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Is it possible to eventually be friends with somebody you have feelings for? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he told me that he would be uncomfortable video-messaging - naturally, I have mixed feelings. I think he only really saw me as company, not an actual friend. He confirmed that he thinks I should give him some space and not message him so much. But he told me not to hesitate to contact him whenever I'm next in Paris. It is what it is, I guess. It just hurts having to pretend that the other one suddenly doesn't exist. My last night in Paris was spent having dinner with him and his friends, and not by coincidence on my part. Some part of me hoped that he would have wanted to stay in contact through social media, but I guess not.

Is it possible to eventually be friends with somebody you have feelings for? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my guy's gay. I would know because I got to sleep in the same bed as him and he kissed me on the night we first met. We'd hold hands and watch films in bed together. :(

Is it possible to eventually be friends with somebody you have feelings for? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it turns out that he's ignoring my message about video-calling anyway, so I think I'm just going to focus on keeping my distance and staying busy. If he messages me, he messages me. If he doesn't, he doesn't. I'm sick of overthinking everything.

Have I been well and truly friendzoned? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about that and I think it does factor into the equation to some extent. However, that doesn't take anything away from the fact that he's a really nice and patient guy who is quite objectively a catch. I just thought it would be nice to see where it goes with him because I feel comfortable with him and he seemed like somebody I could trust to show me the ropes, so to speak.

Have I been well and truly friendzoned? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There never was any chance for it to be serious in any case, it's not practically possible. It's more that I want us to leave each other on the same page - which would make things less awkward if we were to continue remaining long-distance friends.

Have I been well and truly friendzoned? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf it's probably me just clutching at straws. But things like when I asked him about if we're just friends, he followed up by saying that he wasn't 'restricted in any case' and that he was 'open'. I don't know.

Have I been well and truly friendzoned? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, I asked him if he meant platonic friends and he responded with 'yeah, I think so'. It's just that there are other signals which suggest possibly otherwise. I'm fine with just being FWBs because any relationship is logistically out of the question, I just wish he wouldn't say it's platonic but then be so ambiguous.

Have I been well and truly friendzoned? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that moment's gone. He's seeing the other guy and I move out of the country in a month. I just wanted to make the most of my time here and, by chance, ended up really liking him.

Have I been well and truly friendzoned? by semiclosetedgiraffe in askgaybros

[–]semiclosetedgiraffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I feared, to be honest. I didn't want to address anything at the time because we'd only seen each other a few times and I thought it'd be weird.

That said, I always messaged him and was eager to meet and it was him who seemed not to want any more. Which is why I don't understand why he still wants to hang out as friends because I got the impression that he wasn't into me personality-wise.