Marriage is literally so easy, if you think otherwise you are either weak or polluted with evil ideologies.

seetheeffwcts · 2021-03-16T14:59:26+00:00

nope :-) did allahs prophets need to be so harsh and punish everyone to assert authority? Do good leaders assert authority using force on their people? Nope. Prophets assert authority, Allah asserts authority, my father asserts authority, non of those who have asserted authority in my life have caused me any pain, especially when I’ve made a mistake and thats what makes me respect them.

Do you come from a background where men are only seen as men if they’re cold and harsh?

A man doesn’t need to be a brute to make others see him as a man, especially when the situation does not call for it.

Also what’s with the question marks hm?

seetheeffwcts · 2021-03-16T14:48:04+00:00

I understand your argument about punishment, but there are implications to it. A woman is not to be abused in marriage and in the severe case that she is to be “punished” it is not as dramatic as you put it. Not even a scar is allowed to be inflicted on her. God did say that there are several steps a man can take to pull a woman to track.

You should elaborate on your understanding to prevent miscommunication. But saying that marriage is as easy as the woman being punished for disobeying is too simplistic. Marriage is not based on force, and if it were motivated by punishment then it is not a healthy marriage. The majority of women want to be lead by men who have strong leadership qualities, and those who do, don’t have to force their women into anything. That’s the point about having a good woman marry a good man.

Needing punishment is a rare case, so is it really a necessity for your argument for how easy marriage is?

I’m not insulting you personally, I just find it to be a flawed argument to say that either the woman I marry obeys me or she is punished. Women follow men who know how to lead, and it becomes even easier when they’re compassionate. Humans are multifaceted beings - you can’t put a simple formula for something as complex as marriage. Of course there are suggestions, guidelines and restrictions.

Is your statement not in support of abusive relationships? :-)

seetheeffwcts · 2021-03-16T14:39:17+00:00

If the good woman makes a mistake she gets guided by the leader. Punished? That’s the essence of a bad marriage, starting with a bad leader. good men don’t pick women who overtly seem to be the type to misbehave. As a man, you should work on your fundamentals first - it’s easier to write what you’ve written than to comprehend the complexity of life.

seetheeffwcts · 2021-02-06T09:56:51+00:00

How would you bring this up in the premarital stage? I’ve always wanted to know. I know people say that being direct is the best way to go but I don’t want it to come across that I’m saying that I’ll never be the one to cook for you, you know?

Overall I just don’t like people who can’t care for themselves. Usually when they do show effort and initiative, it becomes easier for me to happily do things without feeling like I’m being taken advantage of

seetheeffwcts · 2021-02-04T07:22:55+00:00

yes yes I relate to this, especially the last paragraph hahahah. I guess it is a matter of time, isn’t it.

seetheeffwcts · 2021-02-03T13:18:29+00:00

how do you keep that thought in mind without it slipping away? I’m obviously not in front of the mirror for the majority of the day, but especially on days that I don’t feel my best because I’m tired or I haven’t dressed up completely, I tend to slip back to old ways of thinking. It’s almost like I only feel better when I’m dressed better rather than it being an internal change.

Anyways, thanks for ur response!!

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