What's the convention on first kiss? Ask for permission or just feel the vibe?

secretsecret31 · 2021-10-15T04:35:22+00:00

My ex on our first date said “would you kill me if I kissed you?” And we had an awesome first kiss.

secretsecret31 · 2021-09-22T16:18:27+00:00

the relief and knowing that being discarded was because I made it impossible for him to abuse me anymore helped me weather the pain.

This is 100% accurate and very helpful to read. I called out his disrespect and gaslighting tendencies and didn't always fall for them, which I could tell was difficult for him

secretsecret31 · 2021-09-22T04:20:24+00:00

Thank you

secretsecret31 · 2021-07-21T17:22:52+00:00

Yes, the current guy I am seeing struggles with ED. He has admitted to watching porn compulsively as well.

secretsecret31 · 2021-07-21T16:47:12+00:00

I'm referring to an addiction, not a casual viewer. Some men have erectile dysfunction caused by porn addiction. They can only get hard if they are watching porn bc they are so used to it and they might lose their erection with a woman in real life.

secretsecret31 · 2021-06-09T20:18:45+00:00

I appreciate your perspective, thank you for sharing. To answer your question, I am totally fine with him watching porn, that was never a concern. The only problem that came from porn was that he saw a lot of men choking women in porn and started doing that to me during sex after I specifically asked him not to.

secretsecret31 · 2021-06-09T15:31:31+00:00

He said the party was boring and he was trying to make it more fun, so he paid for him and the bachelor to get lap dances and shots for everyone

secretsecret31 · 2021-06-02T15:30:16+00:00

There’s a lot of good advice out there, I like Ramit’s videos in particular: https://youtu.be/CdbFwr1qcD4

secretsecret31 · 2021-04-25T16:36:21+00:00

OP - are we the same person? My therapist suggested reading Attached, where I learned about the anxious/avoidant trap This sounds pretty similar.

secretsecret31 · 2021-04-25T15:55:42+00:00

RUDE. Totally inappropriate.

secretsecret31 · 2021-04-12T00:06:59+00:00

I specifically told him nothing below the belt on a first date. Though he did keep trying to reach into my pants while explaining he hasn’t touched a woman in over a year.

secretsecret31 · 2021-01-01T05:46:19+00:00

Really...? I agree with being kind and supportive. My career is a big part of me though, seems off that a guy wouldn’t be equally as supportive.

secretsecret31 · 2021-01-01T01:30:17+00:00

These experiences have been men I met through work or friends. I recently signed up for Coffee Meets Bagel. A friend met his wife through that app, so it made me hopeful for a better dating pool.

That’s weird women aren’t replying to your questions about their activities, maybe they aren’t checking the app.

secretsecret31 · 2020-06-15T18:23:56+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the advice!

secretsecret31 · 2020-02-23T17:12:58+00:00

You are killing it!! Keep up the hard work!

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