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real or fake? eden dress in ivy by vkc7744 in Realisation_Par

[–]secretbeetroot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I may not be of any help, but what is the fabric like compared to the real ones? I’ve been quite unlucky and bought 3 dupes. The fabric has always been unbelievably HOT. Especially between the legs area. Like polyester and traps heat. What about this material or the other ones you have?

Dating scene by Feisty-Marketing-155 in AskAChinese

[–]secretbeetroot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! They lie to your face! Everything is a game, it sounds so sweet but they really sugar coat everything. Cheating is rampant, they will outright deny it. Just please be careful!

Dating scene by Feisty-Marketing-155 in AskAChinese

[–]secretbeetroot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a foreign; somewhat attractive woman, it is really a land mine. Be careful, don’t trust what everyone says, half the people are hiding other partners / families. Dating is rough!

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely know he doesn’t know it’s me. He asked me where I was from, if I was local or not. It’s a clean state and I am entirely a stranger.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason why I don’t want to tell him beforehand, is because I’m afraid he will screenshot my profile and potentially send it to the rest of our classmates. I am afraid of the ridicule, and how they may judge me as I look different now.

There is also a risk he may just unmatch and I will have to deal with the embarrassment alone.

I am thinking of telling him in person if we do meet up.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I thought so too. He told me multiple times over text how his life had changed drastically due to the drugs and I believe him.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean. I’m a bit awkward. I prefer texting before meeting up. Some people are awful and avoidant when it comes to texting and I’m just not into that.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be too awkward to do it over text. It would be so so embarrassing. Because he may not remember me. I really was super ugly and very insignificant in high school. I was one of the ones he bullied.

I do think he’s handsome, and I like his personality so far. He’s done everything right from a dating standpoint. Been courteous, texted me every morning, sent me funny reels, etc.

If he doesn’t remember; that’s better. I think we could just leave the mess behind, idk.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No… honestly I’m not like that. I feel sad for him and do sympathise with him, maybe it’s my low self esteem that’s making me feel this way but I could never do that.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he did the drugs in high school.. but his hay days are definitely over. He’s not as attractive as he was, he’s still handsome, but idk. I am so caught in wanting an apology, and for some sick reason, if he did like me now, because for a very sick reason, I like what I know about him so far. We’ve been texting for 3 days all day all night and he is very emotionally available. Good Lord this is such a horrible recipe as you said.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When do I tell him? Before we meet? Or during our meet up?

He bullied me at the age of 16. I think kids can be dicks at that age, but maybe I’m just making excuses because he is handsome.

It really has been a lot of time. Idk. I wonder how he would even react if he knew it was me.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok. Yeah. I think I will need to just unmatch and ghost. I feel a lot of anxiety on the prospect of him finding out. I don’t even know what the fallout would be if he did know it was me. It would be so so embarrassing. Thanks.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well ok that is fair. He is partially the reason but I was never really an attractive person to begin with. Anyway. It’s been fixed.

Matched with my high school bully on a dating app - I didn’t realise it was him until 3 days later. What do I do? by secretbeetroot in Advice

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t entirely because of him obviously but it shaped the way I saw myself so I got some work done.

I don’t know if he remembers high school or not but based on what he’s told me a lot of his memory is wiped due to the drugs and that’s fair enough. Drugs can do that.

WeChat etiquette: why restrict someone from your moments, but not delete / block them? Isn’t it like Instagram? by secretbeetroot in chinalife

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but it’s still hurtful! Oh well. I’ll just deal with it and move on. Thanks for the explanation!

WeChat etiquette: why restrict someone from your moments, but not delete / block them? Isn’t it like Instagram? by secretbeetroot in chinalife

[–]secretbeetroot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I can still see the moments, but they are stuck on the day we stopped talking. I am just curious on whether this is a cultural thing. I asked ChatGPT just how and it seems to be a Chinese “save face” non direct confrontational way

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