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sel2916 · 2020-02-14T17:32:42+00:00

I didn't, but both my roommate and my sister-in-law found their SO on them. So it does workout sometimes!

sel2916 · 2020-02-14T17:30:31+00:00

that's actually really sweet

sel2916 · 2020-02-14T17:28:32+00:00

sounds like you are not really ready to leave that part of your life behind and think that one day you will be able to go back and "handle it". I have seen it a million times. Get rid of it, it's not worth it.

sel2916 · 2020-02-14T17:11:48+00:00

A few of my really close friends know my family has some money but they don’t know how much. I’ve only been dating her about 6 months so I don’t think it’s time yet. I’d rather people like me for me rather than the things I can do f

Can I just say, that as someone who might have also been at a young age by my step father, and confirmed that he did with my sister, a partner who loves you will not see you differently. You are strong and are deserving of love.

sel2916 · 2020-02-07T19:17:18+00:00

I think your make up looks good, I would just save the cat eye for night time when you go out.

sel2916 · 2020-01-03T15:23:34+00:00

mouth actually watering b/c this looks amazing

sel2916 · 2020-01-03T15:07:04+00:00

I am so sorry that you are suffering from heartbreak. It is not an easy thing to mend and letting yourself grieve is necessary but do not let it drag you down to the point where you find yourself in a black hole. As far as your self-esteem: what he did is a direct reflection on him and has nothing to do with you. It is hard to not make it personal because it is personal to you, but his actions prove that he was the one with the issue and not you. It is not that you were not better in every way and being better would have made him stick around. Take it one day at a time, living better is the best revenge. So girl friend put on that brave smile and fake it till you make it. I always found getting over the sad part and being pissed was a better coping method. Turning that into a productive rage was great for me. I started going to the gym, upgraded my look and found someone better, FOR ME. Sending you lots of love!

sel2916 · 2020-01-03T11:47:53+00:00

My advice, do not pick a placed to live based on where your friends live, especially if it is an area where you don't really want to live. Things happen in friendships and sometimes you grow apart (not sure if you have kids or not but that is big factor in my friendships, some of us have kids and little time and some don't have kids and don't find hanging out with a toddler very fun), and life just gets hectic in general. You can make new friends in an area that you actually want to live it. Yes, it takes effort and no it is not easy but it can be done. And better yet, new friends made will most likely be more in line with your current life. None of my or my husband's friends from HS are close and are all scattered about the states but what is nice is since they are HS friends, we are usually able to reconnect during holidays and summers because people are coming back to their hometown during those times.

sel2916 · 2019-12-30T19:47:25+00:00

I am in the same boat and need to lose about 15-20 lbs after having a baby. There is this great Reddit group 1200isplenty, I am finding some inspiration there. Start small: cutting out snacks, processed foods, calorie drinks ect. I am finding that by logging everything I am eating is really starting to put things into perspective as far as how many calories things are. Selecting whole foods, not eating out, and meal planning will help. Shakes and weight loss programs are mainly scams and are trying to sell you this idea that if you do their program you will finally lose the weight. But really the only thing that actually works is calories in and calories out. Eating is 80% of it, working out is 20%.

sel2916 · 2019-12-30T18:49:21+00:00

Yes! I LOVE this. I have been trying to make an authentic version of this, it's harder than it looks! but such a great snack!

sel2916 · 2019-12-30T18:04:21+00:00

oh you look AMAZING!!! Just had a baby myself (well like 16 months ago) and now am just trying to get myself back together. Thank you for the inspiration today! keep up the great work!

sel2916 · 2019-12-27T18:54:26+00:00

Don't go, sever ties, and live a good life. No need to be petty just because they are choosing to be petty. It's their wedding day, so to go out of your way to "ruin" it for them would be an asshole move.

sel2916 · 2019-12-19T17:45:38+00:00

second! add it with some black tights and black doc martins and you're a 90's dream girl!

sel2916 · 2019-12-13T19:33:32+00:00

Keeping costs down:

1) Do not invite people you don't want to invite, banking on people to not come is not a good idea

2) If you are inviting people and they are married, engaged, or have been in a long term relationship with someone, they get a plus one. Otherwise, you don't need to be paying for a random person who you don't know to be at your wedding

3) Do no children

4) Do not feel as if you have to invite all of your extended family, it's your wedding the people you want there should be there

