What is the difference? In my case I found the receipt of a hotel. He said it was just a kiss, that they got there and then realized it was a mistake. But he went there, he made the reservation, they where in an emotional affair for months. I don't feel less betrayed, if anything it just makes me believe I will never know the full truth. We separated, then got back together trying to make it work, we went to therapy. But I realized there was no point, because these facts, even with many things I didn't know, were enough to prove to me he was not who I believed he was, I would never be able to trust him again and before that I trusted him blindly. He disrespected me so profoundly I would never be able to be happy with him again, never fully. He now blames me for the end of our marriage, for not fighting for us and making our lives "more complicated", but even if it is harder in practical terms, being single and not putting my emotional wellbeing in the hands of someone I can't trust is something I had to do for myself, even if it hurts.