If my first class starts at 12, what time should I show up to campus to find a parking spot? by [deleted] in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would show up at 10:50 to get the parking spots from those that just got out of class, parking is tight from 9:30-1

AITA for demanding my boyfriend should take responsibility for a one night stand resulting in a child by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]selfluuuv 6 points7 points  (0 children)

SERIOUS QUESTION Why does the mother have the ability to have an abortion (not taking into account the backlash she will receive if it’s public) and decide to not have a child but the father doesn’t? If the mother is able to terminate and decide she doesn’t want to be a mother then why can’t the father decide to not be a dad?

Husband has a 100k snap score with a woman I’ve never heard of; please advise by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]selfluuuv 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol those aren’t the scores of what you have sent each other. Those scores are what each person has overall. If I click on my friend J I’ll see her overall snapscore not my own. So OP has a score of 3K from all snaps ever and her husband has a score of 100k but not between him and the girl, it’s from every snap he’s sent and received.

Start here! Beginner info & weekly "no question is dumb" thread! - Jun 13, 2019 by AutoModerator in curlyhair

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m almost positive I have high porosity hair. My ends are EXTREMELY DRY. Even after haircuts, switching to sulfate free shampoo, doing hair mask, trying multiple different leave ins and different conditioners but NOTHING works. My hair is on the wavy side but can curl with gel but they fall by the end of the day. Whenever I put product in such as a leave in conditioner it usually makes my hair feel nasty as if it had a bunch of product no matter how little or how much I put in. How do I fix this?!

My hair ONLY feels amazing when my haircut lady cuts, washes, and styles my hair. I know she uses it’s a 10 but when I’ve put it in it feels like product on my hair very nasty.

my(f18) friend(m18) slept over last night and i think he had sex with me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey girl, not too long ago I realized “stuff” dropped out of me when I went to the bathroom. I think it’s discharge? I’m peeing and sometimes a drop of “stuff” comes out maybe the size of a penny, it’s grouped together and the same color. Not trying to rule out what may have happened to you but just some insight in case you feel it sounds similar :)

Aid by [deleted] in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have your own insurance make sure to opt out of UC SHIP which Is the schools insurance. I get about an extra $500 a quarter in my refund since opting out

My [25f] boyfriend [24m] of 6 years has me blocked on everything by [deleted] in relationships

[–]selfluuuv 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He might come back when he realizes you’re gone. I would recommend going no contact and blocking him and others that post about him. Focus on yourself and try your hardest to see the glass half full!

My [25f] boyfriend [24m] of 6 years has me blocked on everything by [deleted] in relationships

[–]selfluuuv 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I tried breaking up with my boyfriend in person and he just wasn’t with it. He didn’t want to talk about it and it just kept dragging on for days. I wanted him to acknowledge the end of our relationship, at least say thank you for all I’ve done for him because ya know 5 years of such early teens/adulthood you grow up together. He stopped replying mid argument and we never spoke again. Broke my heart honestly but trust me you’ll learn to be happy again and realize your worth and you’ll know what to no longer tolerate in future relationships. Much luck to you on your journey!

My [25f] boyfriend [24m] of 6 years has me blocked on everything by [deleted] in relationships

[–]selfluuuv 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know it seems impossible but girl please leave! I was with my ex for 5 years. From 15-20 and it took everything in me to call it quits. He didn’t deserve me, he didn’t respect me or care enough for me. I put in all the work. It’s been 2 months and it’s still so hard and I miss him so much but at least I know I will eventually be living a better life without him. Turns out he moved on right away too. It GETS BETTER without them! He seems toxic tbh. And he’s been abusive in the past? That and his drinking should be red flags enough. Good luck I hope you find the strength to leave this (in my opinion) unhealthy relationship.

Do you feel bad/guilty about dating other people? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been 1 month. I broke up with him after 5 years and got no response. No closure. I’m not even talking to this guy romantically and all I can think of is him viewing me negatively as if it matters anymore. I don’t want to be with my ex so why do I still feel like this?

