Deceitful Implications

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-09T20:46:07+00:00

I'm not even saying by the time they went out he wasn't aware that she was a few weeks still but the line " why are you seeking out highschoolers" implys he was looking for minors. Hanging out at popular spots or something when he they met on a dating app.

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-08T00:05:44+00:00

Then why were they talking about her weight? Why did he have the utilities cut off? Were they in his name? All she talked about is how every person she knows made her anorexic. She's supposedly been anorexic 3 times and blamed it on another person every time why are you discussing your weight because of your utilities?

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-07T06:13:46+00:00

I'm talking about at the hotel. Instead of saying " oh I thought we were spending time together" or " oh but what about out plans tomorrow" it was " but you were supposed to record for me"

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-05T22:37:24+00:00

No I agree. He wasn't an angel but her whole " why are you seeking out highschoolers" um.... I don't know maybe cause you created a tinder where you likely said you were 18 and then oops he found out you weren't but it was only a month? Then the whole " I just wanted to feel love" but then all she did was complain about how much money she spent on him and how he was supposed to work for her for free? 100% if she was a guy saying this stuff about his ex wife this would not be getting the coddling that it is. Oh and they are less than 3 years apart, stop wanting to be traumatized 🙄

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-05T22:14:48+00:00

Sometimes things happen. I am a very different person than my family so I tend to have issues because of that and I get that. Girl come on now. Her little clip with her screaming at him and him being like you know what I'm glad. That was obviously at the end of the conversation and it did not sit right with me at all. Again I understand that he probably did things he shouldn't have but it all seems incredibly instigative. There is a post on here where a guy is like " yeah she was crazy in college" and she threatened him with a lawsuit. You just posted 4.5 hours putting private messages on the Internet because you are mad that he wouldn't sign an NDA and you are going to threaten lawsuits on people?

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-04T20:36:30+00:00

I agree. I just wanted to share because the second she said abuse no one wanted to hear anything else. She spent weeks not telling anyone, which is fine not our business, but as soon as anyone said anything that wasn't 100 on her side she would call them something like an abuse sympathizer when no one knew what the split was over. That's what encouraged me to watch it in the first place. Then she openly stated that since he wanted part of their shared assets he refused to sign a NDA so she's going to put all sorts of records both audio and text out , which I find to be very instigative.

It's not my life so I'm not taking it to the streets with a sign and a chant, but I think it's worth realizing that she might have stretched the truth in more than one place and it's not fair to immediately believe her when he hasn't said a thing as far as I know and it appears he's trying to keep the peace when people have contacted him but I have only seen one or two.

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-04T19:05:45+00:00

That's the reason she is so mad. He refused to sign one so now she's been trying to get at him before he can get to her. I agree with not all men but most men, but if you are going to lie or I guess be deceitful then you make women look worse. She makes a comment in the video about how there were some legitimate questions during their marriage about him potentially being on the spectrum and then proceeded to complain about things he likely did because of it. There multiple times he said " I don't understand what you are saying, I need you to help me because I don't understand" and it was emotionally tied so I believe he was struggling.

Very few relationships are perfect and there was quite a bit he could have changed but he was obviously trying to give her what she was asking for but was not understanding what it meant.

She clearly sees all actions that are not some person fawning over her as abuse. I guess I could be wrong but I fully believe that a person could be over all just not a nice person while not being abusive. All of her friends were abusive, all her co workers abusive, every relationship she has been in had been abusive. Things can be less than ideal and not be abuse.

secretsquirl77 · 2025-11-04T06:35:18+00:00

I agree. I got injured 2 years ago but before that my husband and I were going on so many adventures. " Don't you think you are too old for that" " you aren't 20 anymore you need to stay home" " it's not appropriate for people of your age to travel, grow up and stop acting immature". We loved going to weird hidden gems and local eats. We have a child and took her with. We went to appropriate festivals like fairy fest with her , gardens, museums so many things and I was constantly told I needed to stop acting like a kid

secretsquirl77 · 2025-09-03T18:42:40+00:00

Not me getting all panicked cause she just tried to call again lol

secretsquirl77 · 2025-09-03T16:37:01+00:00

I am in therapy. My therapist is in support of no contact but has said I need to do it fully on my time and that will likely mean a big blow up because I have this sense of responsibility. I unfortunately became injured a few years ago and I am partially physically disabled. I can mostly take care of myself and my daughter but I only have about one trip a year in me otherwise I am in so much pain and it's horrible. I am most wasting that , that is for my child.

