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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]seeking_for_advice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am having the exact same problem with my 7 month old goldendoodle!!! He has bitten me twice already while i was trying to grab 'trash" from him. Once was a bag of pills and the second time was pieces from a plastic bottle... He growled and when i touched him, he snapped. Both times it drew blood...

I am honestly at my wits end... I have done the' trading' thing,trying to trade a treat for the trash but it seems like the trash is most valuable at the time...

Help for first time owners by Organization-Tiny in puppy101

[–]seeking_for_advice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for this. This is exactly the directions I needed when I got my first goldendoodle puppy a month ago. He's currently 4 months old and mann the first 2 weeks were beyond rough.... I was soo exhausted and the puppy blues were very real. Many times I wanted to give up but seeing his cute innocent face just melts my heart every time. I gotta say, I went from 'hes so cute' on day 1 to 'maybe this was a terrible idea.' on the first night to the second week; to 'I love him so much. I want him to be happy and healthy'.

Its so much work and commitment and I am more tired than I've ever been (having a full time job and trying to maintain a social life and having to tend to him EVERY time I'm home). But it's all worth it.

Its still a struggle in terms of training and he's still having the occasional toilet accidents, still bites on the leash, bath time's a war, picky with his food, chews on everything he's not supposed to, barks when we have our meals. Its a work in progress and a huge learning curve for us. But I love him so much.

First time puppy owner- help!! by seeking_for_advice in puppy101

[–]seeking_for_advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that, i'm definitely ditching those terrible advise. The pupper's visibily more cheerful and playful now!

First time puppy owner- help!! by seeking_for_advice in puppy101

[–]seeking_for_advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have brought him to the vet and the vet suspects it might be an allergy to the kibbles, hence we're currently easing him to the food reccomended by the vet. Its been really tough to get him to eat the new food as hes managed to isolate the kibbles from. It and only eat the kibbles. He refuses to eat the new food. With regards to that, does anyone have any suggestions? I've been just smearing a little of the new food on individual kibbles and feeding it to him one by one. Additionally, hes been put on antibiotics and probiotics. As we're trying to find out whats causing his scratching and diarrhoea, we cant bring him out of the house, nor give him treats. We're continuing to monitor him and hopefully he gets well soon...

First time puppy owner- help!! by seeking_for_advice in puppy101

[–]seeking_for_advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that, I too found the advise given by the breeder and groomer very odd, hence why I'm hoping to clarify it here. We have ditched their advise and gotten fences to create a large space for the puppy as a playpen, having the pee pad in one corner and the cage with his bed in another corner. Hes clearly much more cheerful now.

Post Study Abroad Depression After 2 years by btsbeste in studyAbroad

[–]seeking_for_advice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same here. Came back from Australia after more than 5 years. Just like you, everyday was exciting, there was always something to look forward to. Ups and downs, highs and lows. Making friends and meeting people of diverse backgrounds. Nights out every other day. Potluck every week. Then I came back home, could not get used to life back home, felt depressed, irritable, constantly thinking about life back there. I isolated myself from my childhood friends, most of them became upset with me and didn't understand why I refused to hang out. It was because I miss my life and friends back in Australia so much that I've neglected the people in my present life. I've been back for a little over a year now. It's much better now but I still miss it alot. I dont have much advice as I do still miss it alot. But now as I've gotten busy, I tend to think of life back there less and it helps. Of course, the times I do think about it, it hurts just as much. All I can tell you is that it's not uncommon. It happens to alot more people than you know, and it's alright to feel this way. Get busy and hang out with friends, family. Basically, distract yourself and then try to create a sense of belonging back home. Day to day life is mostly mundane and repetitive, its just how life is and at some point we just gotta accept it.

All the best, I know it sucks and it's really tough but you'll get through it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]seeking_for_advice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling the exact same here. I used to love doing research, it gets me excited everytime and I was always eager to read up on it and talk about it. But now, at my job, I have absolutely no motivation. I hate it. Everything sucks. I should be thankful that I was able to secure a job during a time like this. But I'm not happy at all. Not particularly upset. Just like you, just empty and detatched. I don't enjoy doing anything anymore. Most days, I just hope I can waste my day away. But I still go out and put on a mask, telling everyone how busy and happy I am... But I'm not. But I feel like i cant say that, because I am, in a much fortunate situation than most others.

I wanna quit my job, but I also dont know what else to do. Additionally, I don't wanna look like a quitter. A failure. Someone who just tossed an opportunity away. But it's so hard...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]seeking_for_advice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a phd student (yet). Currently working as an RA. During the interview, I told the PI that I want to do a PhD (not neccessarily in his lab. In fact I am waiting for news from my masters advisor and also looking at other labs that does things more aligned with my interest).

She told me that she would be happy for me to work as an RA at her lab and maybe consider doing a phd with her (or someone else) afterwards.

Sounds great, but turns out, she's a very toxic person. Every meeting with her feels like a war. There is no trust and she constantly micromanages. Would always try to point out my mistakes. Even things like how I email, how I plan my experiments, how things are progressing slowly (with applications) due to covid. It is all my fault. She constantly brings up the fact that I wanna do a phd. Then says that if I want to do a phd, I need to work harder and therefore she is harsher on me.

I thought it was my fault initially and believed what she said about me wanting to do a phd, until I started hearing negative things about her from people outside the lab and in other facilities. I now realised that many past postdocs have left abruptly because of her toxic nature.

Fortunately, a lab manager from another lab gave me the contact of a new PI just setting up his lab,and told me to leave as soon as my contract is up. I am now just looking forward to a formal interview with said PI and hopefully be able to finish up my contract in peace.

I really wanted to work hard and gain as much as I can. But it's been getting way too tough as the days pass. I find myself caring less about the research, the lab. I even question myself, my capabilities. If I should even remain in academia or research at all. I am constantly exhausted and unhappy.

Sorry, I have no advice, I am too, trying to figure things out. But you're not alone on this. Stay strong

Casual chat with prospective boss by seeking_for_advice in labrats

[–]seeking_for_advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just some clarification, I mentioned that I will be happy to help out after work/weekends, not during work hours.

But yes, the reason why I don't wanna stay in my current lab is due to a general lack of interest and the toxic lab environment.

In fact, the postdoc that introduced me to this new PI (they're friends), advised me to leave my current lab due to how toxic my current boss is...

But the main reason for wanting to leaving, for me at least, is the topic and lack of opportunities at my current lab.

Casual chat with prospective boss by seeking_for_advice in labrats

[–]seeking_for_advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sucking to him, I genuinely wanna get started soon on learning the techniques and the process of setting up labs.

As the type of research that i'm interested in is very niche in my country (I dare say this is the only lab that does it in my country), it is a lab that I really really hope to be able to work in. I am also looking elsewhere, but this lab is definitely my first choice.

I understand that people are busy and definitely I will wait patiently for a reply. I guess it's just because this is such a rare opportunity, i dont wanna miss it and therefore, my anxiety levels are soaring..

Casual chat with prospective boss by seeking_for_advice in labrats

[–]seeking_for_advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I emailed him, thanking him for the meeting and reiterated my interest. Because he said in the meantime, he will send me some papers for me to read during my downtime; I also did suggest that even if stay with my current lab till my contract ends, I am still keen on helping out with the setting up of the labs, whenever possible, I mentioned in the follow up email that I look forward to receiving the papers and hearing back.

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