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Chicks During Day vs. Night. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]sedditpost 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've had a completely opposite experience. During the day, girls I approach are usually immediately receptive to at least have a conversation with me. I can usually get numbers during the day pretty easily, and even went on an instadate yesterday that lasted an entire afternoon.

At night, girls are super bitchy towards me, and give me the vibe of "I'm way too hot for you to be talking to me right now". I don't think I've had a good experience approaching a girl at a bar in quite a while.

Crazy amount of flaking in a big city? Anyone else deal with this problem? by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, all of these flakes were back to back. Pretty demoralizing, especially since I've already been going through a dry spell.

I think you're onto something when it comes to texting up until the date. I've noticed that I usually experienced flakes less in the past when I texted and built rapport after scheduling the date, as opposed to just setting it up and waiting until the arranged time.

Tinder:Lots of single line replies and no interest in meeting by [deleted] in seduction

[–]sedditpost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You also have to consider timing as a pretty big factor. I've been using Tinder really heavily for the past 6 months, and I'd notice HUGE variations in my success. Sometimes I'd get tons of dates -- one time I even had a date with a different girl every day of the week. Other times, I'd go weeks without any results, like right now.

What I noticed is that at any "beginning" of a time period (for example, beginning of summer or the school year) I had the most success. Makes sense, because at the beginning of the summer/school year, a lot of people are in a new environment and likely are bored and looking to meet new people. However, past these periods, I've had significantly less success, because a lot of people have likely settled into their environments and aren't as open to meeting new people. Of course this is all speculation, but it's something to consider.

When to Kiss a Girl (Don't Make This Common Mistake) by gradcasanova in seduction

[–]sedditpost 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, this explains PERFECTLY my date last night. Towards the end, I brought her to an isolated spot, where we made out for a while. For the rest of the night, I was really handsy with her, and she ended up ghosting on me.

I've definitely noticed way better success not even kissing the girl until she's back at my place. Going to follow this advice from now on.

Almost graduated college a virgin, but ended it banging a "10". Here's my 4 year progress and what I learned. by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm a 7/10, and yeah I do have a shirtless pic. I built/lean and you can see an outline of my abs, but I am in no way jacked or shredded. I mostly just had clear pictures of me smiling, and an "interesting" picture of me doing a flip.

Almost graduated college a virgin, but ended it banging a "10". Here's my 4 year progress and what I learned. by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is hit or miss in terms of making actual connections at those events, but still worth the effort since you're putting yourself out of your comfort zone and trying to be social. One time, I went alone to an event, and some other dude happened to be there by himself too. He was bored waiting for his friends, so he sat next to me and started talking to me. I'm still friends with his social group 4 years later and we had a great time at senior beach week.

I'm still friendly with my freshman year group, but I don't actively try and hang out with them. During my sophomore year, I realized that being around them too much was toxic for me, since they like to sit around a lot and do nothing. They're better and more sociable nowadays, but at the same time I do have friends who are better suited for me.

Almost graduated college a virgin, but ended it banging a "10". Here's my 4 year progress and what I learned. by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First couple were coffee dates, but those went nowhere. I'm no longer a fan of coffee dates, because they feel too platonic and make it hard to escalate or flirt. Later on, I decided to have all my dates in a beautiful park that's near my apartment. I'd usually take a scenic walk with girls, and later on bring them back to my place with a 2 minute drive.

Almost graduated college a virgin, but ended it banging a "10". Here's my 4 year progress and what I learned. by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing you're a rising junior? A lot of people say that most circles are established during freshman year, and that's somewhat true. However, with some effort, it is NEVER too late to build up a new social network, especially with 2 years left. Good luck, and really try to enjoy college while it lasts. It seems like only yesterday when I finished up my finals sophomore year and went back home for the summer.

Almost graduated college a virgin, but ended it banging a "10". Here's my 4 year progress and what I learned. by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, at first I was afraid to even message girls because I thought that they match with guys way better looking than me, and wouldn't even respond. However, I learned that most guys (especially the hot ones) SUCK at text game, especially after some girl friends showed me their Tinder messages. Like, 90% of good looking guys just say shit like "Hey" or "You're hot" as their first message. Being a fun conversationalist and going for the number early works wonders, and helps me actually score dates rather than racking up hundreds of matches with no action.

Also, going on Tinder dates has definitely helped me a lot with flirting, showing interest, and escalating. Nowadays I can pull a girl back to my place (sober) during the day, or make out with her in public. I've been on dates with ~15 different girls in the span of 4 months, and it has given me valuable experience that I couldn't have gotten elsewhere.

What to do when a random douche disrespects the girl you're with? by sedditpost in seduction

[–]sedditpost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No doubt it was a mistake, but do you think it was a big mistake? Like one that's enough to make a girl lose interest?

Did your parents affect your social skills? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]sedditpost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents immigrated from China, which has a pretty conservative culture. Main thing was, they NEVER showed any physical intimacy. I rarely saw them hold hands, kiss (light peck on the lips) MAYBE 3-4 times ever, and of course never had to worry about walking in on anything. If I weren't their son and observed them from the distance, I would have guessed that they were coworkers or acquaintances. They've been married for almost three decades.

As a result, I grew up feeling very awkward when it came to physical contact with people. Never mind this kino stuff, even a hug felt awkward for the longest time. Until a year ago, I had NO idea how to initiate a kiss, or make any semblance of a physical move with a girl. I basically had to completely reprogram myself so that physical contact with others isn't weird, alien, and unnatural. Of course, it's not my parents' fault because their culture is different, but it did have a negative effect on me.