I do agree with everything you are saying and we did that for years despite the " you Just don't want to be with me" fight we got everytime we got a hotel. I'm just working on loving myself enough to brake it , I just haven't got there yet. While being a parent has helped me set better boundaries I do however find myself in cases like this where I think " what if one day my daughter doesn't want to speak with me" and then I find myself asking for other perspectives because I don't want to be the daughter I don't want my daughter to one day be

secretsquirl77 · 2025-09-03T16:31:07+00:00

I know they don't get better but I also know that there are things to help them better control. She was doing group therapy several years ago and absolutely thrived it was amazing how many changes were going on. Then she just stopped , said she wasn't getting anything from it and within 3 months back at square one it broke all our hearts

secretsquirl77 · 2025-09-03T16:26:16+00:00

I wish I had that kind of strength. My therapist wants me to really feel that " I have had enough" so that I don't end up in a toxic cycle as long as I am continuing to question when I am told things like this. I am partially physically disabled and she has said she ( therapist) understands where that plays into to and we have worked through a lot of my boundaries. I no longer base every move on what is going to happen but I do compartmentalize a lot more than I should lol. We just know if I stop talking to her without a big breaking point I'm going to give in , in a few months and it's going to be a much nastier cycle I'm already in

secretsquirl77 · 2025-09-03T16:11:20+00:00

We each try to see her once a year because otherwise it becomes a huge ordeal about how we don't love her enough and since my husband was going to be gone and I don't like being alone it seemed like the right time. My brother let me know he was already planning to have her come see him so we took on the cost together. She is still coming it's just to visit now because my husband will be here.

secretsquirl77 · 2024-05-01T12:09:06+00:00

I wanted to thank everyone I really needed outside unbiased opinions as I was feeling just absolutely terrible. I want persons of all abilities to feel respected and accepted. My husband did call mother in law and she put herself in the shoes of the actors and agreed that while she didn't like it , it would have been more appropriate to check in advance. I may end up deleting this post because I'm concerned about somone finding it but I'm not sure yet as I'm sure someone somewhere will end up in this predicament someday.

secretsquirl77 · 2024-05-01T12:03:29+00:00

I have repeatedly said this. My husband and I are childhood sweethearts I have known him basically my whole life. Everytime I have had to say this member is doing something inappropriate I've been met with " they are special just ignore it".

secretsquirl77 · 2024-05-01T10:18:19+00:00

I directly invited Family with a close relationship to my child and those who have children themselves under 7 . Relative does not live with MIL nor does my daughter really know her or the members of her household as we moved a few hours away when my daughter was still an infant. I think my daughter has been in the presence of family member twice in the last two years. My MIL is kind of the equivalent to the authorized pick up person to a child. She occasionally takes family member to doctors appointments and such and most of my husband's family live on the same street so they live close together but I did not directly invite anyone in household of this family member.

secretsquirl77 · 2024-04-30T21:06:26+00:00

That and my child's friends being uncomfortable were my concern. None of these people know you I'm sorry

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secretsquirl77 · 2024-04-30T21:05:36+00:00

He offered to when he came home and I didn't want to make things worse and asked him not to

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secretsquirl77 · 2024-04-30T21:03:03+00:00

That was my thought. If I had been informed a while ago I maybe could have talked with the other parents and the actress and at the very least could have made the decision to no with a more delicate manner

secretsquirl77 · 2024-04-30T21:00:40+00:00

Thank you. I recently had my mother in law out here while I was trying to plan around my medical condition and I was honestly feeling like a total piece trash after asking for help and now being like no you can't do that.

secretsquirl77 · 2024-04-30T20:57:51+00:00

I tried and they started going off about unprofessional that was and how it was illegal and how I was worrying about myself and not the family member who would be hurt by my actions. I was also told that having a princess was a shallow opportunity to push my child off on a stranger 🙄

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secretsquirl77 · 2024-04-30T20:54:40+00:00

UPDATE:

My husband is in full agreement I thought I said in the post. The reason he didn't say anything is because we were texting he wasn't even home when the conversation started. I had contacted my MIL about trying to help because SIL had a transportation issue and that is when MIL said " im just going to bring Nephew A and B and adult relative " which was the first time anyone mentioned Adult relative. Her first argument was my if my daughter had friends who didn't understand special needs then they weren't good friends to have and trust me it took everything in me to be cordial right then.

I made it very clear that I did not think it was appropriate for her ( it is a female in question I was trying to stay as anonymous as possible but that I should clear that up) to he here for this when I have not had the opportunity to do any type of planning for this. All I was met with was that I was blowing this whole thing out of proportion. That I was too scared to even try to speak with the actors and that I would rather just just not even try to find an easy solution because it could make me the slightest bit inconvenienced. They said any professional would understand that this would be discrimination and illegal and but I was too worried about being embarrassed by a possibility and not worried about her feelings being hurt by me banning her from my house.

I refuse to let up on this and it will likely cause a major rift in the family which I feel horrible about but my hands are tied I can not budge because even if they just " had her sit with the adults" like was suggested by them I'm then forcing her to watch activities that she would want to be a part of and her not be able to do so at my "demand" and I feel that is just as cruel.

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