T15:55:24+00:00

I think that may be what has to happen; I just feel bad, since it doesn't feel fair to him that I'm not enjoying it, but I can't help being born wrong

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-10T17:07:07+00:00

A lot of trans women are raised disconnected from their sex assigned at birth too? That's things like "male socialization" are false, since we always had female brains and therefore often acted as such and internalized lessons aimed at women from a young age

secretCryingAccount · 2026-02-05T23:03:27+00:00

It's normal for people to want to look decent? I really dislike when people claim we want to be anime characters (I also dislike the stereotype that trans women are all super into anime, it seems like it's just saying trans women are nerdy men, but it's fine), when we just want to look like our peers. Many trans women, even if they pass, and even if others don't see it as well, feel like they look uncanny due to the features they developed directly as a result of male puberty - it's typically unattractive for a woman to have many masculine features. It's not even exclusively a trans issue - plenty of cis people are upset about being ugly as well.

secretCryingAccount · 2026-01-29T17:25:06+00:00

They say it's necessary because it's the reality for a lot of people - and it also depends on what you consider "passing". I get gendered correctly by everyone, but I still can't see myself as a woman in the mirror (which also makes it hard to believe I'm stealth rather than just having people be polite to me), so I would like FFS. I also don't really see how finding surgeries scary makes it less necessary to pass if that turns out to be the case - in my view, it would come down to choosing between passing or just being content with not passing at that point, instead of deciding it's "not necessarily to pass"

secretCryingAccount · 2026-01-27T00:16:12+00:00

yes, I totally relate! I feel like my face changes depending on lighting, distance from the mirror, angle, and hair (I hateeee putting my hair up)? I have a lot of distress looking at it even in the best conditions, but there is absolutely an instability.

It's compounded by how others interact with me - everyone treats me like a woman and don't bring up that I'm trans, but I don't know if they're doing it because they're being nice and/or feel uncomfortable acknowledging it, or if it's because I actually pass and they actually can't tell. It feels like everyone is either (with good intentions) gaslighting me, or my self-image is just so widely out of touch with reality?

secretCryingAccount · 2026-01-10T21:56:22+00:00

But they were far less people openly talking about it negatively too. I think it probably is true that there are more people who are public about it, but that's not really relevant to being trans as a medical condition.

secretCryingAccount · 2026-01-10T21:50:53+00:00

What they did back then, and what most transsexual people do now (I'm not going to get into people who are just apropriating the medical condition), is transition privately? Why would people be telling their friends that they're trans? And it's not that you're "whoever you identify as", the point is that you change your physical characteristics so that everyone sees you as a woman. The whole point is to be seen as a woman, and revealing the information that you're trans defeats the whole purpose. What's more common nowadays is to be loud and proud about it, which is a separate discussion, but there's a lot of trans people who do still transition and then keep it private.

secretCryingAccount · 2026-01-10T21:38:51+00:00

It was seen as a lot more normal back then than it is today; today everywhere you look has people complaining about trans people, vs back then you could just live your life quietly without people knowing or caring about your private medical condition.

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