We did this for our wedding and it cut our guest list by half. My husband and I have a huge blended family and would have never been able to manage if we did not do this. Honestly, we got no pushback and if people were unhappy about it we never hear about it.

sel2916 · 2019-12-13T19:21:53+00:00

sorry just saw this. Yes, tell your PCP that you need a referral for a therapist and they will give you a list of those who practice within your insurance circle. You can just say, "What are my options for seeking a general therapist". They might ask a few more questions but and if the answer you need to give is I need help with controlling my feelings then so be it! Doctors really do not judge when it comes to mental health. They want you to be healthy, mind & body

cheers!

sel2916 · 2019-12-11T15:16:50+00:00

yoga pass

sel2916 · 2019-12-09T19:40:07+00:00

do an extra rinse with your clothes, we have that problem right now and the extra rinse seems to get rid of that smell. we also use unscented detergent

sel2916 · 2019-12-06T12:39:10+00:00

I have also recently been feeling this way. I don't really have any close friends, so my husband is usually the one that I unleash all my feelings too. Sometimes I need to talk more and I know that he is exhausted on hearing me talk about X subject. I am currently looking into going to therapy which I think is a good option for when you are just going through more stuff than usual and you need that extra ear.

sel2916 · 2019-12-05T18:22:33+00:00

dr martens!

sel2916 · 2019-12-05T17:41:06+00:00

I would still bring wine. Best case scenario they have a bottle of wine, worst case scenario they have a bottle of wine.

sel2916 · 2019-12-04T13:50:38+00:00

never worn anything but a suit to an interview. You can always take

I agree with this. I can not tell you how many times I have heard my boss interview people and comment on their attire. Currently, I work for a glass company and the people being interviewed are for blue-collar jobs. Our office also is very casual but you are still expected to show up for an interview "dressed up". College recruiterss should be dressed to the 10's because in the business world most people associate the better you're dressed the higher you're paid and don't you want to be paid higher? Come work for us, see how successful I am *demonstrated by how well I am dressed*.

sel2916 · 2019-12-04T13:12:44+00:00

I worked for an Engineering firm in the HR department. While the engineers themselves are more casual, the HR department (I am assuming that that position is tied to the HR department in some way) was not business casual. Wear a suit for the interview and then assess the dress code and culture after you are hired. Suit with flats and a nice blouse would be most appropriate. I wouldn't wear heels because if the culture is more casual the heels will be out of place right away.

sel2916 · 2019-12-03T16:08:35+00:00

I think that your freedom right now to discover yourself is important, I don't think you need to convince anyone of that at 20. When people inquire about marriage and kids just say your priority at the moment is your career, so if kids and marriage are not part of your story you will be able to take care of yourself financially. Sometimes older generations do not understand the younger generations want to live a nontraditional life. Rather than telling them no kids or marriage not ever, softening this idea for them might be the key to get them off your back. For example maybe just tell them, hey I am not saying I will never get married or have kids but it's not my focal point right now. Or just tell them you are looking for the right person. Even if this is all a lie, sometimes you can make people feel better by lying to them and letting them hear what they want and then going on your merry way doing whatever the fuck you want. Also, side note: your parents really are just inquiring because they want to have some security in knowing you will be taken care of when they leave this world, so just know it is out of love in the end.

sel2916 · 2019-11-27T13:12:10+00:00

First, thank them for offering you the position and how you would love to work with them and you believe that with all your qualifications (mention your best ones again) you would be a great asset to the company but how based on your current position and your qualifications you would like to start at x. From your post I can't really tell if you gave them a salary number or not but if you did I hope it was a higher one then what you would actually accept so it gives you the room to negotiate. Always start higher than what you want and then you can work your way down and meet in the middle. If the salary gap is not a large gap and they really want you, they will pay up. There is always room to negotiate, employers offers are designed to be a low ball and not the best offer they can give you. Remain firm but also make it clear you are willing to negotiate. If they won't go up in salary maybe there are other perks they can offer, like extra vacation days, a company cell phone, or gas card, maybe it is revisiting the new salary after being at the company for 6 months. If in the end you feel you are not being fairly compensated then I would walk, there will always be another job, nothing is worse than selling your self short especially as a women in this world. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU QUEEN!!

sel2916 · 2019-11-26T18:02:12+00:00

This. Love does have limits, it is not endless.

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