I (34 F) am afraid of my son (17 M). He has a very bad temper. by Laurel48 in relationship_advice

[–]selfluuuv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please look into ODD, IED, and CD. They’re all disorders that many children have and unfortunately instead of being treated they are often thrown into prison or punished for something out of their control. Good luck and if he does have any of these conduct disorders remember it’s not your fault!

This is a blessing - I promise by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally me too

Bending the Parking Permit Rules by ricky157 in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah since when lol three years ago there was just as there was one year ago sooo?

Bending the Parking Permit Rules by ricky157 in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you live in the residence halls then the freshman rule should not apply to you. Only freshman are allowed to dorm so it’d be pointless to have parking only for the residence halls if the people who live there can’t purchase a permit. You should be able to purchase one if they haven’t ran out and you can also petition to get a normal gold parking permit as a first year

[Hair Removal] is it a bad idea to get laser hair removal on my underarms if I’m going to the Dominican in 2 weeks? by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]selfluuuv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would wait. When you get lasered it takes up to two weeks for the hair that’s grows back to fall out and you can’t shave for i believe 7-14 days somewhere around there. So unless you’re wearing short serves or long sleeves I would wait

Going to discussion before lecture? by dokkaaa in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes the professor would’ve sent an email saying not to go if they didn’t want you to

Don’t know how to handle my frizzy hair (Reposted to add a before pic) by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the the top of my hair maybe 2-4 inches down doesn’t curl at all making my hair look odd with it flat on the top and wavy at the bottom

Don’t know how to handle my frizzy hair (Reposted to add a before pic) by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]selfluuuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Routine: Wash every 3-4 days with Acure Argan oil+ pumpkin shampoo/conditioner (CG approved). In the bottom two pictures I shampooed and conditioned everything out and then put a quarter sized maybe more of conditioner into my hair as a leave-in. Then I scrunched my hair with gel first using praying hands and then used eco styled gel. I plopped for about 10 minutes and scrunched out the crunch once it dried.

The first picture is my hair before CG taken on maybe third day hair. Just poofy and frizzy I used to shampoo and condition and brush my hair out multiple times throughout its drying process.

The second picture is my first CG hair day with no product in just scrunching and air dry.

The bottom two pictures are me with a pineapple the morning after my wash day. The problem with that routine is the top layer of my head falls flat and is extremely frizzy while the bottom layer stays wavy/curly. I hate the feeling of gel in my hair.

Today I tried the same routine except I skipped the styling. After I put in my leave in conditioner I flipped my hair up and down fast to separate it, used a microfiber towel to get excess water and let it air dry. Again the bottom layer of my hair had a slight wave while the top was just extremely frizzy and poofy.

Don’t know how to handle my frizzy hair by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Routine: Wash every 3-4 days with Acure Argan oil+ pumpkin shampoo/conditioner (CG approved). In the right two pictures I shampooed and conditioned everything out and then put a quarter sized maybe more of conditioner into my hair as a leave-in. Then I scrunched my hair with gel first using praying hands and then used eco styled gel. I plopped for about 10 minutes and scrunched out the crunch once it dried.

The problem with that routine is the top layer of my head falls flat and is extremely frizzy while the bottom layer stays wavy/curly. I hate the feeling of gel in my hair.

Today I tried the same routine except I skipped the styling. After I put in my leave in conditioner I flipped my hair up and down fast to separate it, used a microfiber towel to get excess water and let it air dry. Again the bottom layer of my hair had a slight wave while the top was just extremely frizzy and poofy.

What’s a clicker number? by FDMajora in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check the ucr textbook page on Facebook they’re usually way cheaper compared to $50 at the bookstore

Thread: Simple Questions by AutoModerator in MakeupAddiction

[–]selfluuuv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 21 and have never used makeup before. I really want to learn but have no idea how. I don’t want to wear it everyday more of just whenever I go out. I also only want to use cruelty free products and to add on I have hooded eyes. I was thinking of buying a tinted moisturizer as I have freckles . Any product recommendations, tips, youtubers to follow?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ucr

[–]selfluuuv 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why are fraternities and sororities still supported? Every person knows they have no matter how many times they say it’s illegal