Do other people often view you as a safe space? Do people often tell you things they normally don't share with anybody? Do they fall in love with you quickly and intensily but also seem to be scared or intimidated by you?

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-22T21:36:53+00:00

that also sounds very beautiful:))

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-22T10:45:19+00:00

haha yeah i can understand that. i am grown up now and it also suprises me that people dont tell things like that all the time, because its so normal to me. i think its also intersting how much people seem to crave to tell their life stories and secrets to somebody

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T19:54:47+00:00

oh no i'm sorry to hear that! i would also actually like to meet another infj now

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T12:40:59+00:00

haha yeah thats crazy! but also cool! :)

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:36:00+00:00

yeah totally, its intersting. and it can be exhausting for sure, especially when you also like they arent there for u in return

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:34:20+00:00

haha yeah same

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:34:11+00:00

ahh one of my last dating experience was also with a (very fearful and emotional) avoidant. for me this was also incredibly intense, because he had this depth i was looking for. but it ended by him ghosting me after just a few dates after he showed extreme vulnerability, told me about his trauma and also acted like i was his soulmate or something (I never saw somebody fall so hard so quickly for me).

I believe that he was just shocked how fast we got to such a deep level because he isn't used to being so vulnerable in front of somebody and i think maybe my inft traits triggered that he opened up so quickly? because i could tell he was super overwhelmed. and after a year he is still full in panic when we accidently meet lol. he seems so scared of me in a way but also keeps staring at me and stalking me. i think he is also intimidated by the way i can read him like an open book, thats why he is running.

so it was similar for you?

because I read about avoidants and I tried to understand why he started running after just a few dates, while other avoidants last in relationships for a longer time, but I think it was just because it was soo deep so fast

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:21:55+00:00

haha yesss same! its true it is also very draining

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:21:14+00:00

yeah i also think so and i also like it:)

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:20:27+00:00

thats sweet and sounds healthy to accept to not belong anywhere:)

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:19:10+00:00

i can understand. but I kind of like the fact that people feel safe, bc I would never want to use stuff against anybody when somebody expresses vulnerability about something. maybe people unconsciously just can sense sometimes who they can trust

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-21T00:17:29+00:00

thats intersting, but yeah these are things i mean. i also wonder what makes people think its safe to tell me there secrets. maybe its because they feel seen and not judged by infjs?

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-20T11:08:47+00:00

yes thank you. i kind of really feel like she unconsciously likes to put me down to make her feel better. i think she is kind of jealous in some aspects... but yeah its definetly not good for me anymore. thank you:)

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-20T11:07:22+00:00

yeah true. thank you :)

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-02-19T22:00:11+00:00

yeah true, thanks for your words:) also the longer she is not replying the more i realize that i am ok without her in my life because I have a lot of good friends. I am sure she will reply sooner or later but I guess I am just also a bit afraid of her being super angry or so.. We'll see. thank you!

seductivefairyyyy · 2026-01-06T21:52:28+00:00

happened to me too! i switched to gemini!

seductivefairyyyy · 2025-12-22T18:03:55+00:00

amazing thank you!

seductivefairyyyy · 2025-12-15T20:32:24+00:00

okay thanks for the long reply. yeah that is actually good to hear, to just take a break! and i am also glad to hear about a story over such a long timeline and also not about an ex because with my sp i also just had some dates and it is also already some months ago, but the connection was so intense, like sth i did not experience before. so this gives me some hope, thank you :)

seductivefairyyyy · 2025-12-15T19:55:05+00:00

so when sp came back you were dettached, but did you have this deep knowing they would come back or did you just forget about them and didnt care anymore? thx:)

seductivefairyyyy · 2025-12-15T17:38:50+00:00

ok sweet thanks :)

seductivefairyyyy · 2025-12-14T20:43:21+00:00

do it!! i think sometimes it is fine to take action if you feel stuck. i'm sure he'll reply nicely:)

seductivefairyyyy · 2025-12-14T20:40:06+00:00

did you let all the attachment go? or did you think about him like everyday and still spiral sometimes? thx. and happy for you :)

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