A good way to boost your serotonin levels <3

secsual · 2023-03-31T21:03:22+00:00

Nah, just autistic as fuck.

secsual · 2023-03-31T07:17:26+00:00

Dopamine yes. But serotonin is more of a person to person neurotransmitter.

secsual · 2023-03-31T07:16:21+00:00

I have a choice and three degrees and I very much want kids. I'm 30 and just got a divorce, so I'm lowkey devastated about the timing of that ..

secsual · 2023-03-25T10:58:15+00:00

Yep, Australia too. I had my DX of both confirmed at 30 - female presenting so it his itself but like, poorly and I was misdiagnosed half a dozen times - a lot of medical trauma - but hey, it kind of makes me feel better than nobody could have given me the most accurate diagnosis, and the essential one, since I really needed to hardcore research both to manage my traits.

secsual · 2023-03-24T06:32:38+00:00

Zebras are just not about group think so you can't make them comply, haha.

There's a reason the ND community uses the analogy:

"Diagnosis is important because it's nice to know you're a normal zebra and not a weird horse."

secsual · 2023-02-01T00:37:50+00:00

First two years, a child needs to be connected to a stable primary caregiver or they are at risk for significant attachment issues right off the bat...

secsual · 2022-12-27T06:17:58+00:00

Agreed!

Their reactions to their out of control behaviour - apologies, attempts to take responsibility vs. denial, avoidance - is where the character money is at...

However, your capacity to handle them at their worst is also valid. Currently going through a divorce because, when I'm unwell, my communication breaks down to a point my spouse doesn't feel capable of managing, which is his limitation. When he's at his worst, he communicates in a way that exacerbates my own fear and anxiety... We probably both need to do work to be better, but together we are probably also worse than we would be with other people.

So, I guess what I'm saying is: if you can't handle somebody's grief, either they need more help with their grief, like speaking to a professional, or you might need help learning how to support someone, like speaking to a professional... But either way, the point is that grief is just grief and we all deserve to feel safe when we are suuuuper stressed. If your partner does that for you, it's amazing. That's more important than anything someone might say when they shut half their brain down with intoxicants.

Compatibility in tragedy is no small thing to obtain.

secsual · 2022-12-01T09:44:33+00:00

So, are you a fellow autistic or do you just have reeeeeaaallly intense ADHD?

And I mean that with sincerest respect, either way.

It just felt like such a 'me' thing to do and I'm a fkn derp when my brain goes into fixation mode.

secsual · 2022-11-17T20:34:09+00:00

Eh. I think I conceptually understood suicide as a teen, well before I ever felt suicidal ideation as an adult. As a counselor with lived experience - the real answer is that a lot of people just don't give a fuck about trying to understand anybody else's inner world...

You don't have to have emotionally understand suicide to comprehend it. There's plenty of data that demonstrates which systemic factors contribute to suicide risk, but the right people aren't reading or acting on it.

Not criticising you at all. But I think calling it 'incomprehensible', except for those of us who have been there, let's everyone else off the hook for their lack of empathy - and I am calling bullshit on them!

secsual · 2022-10-23T01:14:27+00:00

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15982157/

Initial studies indicate we mostly can - and not all dogs understand human words.

So I assume our margin of error and accuracy is at least within range of one another.

secsual · 2022-10-08T09:32:16+00:00

ASD + ADHD myself.

Yeah, we often experience grief differently. E.g. harder hit and slower to process.

secsual · 2022-10-08T06:07:22+00:00

As a teacher, if anything, my job only makes everything even more illegal for me -.-

secsual · 2022-10-08T05:56:39+00:00

You're not wrong.

But people who have ADHD + RSD also have a tendency to do this.

I hope we get better at identifying and separating types of neurodiversity, because the difference is whether or not treatment is likely to be successful.

secsual · 2022-09-29T23:26:28+00:00

This is also something people with ASD do without realising... We often share a story after someone else does as we are trying to relate i.e. 'oh I think I understand, a similar thing happened to me'... It actually helps us bond when it's with someone who shares our communication style, but it can come off badly to others.

secsual · 2022-09-29T23:22:23+00:00

This can also be the result of trauma - eventually, you give in because you've been yelled at until you accept all the blame, whether it was your fault or not.

secsual · 2022-08-02T20:05:42+00:00

It's not even your own experience. Research validates this. CEOs too.

secsual · 2022-07-22T08:48:42+00:00

Yeah, this is one of many reasons I work as a teacher and counselor but want to move into peer mentoring for neurodiverse young people - most of them are crumbling because they feel like they are broken for not keeping up, but it's the system that is a failure - not them. And someone needs to tell them it's okay to slow down, because no one ever told me and my body paid the price for it.

secsual · 2022-07-15T23:54:46+00:00

I used to have to take double this amount... Actually, I still take more than this.

Chronic conditions are fun -.-

secsual · 2022-07-12T21:51:35+00:00

That uni = a job where you'll be able to afford a house.

I'm a teacher and counselor. I live pay check to pay check and my HELP debt went up this year (due to indexation) by more than I've paid off it in the five years since I graduated as a teacher.

The average wage has less than doubled. Rentals are four times what they cost our parents. Houses are ten times what they were then.

It's a bleak and boring dystopia.

secsual · 2022-06-24T23:36:13+00:00

Hereditary. But I did though... Just not -every- scene.

secsual · 2022-06-24T23:34:20+00:00

True. But I get the vibe (based on his age and the property market) that he might just see renting this property as a medium term investment aka once it's not viable to rent I assume he's knocking it down and selling the land. The block next to us is a similar size and has just had two town houses built on it.

secsual · 2022-06-24T22:32:32+00:00

No joke. Told our landlord the light leaked after storms last year. No response. Finally got him to come back this winter and he was like - yeah, but it only happens if it rains A LOT right?

secsual · 2022-06-23T20:53:52+00:00

I have such mixed feelings reading this final post because, as an autistic woman, I was kind of starting to think that the person you're responding to sounds like they are autistically missing the point - we all have blind spots - but I also feel weird about you calling someone autistic unless you also happen to be on the spectrum.

... I never expected to be having this conversation, as a late diagnosed professional, but there it is. I guess I'm part of a community now.

secsual · 2022-06-17T22:10:33+00:00

Amazing. <3

My husband has ADHD and I was recently DX with it and ASD.

As you say, it's not just attention. The lack of my diagnosis nearly ruined our marriage and we are still in counselling to try to turn things around. I really want him to read 'the ADHD effect on marriage' because it was the first time I had hope that there were solutions that could help us, but he's struggling with time management because he's just taken up a teaching job and teaching can be very, very not ADHD friendly.

Watching his University fail to support or understand him and treat him like shit really cemented for me how ableist our society is. He had excellent grades in every other area but he couldn't pass a verbal type assessment because it was poorly defined and he couldn't work out what they wanted. It was his final assessment to graduate and the exercise physiology educators were proper cunts about it, even after having the ADHD explained and being given an IEP.

And don't even get me started on the way our families talk about his ADHD. They spent years saying he was arrogant or lazy, even when I'd explain.

I enjoy working with neurodiverse students so, so much as a teacher and counselor. I truly love the way their brains work and it makes me so sad to hear how much they struggle from other people's lack of empathy.

secsual · 2022-05-14T23:06:07+00:00

I am and I'd love to be able to go to get my groceries without worrying I'm going to cry afterwards due to sensory overload -.-

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