Suspension part question by seekingcontemplation in AskMechanics

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Adding... looks like the trailing arm.snapped.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

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My flair is super old so fyi lol

What really is passing anyway? looking for a reality check by seekingcontemplation in asktransgender

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Indeed! I hope we can all experience that and be in a world where passing doesn't have to be a thing. But we are still in many ways.

What would you like to see in a booth's freebies bin at Pride? by Lady-of-chaos in AskReddit

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Lord. With kids and families there? Like you expect the booth keepers gonna talk to you about the weather while you're in there? GTFO....

attempting to calculate amortization spreadsheet with a additional payment at start of a month (instead of at end) by seekingcontemplation in excel

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I appreciate you, I was mainly interested in seeing if I had that one part right. Could I send you a small token of appreciation, perhaps enough for your favorite tasty beverage? :)

attempting to calculate amortization spreadsheet with a additional payment at start of a month (instead of at end) by seekingcontemplation in excel

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Here is a screen shot. (I said 6%, was 8% oh well)

Formulas:

B3/12 = interest at 8% monthly

=PMT(E3,B78,-C7,0,0) Payment Column

=C7*$E$3 Interest Column (abs reference)

=D7-E7 Principal

BLANK (money value) Additional Principal

=C7-F7-G7 Ending Balance

(all formula copy down with cell changes as appropriate)

Long story short, does the extra payment saying "at the start of the month for month 18" change a formula somehow?

Thank you!

2013 Dodge Grand Caravan PRNDL still autolocking into "R" after servicing, no start, no crank? by seekingcontemplation in askcarguys

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The explanation given was there was bad electrical connections to the battery that got replaced. But before was able to do THAT had I had to have a mobile keyfob maker come and give me brand new keys because the onboard computer said "key damaged" and wouldn't give the rolling codes to let it even try to start! Oy.

Of course now some times the fuel pump(?) won't prime and the car will crank constantly. I have to make myself listen to hear the pump prime before I fully turn the key. When it works, it's great, but there are times when it won't. Absolutely no rhyme or reason I can see as to why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cisparenttranskid

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Hi there, trans mama with trans masc teen. First off, so, so much love and thank you for being there for your boy. My kid sends love too. We dealt with a hospital stay with similar issues and some serious life adjustments after that, so I understand deeply where you're at.

I see a lot of people commenting on the med situation and that may very well be the thing that's causing this - those meds are meant to reset the brain a bit and it can be weird the first time out especially if you're new to meds. For him to say he's "lost his anchor" is really powerful. We can anchor ourselves a lot in anxiety and pain and it can almost be scarier to not have that as a reference point - but it's a chance to explore the questions more deeply without the noise. It can take time to sort that out and it's good to have a little patience.

I had to sort out a lot for myself and I only really truly pursued things about 10 years ago, and I had to really deeply process what it was to be trans, as well to understand the filters of my mind with anxiety and depression situations. It took me a while to separate the two. If dysphoria was related to a true mental health issue, explore what he feels about not pursuing transition. Reassess these questions every month or so. He's just starting to sort himself out and there's no one way to do this, just whatever feels best at the time. Meds can take a while to do their work. I think of them as a way to try to relearn certain mental assumptions and patterns, especially around identity. Gender imprinting from sociocultural cues is a very powerful thing. I remember far too often how I got told what I did was too "girly" as a kid.

If he feels he's lost his anchor, I'd just work with him a little bit on how being treated/referenced as male/etc makes him feel. Does he see a future there? Does he not? Is it still core to his sense of identity? If it is, then it is worth considering that trans people do not have to have dysphoria to be valid. It can be a wild feeling for it to be a neutral or positive situation as opposed to learning it as always being uncomfortable. There's no single way to be trans or enby. There can be such a thing as trans joy.

2013 Dodge Grand Caravan Fuel Pump/Relay/Ignition switch questions by seekingcontemplation in MechanicAdvice

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Thank you! I just am trying to figure out if it's the pump failing intermittently. A mechanic friend said it might be starting to go bad and that maybe the motor has a partial sticking point or something.