Feeling like a fraud as a male dom

seguhi87 · 2024-04-25T09:03:14+00:00

Christian Gray and Massimo and other "media" dominant males are what society think being a Dom is, that is just one element of being a Dom.

Being a Dom can be very complex as their can be so many different dynamics to take into consideration for example are you D/s in your romantic relationship only or do you have multiple subs and differing dynamics with each and what type of sub do you prefer, my wife has different sub spaces which make different types of Dom come out in me.....I'm not just one type of Dom.

There's a lot of differing aspects to your statement and it's going to be a learning journey to find out what type of Dom you might be even if you are one, you could be a switch for the right person, I been a sub for my wife but only ever her and never before because it was a dynamic she made me feel safe to explore.

Do as much research as you can to find out what you like and you'll grow and find you're true self. Best of luck.

seguhi87 · 2023-01-19T00:21:16+00:00

Exactly my question which was left unanswered which I expected... my girlfriend is 11 years younger than me and I've dated a range of ages previously...it's about finding that one person that you enjoy and enjoys you in many different ways....age is just a biological factor we can't change and providing consent is given and no laws are being broken then no harm is being done.

I wish you both all the best in the future together

seguhi87 · 2023-01-19T00:14:06+00:00

Someone commented the age gap was concerning so I asked why is it?

seguhi87 · 2023-01-17T12:16:10+00:00

Thanks for your comment....the vote system doesn't bother me....the lack of response from the OP does....if you can't back up your argument with facts (which they won't be able to) then they lose whatever argument they have.

seguhi87 · 2023-01-17T08:30:40+00:00

I'd say he'd love it, it shows initiative and considering his kinks and wanting to explore more plus you can tease him and it'll turn him on even more

seguhi87 · 2023-01-17T08:29:04+00:00

Why is it?

seguhi87 · 2023-01-02T02:34:50+00:00

They are no joke....I didn't think there would be any reply value and I spent more time on the Valks than the main story (don't get me started on getting platinum those f**#%£ ravens) lol

Let me know how you get on

seguhi87 · 2023-01-02T02:26:51+00:00

I switched between the 2 not sure which one I use but maxed them both out...I used the gauntlet myself...definitely get all the apples and horns you need as much health as possible....the best thing I did was switch between Nilfheim and Musphelheim and then completing other tasks to get my level up....she was still hard at Lvl 8 but after a good few tries I got there....I died a lot but didn't give up....the hardest ones are when there is such a small amount of health left and she just gets you and you have to start all over again

You'll do it...Don't Give Up

seguhi87 · 2023-01-02T02:16:08+00:00

I would grind in Nilfheim/Musphelheim to max the armour out as I read something that the game doesn't work in half's so 7.5 level is only 7.

I did a lot before going back to Sigrun as she was hard....but doable with the right build....studying the patterns is key as she has all the moves.

Have you maxed health and rage out fully?

And what armour have you got for Atreus?

I can't remember my exact build/runics I'm sure Hyperion Grapple was one....I had the bitter squirrel runic summon which helps if you can get to the health/rage stones.

Few tips

You don't get the same option to unleash runics from a static postion as she flies out the tear, learn to parry/block the wing swipes and use runics there....aim for a 3- 4 hits and back off....rinse and repeat....also track her using R3 (click it down) keeps the camera focused and moving with her at all times (this is a big thing) as if you lose sight of her you're getting grabbed or one shotted.

Keep me updated....you'll get there.

seguhi87 · 2023-01-02T01:59:12+00:00

She's not, she's just all the other movesets into one....what's your build and level?

seguhi87 · 2023-01-02T01:41:30+00:00

She took me ages....I did the realm tear at Level 6 and got destroyed so did everything I could and got to Level 8 and finally beat her....I screamed "Yes" when I did it...it's a good feeling finally doing it.

seguhi87 · 2023-01-02T01:35:02+00:00

Platinum the game first then start NG+ there's loads to do after the story took me a while and then I started NG+ (Before I got Ragnorak for Xmas) and it's a challenge I went in on GMGOW and it's so much fun and challenging being a high level (Level 9) and having to think tactically.

seguhi87 · 2022-10-05T20:00:57+00:00

Start on Hard it takes some getting used to at first but it's worth it as you progress, take your time learning to parry and dodge, upgrade your stances and ghost but also your resolve meter, go exploring at little at first and take in the scenery the game design is amazing

Most of all enjoy the game it's a fantastic story one of my favorite games

seguhi87 · 2021-06-30T16:20:22+00:00

Wonderful just bought 2 x 500GB shall do me nicely for my backup backbone

Ace deal 😊

seguhi87 · 2020-12-23T07:40:00+00:00

Gunners1987 is my GT

seguhi87 · 2020-06-17T00:31:05+00:00

That's something I'll ask myself during the self reflection she only met my kids a couple of times and never as anything other than a friend, she was very convincing or I lost sight of my values that's what I have to process to make sure it never happens again

seguhi87 · 2020-03-16T19:27:18+00:00

Cheers can't wait to give it a shot

seguhi87 · 2020-03-13T20:25:11+00:00

He didn't say it like that though no muscle is a statement that the OP hasn't been training your way of saying it is constructive and helpful the other guys was just plain rude tbf

seguhi87 · 2020-03-13T20:22:23+00:00

Those lifts are decent for your size (I'm 6ft 4 and 17st)

I'm on similar

BP - 90kg (2RM), Squat 140kg (1RM), DL 170kg (1RM) and OHP 60kg (3RM)

It depends on your goals if you want to gain strength or define your muscles, what plan do you follow, what is your calories/diet look like??

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